Heart Break Kid
Master Don Juan
I want to share a little technique I use at the clubs that boosts my success rate by about 15%. This is for one of those nights where everyone is not so much dancing but grinding. It may not be your style but if you like dirty dancing with 9's this is the easy way.
When you first step into the club stop at the door and take a deep breath in. I like to clench my fists once or twice to pump myself up. Take a look around; note the 9's in groups. What you're looking for is a two-set or more. What happens a lot of the time in clubs is usually guys will grind with the less attractive girls in the group because the hotter ones are intimidating. Also if they're drunk enough to approach the 9's they usually go right into the group and start trying to grind her which will likely result in her friends closing up.
If you can spot a group where the other girls where only one is not dancing then you're set. She's likely feeling a little insecure no one wants to dance with her and as a DJ is is your duty to play hero. You should observe her body languages for signs that she wants to dance (looking around a bit, sticking close to her girlfriend that's dancing with a guy.) If you are unsure approach anyway. Now you dance up to her from behind.
This is the most important moment; once you get close enough she is going to look back for a split second. You need to look into her eyes and give her a smile. Nothing gigantic that shows all your teeth or so small it looks like you're staring her down, just a coy, friendly, I'm-a-little-bit-****y-smile. After this she'll back into you and then it's up to you ! The last time I did this, the other guy who was dancing with an HB8.5 (I was with HB9) gave me props over her head. I think she saw because it looked like she rolled her eyes... but she was smiling and both the girls started dancing harder. Haha
Obivously, you can get girls without this technique, and I certainly encourage you to approach an the HB no matter the obstacles, but it really helps add to your success rate if you're in an environment where you cannot talk (if you dance well it is easy to isolate.) The reason why it works is because if she is not approached she either has a boyfriend, does not feel like dancing, or has no one approaching her. It is likely the latter if she's at the club with her makeup done, etc. and you will be doing her a huge favor by approaching. I have an HB9 friend who was visiting from France with my sis and she got really bummed out no guys approached her. 9's need love too guys.
Now I will not lie, you are basically walking up to a girl you do not know and grinding so it will not be as successful as approaching, even direct approaching, but I find, for me, about 75% are receptive to this compared to 60% if I just go up to a random HB9 (I tested this out of 50 HB9's in a week.) When I started out I was roughly getting the dance 1/2 the time but it gets easier as you build confidence. I like this technique because it is easy enough to find girls who's friends are dancing with someone in a club so if you have a chance to do it, then do it. If not, approach anyway, at worst it will build your confidence and strengthen you against rejection because this is much more terrifying than approaching a girl at a cafe. Plus when you realize you are the guy who is dancing with these girls something amazing happens to your confidence.
I would not reccomend this if you have a fragile ego and think her reaction has to do with who you are as a person. There are a million reasons why she might not want to dance and there is no way she could know you when all you've done is oh so gently press your body into her. That being said, this is high risk, high reward. You should be dressed well and going to the gym which will push you success rate up even higher. Halloween is coming up so go try it ! Hope this helps you guys as much as it helped me.
PS: The only reason you could have for not doing this (as in not being an inner game issue you have) is that you think she might have a boyfriend. However do not worry. If a boyfriend does show up be a man and just say sorry, that she was hot and you did not know. Offer to buy him a drink. 99% of guys are not retarded enough to start a fight if you tell them that but stay assertive and confident, especially infront of their girls. That being said, you have nothing to lose so get out there !
When you first step into the club stop at the door and take a deep breath in. I like to clench my fists once or twice to pump myself up. Take a look around; note the 9's in groups. What you're looking for is a two-set or more. What happens a lot of the time in clubs is usually guys will grind with the less attractive girls in the group because the hotter ones are intimidating. Also if they're drunk enough to approach the 9's they usually go right into the group and start trying to grind her which will likely result in her friends closing up.
If you can spot a group where the other girls where only one is not dancing then you're set. She's likely feeling a little insecure no one wants to dance with her and as a DJ is is your duty to play hero. You should observe her body languages for signs that she wants to dance (looking around a bit, sticking close to her girlfriend that's dancing with a guy.) If you are unsure approach anyway. Now you dance up to her from behind.
This is the most important moment; once you get close enough she is going to look back for a split second. You need to look into her eyes and give her a smile. Nothing gigantic that shows all your teeth or so small it looks like you're staring her down, just a coy, friendly, I'm-a-little-bit-****y-smile. After this she'll back into you and then it's up to you ! The last time I did this, the other guy who was dancing with an HB8.5 (I was with HB9) gave me props over her head. I think she saw because it looked like she rolled her eyes... but she was smiling and both the girls started dancing harder. Haha
Obivously, you can get girls without this technique, and I certainly encourage you to approach an the HB no matter the obstacles, but it really helps add to your success rate if you're in an environment where you cannot talk (if you dance well it is easy to isolate.) The reason why it works is because if she is not approached she either has a boyfriend, does not feel like dancing, or has no one approaching her. It is likely the latter if she's at the club with her makeup done, etc. and you will be doing her a huge favor by approaching. I have an HB9 friend who was visiting from France with my sis and she got really bummed out no guys approached her. 9's need love too guys.
Now I will not lie, you are basically walking up to a girl you do not know and grinding so it will not be as successful as approaching, even direct approaching, but I find, for me, about 75% are receptive to this compared to 60% if I just go up to a random HB9 (I tested this out of 50 HB9's in a week.) When I started out I was roughly getting the dance 1/2 the time but it gets easier as you build confidence. I like this technique because it is easy enough to find girls who's friends are dancing with someone in a club so if you have a chance to do it, then do it. If not, approach anyway, at worst it will build your confidence and strengthen you against rejection because this is much more terrifying than approaching a girl at a cafe. Plus when you realize you are the guy who is dancing with these girls something amazing happens to your confidence.
I would not reccomend this if you have a fragile ego and think her reaction has to do with who you are as a person. There are a million reasons why she might not want to dance and there is no way she could know you when all you've done is oh so gently press your body into her. That being said, this is high risk, high reward. You should be dressed well and going to the gym which will push you success rate up even higher. Halloween is coming up so go try it ! Hope this helps you guys as much as it helped me.
PS: The only reason you could have for not doing this (as in not being an inner game issue you have) is that you think she might have a boyfriend. However do not worry. If a boyfriend does show up be a man and just say sorry, that she was hot and you did not know. Offer to buy him a drink. 99% of guys are not retarded enough to start a fight if you tell them that but stay assertive and confident, especially infront of their girls. That being said, you have nothing to lose so get out there !