Ok, heres the deal... i went out with this girl for 4 months. She broke up with me a few weeks ago , but i would really like her back.
I have been a student of this site for over a year, and the relationship started out really good. We were both busy people, so once a week was about all we could see each other..
Well, starting in april, i became very very busy and very very stressed out. I had several martial arts tournaments, and track (including meets) just about every day. ALl the while i had a bunch of junk going on in my family, and the stress mounted.
Well, during school i was not always in the best of moods so i would somtimes ignore her to kinda prevent me taking out my bad mood upon her, or i would keep conversations terse at times. This wasnt everyday, but it did happen alot. We were still going out every weekend up until the later part of April, when all she could do was come to my martial arts tournament for a little bit that weekend. After that was prom weekend, but it seemed odd.. so during prom picnic i kinda let her do her own thing and didnt hang around her too much..
But afterwards all my tournaments were over and all my stress was gone, but she started to grow distant.. The next weekend she said she didnt have time to do anything (which was true) , so i stopped in to see her at work which made her happy, and later that night she got online and after a while of bs'n we finally acknowledged there was a major problem between us. The thing is she said "i dont want to end our relationship now, i just want to fix it" and i basically explained what was going on with me and such, and we hada nice talk. Well, i thought i had that fixed so iwas happy about that. The next week in school im my usual self, CF and everything but she seemed even more distant after she already said she wanted to fix it.
Thursday i got a call from her and she said she wanted to break up because "she wasnt feeling the same way anymore" and i basically explained that i knew i was acting liek a jackass the past month but i thought we had things fixed and it could be better.... and she was still saying "i just dont feel that way anymore" i could kinda tell she was choking up, i played it cool and everythign and didnt act like a whiny dude and i then said i understood. well..... a week went by and i talked to one of her good friends who im also good friends with and she explained to me that my old GF thought i was disinterested, acting shady and neglecting her...but the GF never acted like anything was wrong or there was a problem. So i felt bad about hurting her, and wrote her a letter explaining in detail all the stuff that was going on and how i never meant to hurt her cuz she meant alot to me (not pleading for a relationship back, but explaining that i never meant to do anythign wrong and such) well, it went good and she was happy and speaking of me in a much better light and Imed me a few times over the weekend to see what was up.... but she said "id like to keep things the way they are now"...... well, that was last week. We havent said a word in school this week, but every single time we have passed each other our eyes meet for a few seconds....... this puzzles me because if she was truly uninterested why would she make eye contact with me?
I do realize time is a healer of things and its been almost a month since we broke up, but i still want her back, and this locking eyes thing is puzzling me...
I havent made desperate attempts, or any at all to get her back... i dont really initiate any convos with her... and im already trying to pursue other girls to get her off my mind, but i am not sure what to do or think still.....
Please help fellow dj's (yes this girl was great, never did anything bad to me)
I have been a student of this site for over a year, and the relationship started out really good. We were both busy people, so once a week was about all we could see each other..
Well, starting in april, i became very very busy and very very stressed out. I had several martial arts tournaments, and track (including meets) just about every day. ALl the while i had a bunch of junk going on in my family, and the stress mounted.
Well, during school i was not always in the best of moods so i would somtimes ignore her to kinda prevent me taking out my bad mood upon her, or i would keep conversations terse at times. This wasnt everyday, but it did happen alot. We were still going out every weekend up until the later part of April, when all she could do was come to my martial arts tournament for a little bit that weekend. After that was prom weekend, but it seemed odd.. so during prom picnic i kinda let her do her own thing and didnt hang around her too much..
But afterwards all my tournaments were over and all my stress was gone, but she started to grow distant.. The next weekend she said she didnt have time to do anything (which was true) , so i stopped in to see her at work which made her happy, and later that night she got online and after a while of bs'n we finally acknowledged there was a major problem between us. The thing is she said "i dont want to end our relationship now, i just want to fix it" and i basically explained what was going on with me and such, and we hada nice talk. Well, i thought i had that fixed so iwas happy about that. The next week in school im my usual self, CF and everything but she seemed even more distant after she already said she wanted to fix it.
Thursday i got a call from her and she said she wanted to break up because "she wasnt feeling the same way anymore" and i basically explained that i knew i was acting liek a jackass the past month but i thought we had things fixed and it could be better.... and she was still saying "i just dont feel that way anymore" i could kinda tell she was choking up, i played it cool and everythign and didnt act like a whiny dude and i then said i understood. well..... a week went by and i talked to one of her good friends who im also good friends with and she explained to me that my old GF thought i was disinterested, acting shady and neglecting her...but the GF never acted like anything was wrong or there was a problem. So i felt bad about hurting her, and wrote her a letter explaining in detail all the stuff that was going on and how i never meant to hurt her cuz she meant alot to me (not pleading for a relationship back, but explaining that i never meant to do anythign wrong and such) well, it went good and she was happy and speaking of me in a much better light and Imed me a few times over the weekend to see what was up.... but she said "id like to keep things the way they are now"...... well, that was last week. We havent said a word in school this week, but every single time we have passed each other our eyes meet for a few seconds....... this puzzles me because if she was truly uninterested why would she make eye contact with me?
I do realize time is a healer of things and its been almost a month since we broke up, but i still want her back, and this locking eyes thing is puzzling me...
I havent made desperate attempts, or any at all to get her back... i dont really initiate any convos with her... and im already trying to pursue other girls to get her off my mind, but i am not sure what to do or think still.....
Please help fellow dj's (yes this girl was great, never did anything bad to me)
