Getting anxious about turning 30

[SteR]

Hey guys,

Up until now I haven't really stressed too much about my age, but now I'm heading towards the big 3 0 I'm getting a little concerned about what lies ahead. To be fair, I haven't heard anything negative from guys but part of me feels that my youth is coming to an end and the future looks a little bleak.

I suppose I'm just looking for some assurance, haha. The funny thing is I just returned from a holiday where I'd never in my life received so much attention from 18~21 year old girls. I guess I'm just scared that it was my last chance to fool around with girls that age. I also seemed to be one of the older guys who was still going to bars (although there were guys in their mid 30s, although few in number) so I wonder where I'm supposed to meet younger girls over the next few years...

Any of you older guys able to comment on how things have changed after 30?

 

[Night-hawk]

Age can become a psychological burden on our identity, depending how attatched we become to it. We do face labels with age in society, and this can impose on one's sense of self. Some of us use age as momentum in achieving things in life, as well as use it for leverage.

However, did you not feel that when you were 15 that 25 was sooo old? And, once 25 you still felt youthful with more space for freedoms and abundance you didn't have at 15, or even 18?

I'm interested in hearing from guys here how their perspectives changed entering 30s. How different did you find people responded to you, and did you find your entering 30s a hindrance in the social/ sexual market place. Did you feel you needed to 'grow up' and stop having fun like you used to or did everything end up being just another societal illusion you shattered by realizing age is a symbol of your experience not a label of what or where or who you should be by then?

 

[VladPatton]

Biologically, a spoken number is nothing but a gauge of how many times you lived on earth. You think if you lie to a doctor and tell him you're 24 instead of 30 that'd he'd know? Bullshıt he will. Of course, providing you're in good health and no substance or any other addictions. Like it's been said a million times, it's just a number. Your lifestyle determines your deathstyle. As long as you take care of the cells that make up your body to the best of your ability, you have it all. Don't believe me? Visit a children's cancer hospital where 10 is an age seldom met. Or visit any hospital.

Respect your healthy body and enjoy your physical possibilities because of it, and everything else (money, women) should come second.

By the way, 40 year olds today look great compared to 30 year olds from the 70's lets say. Damn, huge difference.

 

[evan12]

Biologically, by the age of 30 you should have already offspring , which is the only thing that is matter and that is the reason of youth and why youth is so precious . if you dont care about that then the rest should be easy .
I just turned 30 too and the only thing I hate it about it is I found some white hairs in my face. except that I cant see any diffrent between now and when I was 25 , in fact I look younger and more handsume than before ,and that due to pickup artist books that I read about keeping myself in shape and care about body .
I just met some of my old friends before a while and all of them turned 30 too and surpisly I was the only one who looked more sexy , the rest is all gained weight and lost their youth, so be careful and take care of your self

 

[Jitterbug]

I just turned 30. Total non-event for how I feel about myself.

I'm better looking, stronger, fitter, way healthier than I was at 25 and at 18. Mentally, financially, socially, I'm also miles better.

If I want to pass myself off as an early 20s, I simply have to go clean shaven (although my mannerism may give the game away as a tell of someone older). Knowing my genetics, I'll remain so for many years. My 62 y.o father can still pass as an early 40sth man (as guessed by women).

One girl I'm seeing is 19. She approached me at the gym. She was dating a handsome 19 y.o of my acquaintance, but needs someone with more maturity to handle her.

Look after yourself well, build your values, and you'll have nothing to worry about.

I guess I'm just scared that it was my last chance to fool around with girls that age.

Even when you hit 70, there's always prostitution in various countries around the world. Some of my father's friends are close to that age, and they hit the brothels regularly.

 

[Kailex]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1743230#post1743230

That was over 2 years ago, and let me tell you brother... it's only gotten BETTER after 30 than it ever was before.

30 is just a number. Change your mindset, change the game.
Someone told me 30's was the new 20's and they weren't kidding. I'm reliving a lot of what I went threw in my early 20's with the "going out scene" but this time I'm armed with the knowledge I didn't have back then.

If you think your future looks bleak, that's on you and no one else.
That is the mindset of a woman at age 34, not a Don Juan at age 29. You have at least two more decades before you could even begin to think anything even remotely similar to what you posted about.

Your future is what you make of it, not what anyone tells you it might be.

