So, I was dating an Indian ethnicity Canadian girl for about 3 months from August to late October 2013. Things were going well and I had sex with her a few weeks after meeting her and she divulged that it had been a while and she only had 2 other sex partners previously (very traditional but westernized). We continued to have regular sex and hangout all the time. Then in late October I told her about an ex- American girlfriend of mine going through some major emotional problems, threatening suicide, etc. that decided to quit her job and asked if she could stay with me (in another country) for 6 weeks. I was upfront with the Indian girl about the ex coming to stay with me but she thought I would still see her on a regular basis even while the ex was staying with me. Part of me was giving the American girl a chance to see if things would workout between us but nonetheless they didn't. Things were tumultuous the entire time the American ex was staying with me and she couldn't forgive me for X, Y and Z I did to her over the past 6 years of our off/on relationship. So, the American girl ends up moving back to the USA alone. During the time that the American girl was staying with me I didn't really contact the Indian girl very much. I told the Indian girl I would attend a Christmas choir concert of hers but didnt end up doing so.
I then ended up going to the USA for Christmas then starting to text the Indian girl a bit to see how she was. She was friendly and we met up a couple weeks after I returned from the USA in January. We started hanging out regularly again and eventually made out a ton, she let me pleasure her with my hands, she pleasured me with hers, made herself climax and let me do the same but she would not let me have sex. We've even gone on a few short trips with her and another mutual female friend. During the 1st of these trips she said she cannot trust me and she would be devastated if she opened herself up again for such pain. She told me she had to go to therapy and she cried a lot about the fact that I didn't contact her. I feel really bad in retrospect about not contacting her but the old feelings/relationship with the American girl seemed to trump wanting to contact and hangout with the Indian girl while the American girl was living with me.
I went all AFC like 2 weeks ago and wrote her a love letter telling her how much I regret not contacting her and yada yada yada, in somewhat of an act of desperation shortly after she brought up the idea of just being friends and I told her I had to think about it. About a week later I said that being friends would probably be best because I would be very busy in the next few weeks and months anyway. I started minimal contact and only respond to her texts after 3 hours or more in a very short manner, now she calls me Mr. Busy and asks when I'm free. I give her a very tight time-range for us to potentially hangout and she seems to be more attracted to me because I dont give her much of my time like I used to. I saw her yesterday for about 20 minutes at an outdoor concert and she was out with some of her friends but still pretty aloof as she has been recently. Then she asks why I'm not dancing with her and her friends since I was just dancing alone. Then some random girl who saw me at a bar weeks ago said she remembered my dance moves comes up to me complimenting on my dance moves from when she first saw me...so that was good social proof. I continue to dance alone and eye every girl passing by totally ignoring her dancing and purposely pointing myself in a direction not facing the Indian ex. She then randomly grabs my hand and runs pulling me through the crowd of people at the concert and takes me to another group of her friends. About 10 minutes later I tell her I have plans and have to go and she's like "I can't believe you have plans". At like 1 AM she texts me asking if I'm still out and I reply saying "yes, and you?" Now she wants to go on a trip for Easter break with me in a few weeks but I'm not sure whether to go or not in the current state of things. I went on a trip to another country by myself last weekend and she sent me a random article and she sends random texts. I'm really not sure what to make of all this. Do I just ignore her for 30 days and don't go on a trip with her? Do I see her and re-court her treating her as if my time is scarce since I've for a lot going on and see if she comes around again? I'm so confused as I've never been in a situation even remotely similar to this. Ideas?
I then ended up going to the USA for Christmas then starting to text the Indian girl a bit to see how she was. She was friendly and we met up a couple weeks after I returned from the USA in January. We started hanging out regularly again and eventually made out a ton, she let me pleasure her with my hands, she pleasured me with hers, made herself climax and let me do the same but she would not let me have sex. We've even gone on a few short trips with her and another mutual female friend. During the 1st of these trips she said she cannot trust me and she would be devastated if she opened herself up again for such pain. She told me she had to go to therapy and she cried a lot about the fact that I didn't contact her. I feel really bad in retrospect about not contacting her but the old feelings/relationship with the American girl seemed to trump wanting to contact and hangout with the Indian girl while the American girl was living with me.
I went all AFC like 2 weeks ago and wrote her a love letter telling her how much I regret not contacting her and yada yada yada, in somewhat of an act of desperation shortly after she brought up the idea of just being friends and I told her I had to think about it. About a week later I said that being friends would probably be best because I would be very busy in the next few weeks and months anyway. I started minimal contact and only respond to her texts after 3 hours or more in a very short manner, now she calls me Mr. Busy and asks when I'm free. I give her a very tight time-range for us to potentially hangout and she seems to be more attracted to me because I dont give her much of my time like I used to. I saw her yesterday for about 20 minutes at an outdoor concert and she was out with some of her friends but still pretty aloof as she has been recently. Then she asks why I'm not dancing with her and her friends since I was just dancing alone. Then some random girl who saw me at a bar weeks ago said she remembered my dance moves comes up to me complimenting on my dance moves from when she first saw me...so that was good social proof. I continue to dance alone and eye every girl passing by totally ignoring her dancing and purposely pointing myself in a direction not facing the Indian ex. She then randomly grabs my hand and runs pulling me through the crowd of people at the concert and takes me to another group of her friends. About 10 minutes later I tell her I have plans and have to go and she's like "I can't believe you have plans". At like 1 AM she texts me asking if I'm still out and I reply saying "yes, and you?" Now she wants to go on a trip for Easter break with me in a few weeks but I'm not sure whether to go or not in the current state of things. I went on a trip to another country by myself last weekend and she sent me a random article and she sends random texts. I'm really not sure what to make of all this. Do I just ignore her for 30 days and don't go on a trip with her? Do I see her and re-court her treating her as if my time is scarce since I've for a lot going on and see if she comes around again? I'm so confused as I've never been in a situation even remotely similar to this. Ideas?
