Getting Revenge (need advice)

[NewDon]

Hey guys

This is my first post here, here's the situation:

This guy who i thought was my friend (he's a total AFC) stole my girlfriend (who's a total Attention Wh0re). Now, i'm not bitter about the breakup, she was an AW, i treated her pretty poorly and i was looking to breakup with her anyway (but i have to admit the sex was GOOD!!). Anyway, what I'm pissed about, is that this guy stole her from me - knowing that me and her were together and supposedly claiming to be my friend. I even confronted him about it, before he and her hooked up... i told him that me and her were together and that he should back-off... he said he would (he pretty much lied to my face).

it's been about a month and he's totally in love with her already... completely AFC. i haven't spoken to her since we broke up, and i've moved on - new women, more gym time etc etc - but i'm still pissed at this 'friend' of mine.

i wanna get revenge on this guy. 1) for lying to me. 2) for stealing my booty ho by being 'nice' to her 3) for breaking the cardinal rule of bro's before ho's.

now, i was planning on getting revenge on him by hooking back up with her (the AW/ my ex/ the girl i've been talking about in this post). i really don't wanna go near her slutty ass ***** again, but i really wanna get back at this guy... lol.

here's where i need some advice... how would you guys go about trying to hook up with with this girl/ex/AW? (please keep in mind, i don't wanna hook up with her because i 'love' her or some ****... i just wanna do it to give this guy a taste of his own medicine).

cheers.

 

[Vypros]

Do you want to get the best revenge you could possibly get? Do you want to strike a needle to their heart and hit them where it really hurts?

Then I suggest one technique that's garaunteed to get them good:

LIVE WELL.

The best revenge is living well. The fact that you can go on living without getting bent out of shape, and not only go on living, but live BETTER without them, will really get to them.

Why? Because it's a pride issue. They WANT you to get bent out of shape and hurt because they are gone from your life. But when you actually IMPROVE the quality of your life when they are gone, it hits them at their core: THEIR PRIDE.

Forget about them and better yourself.

 

[Jariel]

I second Vypros wholeheartedly.

 

[b's nuts]

let it go man, the more you concentrate on that type of stuff the more negative everything around you will be. stay positive. stay focused. and give thanx.

i had a (fake) friend hook up with my X - i blew her off and never said ish to him about it (new girls, more cash being single, more fun) - all that did was make him scared as hell of me. I actually ended up banging the girl he was trying to get at later down the road, and then one of my good friends hooked up with his x-girlfriend that he loved so much was going to kill himself over when she left him - yeah one of those guys) Saw him in the bar like a month ago and he looked like he was going to cry - he left - and everyone said because he thought i was going to fvck him up. on the contrary I was just having a good time, if anything be mad at the girl unless he raped her (her choice to, not all him and i think way to many dudes fail to see this point, most dudes will bang anything with a pulse if she's willing to spread 'em - its her choice to put out).

 

[reset]

This is funny. Not as extreme as your case, but I was just thinking of a situation I was in about a year ago with a dude I worked with. Same thing, attention ***** who I was "with" (you're not with an attention ***** too long), and this dude who I thought was a work friend became insanely jealous and started putting me down in front of her, acted like a dumb****, totally not cool. He didn't know we were involved officially but I'm sure he knew what was up.

Anyhow, a few days ago a bunch of us were at lunch, (she's long since gone), and he was telling a few stories about her during that period, and they weren't true. He made it sound like she was coming on to him, when in reality, he was such an AFC he was being used in order to make me jealous. I could have said, "actually, that's not the way I remember it..." which would confirm to him that yeah, we really WERE "involved".

But I didn't. What's the point? The guy needs to prove to people that girls like him or whatever, which they don't. I had this girl for a while. I kept my mouth shut. He can think whatever he wants. I know what really happened.

AFC's and attention *****s are made for each other. Maybe this guy did you a favor by removing you from an unhealthy relationship, and also showing you that you deserve better from your friendships.

I've had a couple opportunities to get with a friend's girl. Never done it. Never will. Some things, you just don't do. You seem to understand that, your former friend, does not. This dude at work, we're still friendly, but no way will I ever trust him or consider him an actual buddy of mine again.

I think you're better off without either of them. Let it go.

