William Vass
Don Juan
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I broke up with my ex about 3 years ago, we went out for 1 year and had a great LTR but she became clingy near the end and I broke it off to focus on my business...
We continued to go back out, break up, go back out etc.... but now that I've dated other women I've really found that I don't have that deep of a connetion with anyone else compared to what I had with her. (yea yea one-itis)
The problem now is that she's with another guy.. but constantly tells me they aren't "really" going out and that she still has feelings for me but she loves him... (we've kept in close touch ever since we broke up)
For the last couple months I've been going out to dinner with her, giving her advice on a business she's trying to run... but I obviously want to be with her but she's content with being with this other guy while she's able to have me around and not lose me, constantly saying she can see us being together in the future and messed up stuff like that to keep me on a string.
I'm not a girlfriend stealer.. but I believe that if things are meant to be she will pick who she's happiest with.
She's been bothering me to hang out again for dinner and to chill.. but I finally put my foot down and just said "I don't think it's a good idea we hang out one on one for a while, but hopefully we can stay friends in the future"
she got upset and said she was expecting it though...
so what should I do now? I am pretty much going to just try and keep looking for the next new girl (already have another plate spinning but haven't really given her that much of a chance because I am still into my ex) and not even reply to any future text this ex sends me to show her it's not just a bluff...
We have a large group event coming up that she'll be at, I am going to go to that and just show up, be fun, not ignore her but not show her too much attention... and basically wait to see if she makes changes in her life or with that guy... while still trying to let other women in my life...
suggestions? advice?
I want the "possibility" of us getting together in the future to still be there..she says she still has feelings for me.. but if a better girl comes along while she's still with this other guy I won't pass that up...
should I go out to dinner with her in the future (like a month), or invite her out to really fun events with my group, but totally show no interest in her beyond a friend (to show that I don't accept the fact she has a bf ) is this the time to lay back and let her make a decision because she knows I'm interested.. but not when she's with another dude... and just demonstrate my higher value and fun self.. basically what she's missing out on .
We continued to go back out, break up, go back out etc.... but now that I've dated other women I've really found that I don't have that deep of a connetion with anyone else compared to what I had with her. (yea yea one-itis)
The problem now is that she's with another guy.. but constantly tells me they aren't "really" going out and that she still has feelings for me but she loves him... (we've kept in close touch ever since we broke up)
For the last couple months I've been going out to dinner with her, giving her advice on a business she's trying to run... but I obviously want to be with her but she's content with being with this other guy while she's able to have me around and not lose me, constantly saying she can see us being together in the future and messed up stuff like that to keep me on a string.
I'm not a girlfriend stealer.. but I believe that if things are meant to be she will pick who she's happiest with.
She's been bothering me to hang out again for dinner and to chill.. but I finally put my foot down and just said "I don't think it's a good idea we hang out one on one for a while, but hopefully we can stay friends in the future"
she got upset and said she was expecting it though...
so what should I do now? I am pretty much going to just try and keep looking for the next new girl (already have another plate spinning but haven't really given her that much of a chance because I am still into my ex) and not even reply to any future text this ex sends me to show her it's not just a bluff...
We have a large group event coming up that she'll be at, I am going to go to that and just show up, be fun, not ignore her but not show her too much attention... and basically wait to see if she makes changes in her life or with that guy... while still trying to let other women in my life...
suggestions? advice?
I want the "possibility" of us getting together in the future to still be there..she says she still has feelings for me.. but if a better girl comes along while she's still with this other guy I won't pass that up...
should I go out to dinner with her in the future (like a month), or invite her out to really fun events with my group, but totally show no interest in her beyond a friend (to show that I don't accept the fact she has a bf ) is this the time to lay back and let her make a decision because she knows I'm interested.. but not when she's with another dude... and just demonstrate my higher value and fun self.. basically what she's missing out on .