 

[In2theGame]

I turned 30 4 months ago.. i feel no difference except i have more life experience. People question why i dont have kids yet or married etc.. I dont have kids yet because i havent met a woman who i want to really be with and the one i wanted to be with cheated and left for another man.. imagine if i had married her and fill the role everyone expects of me... i would be divorced and probably fighting to see my child and in debt all stressed out. Trust me if your in your 30's and you have none of that burden, atleats not yet.. relax and enjoy it. We are still young. BTW take care of yourself and keep fit because as men get older.. a lot tend to let themselves go and it will keep you looking youthful. I can pass for mid to late 20's still.

 

[Kailex]

To further his point... I'm 32, and get told I look 26-30 all the time.

I do, however, have silver streaks in my hair and my facial hair, which is why probably people guess older. But ever since I lost the majority of my weight and dressed better... people usually go for younger.

I love it... every... single... time.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Im 37 soon to be 38, I still have all my hair, not much grey, fit as fvck, however, due to the hard labor I do day in and day out, there's no escaping working your ass off; therefore, my eyes have a little sag now, my mouth a little droopier, I breathe heavier like a slug more, I drink herbal tea all the time high in antioxidants; therefore, I believe, I look younger, skin more shiny, that most men my age. I have everything I could want, but not everything that SHE (your prototypical woman/wife) would want or want me to want to have. Um, a woman is infinite WANT: therefore, infinite sucking your wallet away. I'm pretty happy to be able to save save save for the inevitable rainy day that is to come, don't know when but it's coming, and I can say, due to not having to support a woman and kids, I'm prepared for the worst to come. But money isn't everything, it doesn't necessarily bring you happiness, but it brings you less worries. I'm working to get to the point to where, if I were unemployed, it wouldn't phase me because house paid, and money/food to live on for 20 years. Could pay taxes, electricity etc for 20+ years. After that, just kill me. I don't want to be extremely old.

 

[PlayHer Man]

As long as you don't age horribly, I don't think its a big deal. From what I've seen/heard it only gives you MORE options with the ladies because of perceived maturity, experience and stability.

Lots of women date older guys because they believe younger ones are too immature. At age 25 you were limited to dating the 18-25 crowd.. many of which were dating men in their early 30's and up.

This is a big reason for sites like SoSuave and lots of anger among young men. Young men (18-25) have to compete with the ENTIRE male population for 18-25 year old women. Men of all ages date these women and the older ones with more money, resources, maturity, game and experience have an edge over the 18-25 males. :yes:

If the ladies are your concern, then there is no reason for concern.

I'll be 30 soon and I don't really give a sh!t to be honest. Just more ladies to choose from and more money in my pocket.

 

[CaliMan007]

I'm 32 and have only gotten better with age. In fact, the older I get the more exponentially better I get.

The key is taking care of yourself and always trying to better yourself and position in life. Knowledge is key.

Financially, I am miles ahead and what teenager or 20 year old can compete with me? Chicks totally dig this. I can do things that younger people cannot afford to do.

Physically, I have improved myself vastly over the years and that's all based on trial and error, learning about dieting and proper training for MY body type throughout the years. The best part is, most of my friends who are in their 30's have all let themselves go, while I am one of the very few who have gotten better with age. It is critical that you strive to always improve your physique knowing that the majority of others let themselves go. This dramatically increases your market value, and believe me, you WILL be noticed when you're lined up against other 30 year old men who are fat and out of shape. Sure, I have a few wrinkles developing but it actually makes me look way sexier!

The best part about getting older is that I have learned so much more about myself, life in general, and about other people. This in turn has led to me being more confident in myself, which is uber sexy! I don't give a sh!t about trivial crap anymore. I understand what truly matters in life and I go about getting it. When you're younger you worry about a lot of trivial meaningless sh!t, like having every hair in the perfect place or about always trying to make a perfect impression. Not anymore. I don't try to be perfect, I just focus on having a good time and that translates to less stress.

I get more attention now than ever before, and it's only getting better. I think I'm only starting to enter my prime and I really look forward to it! Embrace it man, you'll LOVE IT if you focus on improving yourself, learning, and applying what you learn!

 

[Colossus]

^What he said.

I'll be 32 this fall and dont really think much of it. Physically I do feel a bit "older" in the sense that my joints dont bounce back from the beating I give them as quickly anymore...but otherwise I'm in better shape than most guys my age, have reached a cruising point in my career, make decent money, and generally do whatever the fvck I want to do. I have no tie-downs other than my job. It's a lot of freedom. Women are not difficult to game. Trust me when most girls see a really handsome, athletic, successful guy in his 30's with NO kids and NO previous marriages, they think one thing: CHA-CHING. Not saying I'm James Bond or anything but I think for red pill aware men their 30's is when they are at their peak; physically, sexually, and socially.