 

[Vypros]

Anyhow, a few days ago a bunch of us were at lunch, (she's long since gone), and he was telling a few stories about her during that period, and they weren't true. He made it sound like she was coming on to him, when in reality, he was such an AFC he was being used in order to make me jealous. I could have said, "actually, that's not the way I remember it..." which would confirm to him that yeah, we really WERE "involved".

The funny thing is, you have no idea whether or not this was actually true. That's what I find funny about your whole story.

You've created this "reality" to make yourself feel better about some dude that tried to steal your girl, when the reality is, he probably wasn't an "AFC".

The point I am making is that it obviously still bothers you just judging by the way you typed it out. Get over it, and move on. You'll know you're over it when you don't feel a need to make this guy out to look like an idiot. People do a fine job of that all by themselves.

 

[reset]

Bro, you have no idea what you're talking about here. I was there and saw everything that happened, while it happened.

I posted in order to help this dude see that getting pissed off and trying to seek revenge makes you feel bad, which seemed to be what you were saying.

Don't analyze people and situations you don't know my man.

 

[Vypros]

Bro, you have no idea what you're talking about here. I was there and saw everything that happened, while it happened.

I posted in order to help this dude see that getting pissed off and trying to seek revenge makes you feel bad, which seemed to be what you were saying.

Don't analyze people and situations you don't know my man.

Eh, I'm not trying to divert the thread, but you really don't know what she did unless you SAW her. That's all I was saying.

 

[reset]

I did see her. This was at work/ in the same room.

This dude got absolutely no attention from her while we were "seeing" each other. I got tired of her BS games, and broke it off with her.

And like a scorned AW, she started paying this guy a lot of attention, building him up, knocking him down, over and over, over a period of a few months. Only when I was in the room. The thing that bothered me about it, was that he thought he had "won" her, when in reality, she was doing anything she could to stick it to me. Even though she was paying him attention (when I was around) every time he got close to her I could see her recoil in horror.

As far as AFC goes, what I've learned is: being the puppy dog of every girl you know, constantly hanging around them, calling them, giving them gifts, allowing them to treat you like **** and then aplogizing for their actions, etc. That's what this dude was/is. I learned a lot about AFC by simply observing his actions. Needy and clingy.

But that's just a different topic. The point was, before this happened, I thought the two of us were buddies, but I could see how everytime a girl I was getting interest from was in the picture, all of the sudden it was him against me, when I was just trying to chill. We could go from having a fun conversation to him throwing little jabs at me, trying to puff himself up like there was a battle going on. After a while I just said, "screw it--this guy's only a friend until a girl comes along."

That's not the type of friend I think any of us want.

 

[limerick]

Just fcuking find other girls. You're a fag for being like this over a girl you don't even want to fcuk anymore. Judging from this thread you're far from a pua.

 

[Obsidian]

The most profitable revenge is probably just to stop being friends with the guy. If he's really a chump then he stands more to lose by not being friends than you do.

Likewise, if he's really a chump, it probably wouldn't be that hard to steal the girl back after a month or two. But as you said, is it really worth it to get involved with that girl again for any reason?

If you can get the girl to make out with you (preferably with a witness) and then blow her off shortly thereafter, that would make her look bad and also show the chump who's the man. I probably wouldn't bother actually sexing her anymore, tho.

 

[Sexual]

I agree with some of the other replies. You really shouldn't care unless she was your wife or some ****. Even then, you can't be too upset because you're a man, and there's MILLIONS of women that want your ****.

I had the same thing happen to me in high school, though. I saw the guy at a party with her and hit him so hard he fawked up the front of a benz when he landed on it. That was shortly after we had been wrestling and it had made my torn PCL from football that much worse of an injury. Which goes to show you, an eye for an eye only leads to more blindness.

Would I do it again, though? Hell yes.

 

[Sexual]

Just fcuking find other girls. You're a fag for being like this over a girl you don't even want to fcuk anymore. Judging from this thread you're far from a pua.

Just for the record, this guy is a tool.

