Get this; she actually does, but she actually doesn`t?

[Vetruvius]

He guys, look at these facts and shoot; what would you do in a situation like this?

• Girl lives on the same floor; we have lots of contact, first thing in morning, last in the evening.
• We have an open relation; completely honest and open, we can tell anything to each other.
• She tells me I`m attractive guy physically and even laughs about me stupidest jokes.

Unintentionally, I fell in love so I told her I was in love with her, but I knew she really wasn’t prepared or interested. So…uhu…she really wants to stay friends, don`t wanna loose me. She always has friends telling they love her, and hates loosing them. (5th time in her live)

• So I tried to take some distance, but she couldn`t leave me alone. So we became even closer.
• I can take her on trips, both literal as figural speaking. She`s entertained and fascinated.
• She likes me for me; she told me that I`m really a wonderful guy,that I only deserve the very best
• We keep flirting, long eye contact, always smiling. (sometimes sexual remarks and fantasies)
• She tells me the most beautiful time are when 2 people want each other, but didn`t do anything yet.. Her last boyfriends always were in love first on her, and she would always fall in love later. She always got to know the guy first really well -couple of months-. So I asked what about me? She told me; We can stay friends and maybe ever it could happen, that would be even better, than we know for sure, but I don`t want to give you any hope!

Conclusion, I know I`m a catch, and I shouldn`t do so much for her as I do now. Yet I like the friendship and she`s hot. I now think that this friendship platform is actually better than a physically based relationship (usually it starts and ends like that). I know I would like to enjoy her for longer; platonic relations are fine, but they end. I know in a real relationship, I wouldn`t be a number, I would be number 1.

My problem, I can`t really escape here (I live here almost 24/7) and she told me that making her jealous would be a real turnoff. I know she wants something with somebody in the near future but I also know she doubts; she doesn`t really knows who she is looking for, but according her descriptions; the profile of me fits her dream man quite good.

Any suggestions are welcome!

 

[EFFORT]

Dont really understand your question here?

Why not just get her isolated and kiss her?

 

[Jay Jay]

Oh boy!

I have been in a situation just like yours. I managed to lay the girl but I didn't manage to hold onto her. So take my advice witha grain of salt.

It sounds like you are way too much in her reality. Everything you have said is about her. She likes this, she likes that, this is the way she is, she she she...

I would suggest deciding what you REALLY want. Do you REALLY think you could ever JUST BE FRIENDS with her? Or are you just fooling yourself and hanging in there hoping you can change her mind and make her see you as more than a friend?

If you REALLY want her as a lover then you have to accept you CANNOT be her friend. Once you have decided that then you are going to have to stop being so ****ing nice about this.

Make you relationship one that YOU want. Take control!

Read the Bible (there is a link at the bottom of the page) and game this chick!

JJ

 

[Vypros]

Bah, forget gaming this chick. She is USING you and you shouldn't tolerate that. If she had any interest in you at all SHE WOULD BE WITH YOU. I don't get why guys struggle over that concept. When a girl likes you she would drag a bobcat barefoot across the snowy tundra just to be NEAR you.

Get it into your head: SHE IS USING YOU. YOU ARE HER DOORMAT. WHY SHOULD SHE GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU WHEN YOU ARE ALREADY MEETING HER NEEDS WITHOUT THE SEX PART?

Understand. If you are content with being her lap dog, then by all means continue. If not, then I suggest you cut this girl out of your life IMMEDIATELY.

I know you like her and you think that you will get her somehow, but it NEVER works out like that. NEVER. EVER. I HAVE NEVER HEARD OF SOMEONE BEING IN A SITUATION LIKE YOURS THAT GOT THE GIRL. NEVER. NOT IN REAL LIFE ANYWAYS.

Understand? Because you might have a ghost of a chance with this girl if you back off, take a break from her for an extended period of time, and THEN if you run into her you IMMEDIATELY demand more than friendship from her. And by extended period of time, I'm talking like 6 months to a year.

 

[Vypros]

Bah, forget gaming this chick. She is USING you and you shouldn't tolerate that. If she had any interest in you at all SHE WOULD BE WITH YOU. I don't get why guys struggle over that concept. When a girl likes you she would drag a bobcat barefoot across the snowy tundra just to be NEAR you.

Get it into your head: SHE IS USING YOU. YOU ARE HER DOORMAT. WHY SHOULD SHE GET INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU WHEN YOU ARE ALREADY MEETING HER NEEDS WITHOUT THE SEX PART?

Understand. If you are content with being her lap dog, then by all means continue. If not, then I suggest you cut this girl out of your life IMMEDIATELY.

I know you like her and you think that you will get her somehow, but it NEVER works out like that. NEVER. EVER. I HAVE NEVER HEARD OF SOMEONE BEING IN A SITUATION LIKE YOURS THAT GOT THE GIRL. NEVER. NOT IN REAL LIFE ANYWAYS.

Understand? Because you might have a ghost of a chance with this girl if you back off, take a break from her for an extended period of time, and THEN if you run into her you IMMEDIATELY demand more than friendship from her. And by extended period of time, I'm talking like 6 months to a year.