PLUS, if you are almost 30 and have managed NOT to be married or divorced with kids, man you are already ahead of the game.

 

[SteR]

Well this is all good to hear. I think I'll try and find this thread 10 years later and report back how my 30s turned out to be. I think the problem is that over recent years I've noticed my success with women ascend rapidly and I've always been worried that it might stop after 30.. but I guess not.

Exciting times!

 

[Augustus_McCrae]

You're just hitting your stride at 30. All of your options are totally open. Work out, eat right and stay fit. It will pay off as you get older.

I'm 55 and have women 25 years younger hitting on me.

At 30, you're still a young man.

-Augustus-

 

[LiveFreeX]

Fvcked a 19 y/o girl pretty consistently when I was 30, she was HOT.

Then came back for more and started banging a more mature 21 y/o... then married her 3 years later. Never had more money in the bank than I do right now!

30's are a great time. You no longer need to give a sh1t about fashion, success or pop culture... maybe thats just cause I'm in China now...idk. I've been on the red pill now for about 6 or 7 years and I've never felt better about my life.

I'm enjoying life in my 30's WAAAAY more than I did with my 20's. Had to give up my 25 yearold GF when I turned 29 though (her choice). lolz. The older you get, the younger they get.

 

[SteR]

The older you get, the younger they get.

Well this is exactly what seems to be happening over recent years! I just got back from a holiday where 18-21 year old girls were all over me.. I didn't want it to end.

 

[VictorK]

My point of view is the benefits of being a successful in shape man in his early 30s does not translate well in gaming young girls online. If you want to game girls attractive 20-24 you have to do it in person where you can 'intimidate' them a little with your experience, success, etc. it's tough to convert this when you're online. Thoughts?

 

[corrector]

My point of view is the benefits of being a successful in shape man in his early 30s does not translate well in gaming young girls online. If you want to game girls attractive 20-24 you have to do it in person where you can 'intimidate' them a little with your experience, success, etc. it's tough to convert this when you're online. Thoughts?

Online dating sucks for most guys no matter what their age is because it's all a matter of looks, and who has the best looking picture.

You can ALWAYS change your age, or your height online. If you are 5'11, but 6 foot. One inch more won't kill anything. If you have a baby-face, but yourself 10 years younger. It's not like anyone is going to check your driver's license to verify your age on your first date.

Most relationships don't end up in marriage anyway and for anyone I've met online, not one girl has ever asked me to verify my age with my driver's license. Really, nobody cares about the age if it bothers that much.

I'm like 37 years old, but I've got people who believed I was 20 years old because I have a young face and can look off my age category. I may look like I'm lying if I put my actual age, lol!

 

[JaegerPilot217]

Hey guys,

Up until now I haven't really stressed too much about my age, but now I'm heading towards the big 3 0 I'm getting a little concerned about what lies ahead. To be fair, I haven't heard anything negative from guys but part of me feels that my youth is coming to an end and the future looks a little bleak.

I suppose I'm just looking for some assurance, haha. The funny thing is I just returned from a holiday where I'd never in my life received so much attention from 18~21 year old girls. I guess I'm just scared that it was my last chance to fool around with girls that age. I also seemed to be one of the older guys who was still going to bars (although there were guys in their mid 30s, although few in number) so I wonder where I'm supposed to meet younger girls over the next few years...

Any of you older guys able to comment on how things have changed after 30?

I would only be concerned with turned 30 if I hadn't fornicated an attractive woman in her late teens or early 20's yet

 

[London NATURAL]

I had similar concerns when I hit 30, bought myself expensive gifts and sh*gged everything that moved as a last hurrah.

But you live and learn. An I'd like to reiterate what's been said above, in essence at 30 you're just getting into your stride as a man. Sensible exercise, eat quality food and drink plenty of water always helps too.

I've not long turned 40 now and I'm starting to get a few white/grey hairs, an I've had nothing but positive feedback on them. Embrace the benefits of age don't let it affect you negatively.

I'm not sure on the etiquette of posting links here, but I saw this recently and found it interesting. http://therationalmale.com/2012/06/04/final-exam-navigating-the-smp/