 

[Hank Rearden]

Hey guys

This is my first post here, here's the situation:

This guy who i thought was my friend (he's a total AFC) stole my girlfriend (who's a total Attention Wh0re). Now, i'm not bitter about the breakup, she was an AW, i treated her pretty poorly and i was looking to breakup with her anyway (but i have to admit the sex was GOOD!!). Anyway, what I'm pissed about, is that this guy stole her from me - knowing that me and her were together and supposedly claiming to be my friend. I even confronted him about it, before he and her hooked up... i told him that me and her were together and that he should back-off... he said he would (he pretty much lied to my face).

it's been about a month and he's totally in love with her already... completely AFC. i haven't spoken to her since we broke up, and i've moved on - new women, more gym time etc etc - but i'm still pissed at this 'friend' of mine.

i wanna get revenge on this guy. 1) for lying to me. 2) for stealing my booty ho by being 'nice' to her 3) for breaking the cardinal rule of bro's before ho's.

now, i was planning on getting revenge on him by hooking back up with her (the AW/ my ex/ the girl i've been talking about in this post). i really don't wanna go near her slutty ass ***** again, but i really wanna get back at this guy... lol.

here's where i need some advice... how would you guys go about trying to hook up with with this girl/ex/AW? (please keep in mind, i don't wanna hook up with her because i 'love' her or some ****... i just wanna do it to give this guy a taste of his own medicine).

cheers.

You must be a huge potsy AFC if you're total AFC friend stole your woman. This is super funny!

 

[limerick]

Just for the record, this guy is a tool.

... ur talking about that guy right?

 

[NewDon]

You must be a huge potsy AFC if you're total AFC friend stole your woman. This is super funny!

hank... ur a douche... end of story

for the rest of you guys, thanks. i appreciate the advice. i have to admit though, i really didn't think you guys would say walk away. i understand that when u break up with a girl or next her, that the best thing to do is walk away and live well etc etc... but does that rule apply for the guy aswell?

if a guy stole your car or your money, would u just walk away? or would u punish him for it? (and i know some of u are gonna say that a woman is not the same thing as a possession... but in this case she is...cause he knew she was with me, so as far as he's concerned, she's my property...)

 

[Howard Roark]

for the rest of you guys, thanks. i appreciate the advice. i have to admit though, i really didn't think you guys would say walk away. i understand that when u break up with a girl or next her, that the best thing to do is walk away and live well etc etc... but does that rule apply for the guy aswell?

if a guy stole your car or your money, would u just walk away? or would u punish him for it? (and i know some of u are gonna say that a woman is not the same thing as a possession... but in this case she is...cause he knew she was with me, so as far as he's concerned, she's my property...)

She isn't your property, get that out of your head first of all (you're not even married to her for god's sake!).

Secondly, do the same with the guy- just cut him out of your life, move on with your life- the time, effort, and emotion you'll invest in "getting even" can be spent in so many better ways then on people you shouldn't even want in your life. You only live once, don't waste your time on these people, use it to find and build your passion and dreams.

 

[Jay Jay]

Revenge DJ style.

There is a guy, a friend of a friend... I think he's in the community actually, he's a bit of a wannabe. I see him often use textbook CF, negs, and stuff. Good outer game, no inner.

Anyway, this night he was trying to grab a girl I was banging. One night I watched him put work on her all night and then I walked up and said, "I'm going, wanna come?" She came... and then she came!

He looked at me with hate as we left.

The next week I was at another bar. He was there too and came up and started putting work on one of the girls I was hanging with. It seemed he had this attitude of "well if you took my girl last week, I'm going to take your girl this week."

So when I took that girl home that night he looked really pissed.

The next weekend our mutual friend brings this guy to another friends party. He tells the first girl about the second girl. They were both there... I lost a good **** buddy.

Anyway... I wanted revenge.

So I started to game his female house mate with intention of shagging her in his bed.

But then I realised that as cool as that sounds that as long as you hold onto thoughts of revenge you are holding onto negative energy.

The best revenge you can have on these people is to make the best out of your life so that when they see you again the girl will regret ever letting you go and the guy will know that she was the last girl of low enough quality for him to steal.

JJ

 

[Last Man Standing]

get over it kid - hors are for everybody!!!!

 

[BlackJackal]

Cool out dude. Just drop both of them out of your life and move on. Focus your energy on you. Dont get into this petty game.