Genital HPV Infection

[frustrada]

Hi i dont post here often but i would like to know what do you guys think, By GF of about 1.5 years transmitted me .....STD Facts - Human papillomavirus (HPV)...I love her and she loves me. She is my first love and i am the 10th guy she sleeps with. I am going to leave her, the burning i feel inside me is HUGE and amazing and i am feeling very depressed. I jut cant get her out of my mind. But in some way i feel that this is not fair and my dignity is in play.

Do you guys would dump your girl if she transmitted you HPV ?


thanks

 

[Energizer]

I'd do more than dump her mate, I'd be charged with murder.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Pretty much every sexually active person has, or will get HPV.

How do you know it is HPV? I am no expert on HPV, yet it doesn't sound like burning inside is a symtom of HPV. That sounds like one of the symptoms for herpes, but without breaking out and getting tested, you will not know for sure if you have contracted herpes. It might be something else she transmited to you, or most likely something else you are experiencing not sexually related.

Go find out exactly what is causing your pain. Doesn't sound like HPV. If it is HPV you got, well, welcome to the world of having a sexually active life. Genital warts are the main symptoms of HPV, so if you didn't get that, chances are you never will.

I wouldn't even worry about that or your girlfriend. There is no way of testing for HPV in men, unless you have a wart break out. For women, it gets detected during a pap smear. So it sounds like you are not sure exactly what you got that is causing you burning inside. Go to your doctor, and get help on your pain and for some peace of mind.

Brother, if it is HPV, which you probably won't know for sure, consider yourself lucky, and make sure she doesn't have any of the "serious" STD's, then, bang away, with a condom.

 

[frustrada]

Thanks but I was refering to the pain or leaving her,for what she has done to me in case i hve it,she is mad at me because i told my mother about it,and told me that i am a coward and that "i not going to die because of that virus"

so I don't know whether to leave her or not,since I know she loves me and I love her

thanks

 

[Leporello]

Isn't HPV only dangerous for women? Plus there's a vaccine for it now.

 

[radiodude]

Hi i dont post here often but i would like to know what do you guys think, By GF of about 1.5 years transmitted me .....STD Facts - Human papillomavirus (HPV)...I love her and she loves me. She is my first love and i am the 10th guy she sleeps with. I am going to leave her, the burning i feel inside me is HUGE and amazing and i am feeling very depressed. I jut cant get her out of my mind. But in some way i feel that this is not fair and my dignity is in play.

Do you guys would dump your girl if she transmitted you HPV ?


thanks

I imagine you mean burning as in 'emotional pain'?

Pretty much every sexually active person has, or will get HPV.

No, not every active person gets HPV. It's not THAT common and you'd have to be unprotected to have a good chance.

HPV is known to cause cervical cancer in women. In men, don't know for sure. It could cause some other unseen side effect. I don't know that men can know if they have it unless they get tested. But there could be other symptoms.

 

[amoka]

You told your mother about it? Common. HPV is treatable with simple tablets ( I forgot the name of the tablet but you'd need a prescription to get it anyway-- so yes, you need to see a doctor). My ex gave went for her regular checkup one day and she found out that she has the virus. She thought I was the one that gave it to her and I told her NAH. I never had sex with anyone else except her so she blamed it on her ex (yeah, that was about 1.5 years into our relationship). To be sure I don't have it, I went for a checkup and loo and behold, the result came out NEGATIVE (I do not have the virus.) I knew long time ago that this girl was up to something and this just confirmed my suspicions. Anyway, I'm glad we are no longer together.

Anyway, the question of whether to damp her or not should not be solely based on this event alone. In any case, go get yourself TESTED QUICK.

 

[Julian]

. I am going to leave her, the burning i feel inside me is HUGE and amazing and i am feeling very depressed.

that burning feeling means the HPV is working

 

[scrouds]

...HPV is estimated to be the most common sexually transmitted infection in the United States.[8] Most sexually active men and women will probably acquire genital HPV infection at some point in their lives.[9] The American Social Health Association reported estimates that about 75-80% of sexually active Americans will be infected with HPV at some point in their lifetime.[10][11] By the age of 50 more than 80% of American women will have contracted at least one strain of genital HPV.[12][13][14]

It was estimated that in the year 2000, there were approximately 6.2 million new HPV infections among Americans aged 15–44; of these, an estimated 74% occurred to people between ages 15–24.[15] Of the STDs studied, genital HPV was the most commonly acquired.[15]...

...There is currently no cure or treatment for HPV infection.[65][72] However, the viral infection more often than not does clear by itself.[73] Experts do not agree on whether the virus is completely eliminated or reduced to undetectable levels, and it is difficult to know if one is contagious.[74]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/HPV

 

[women haze]

I had HPV before very painful and embarrassing procedure to get fixed. I was on some pills and I had to go to the Clinic every month to get the warts frozen off my ****. It was a very nasty experience. I had given it to my ex, you know if you have the virus becaus eof teh itching sensation you feel...I think I was given it from some nasty chick I used to mess with back in the day. My pity sex partner..........

Basically moral of the story here is.....Protect yourself my brothers

 

[frustrada]

Thanks a lot for the help...guys

well basically what i most mad about is not the HPV itself, is the way she looks at it....She got some abnormal cells in the uterus maybe cause by HPV, thats fine. She cried a lot about the issue that i was going to leave her or not, I told her NOT BUT how can you have a normal relationship with someone with HPV. I mean I waited my whole life for a sexual parter, i am 24 years old, she is the one i lost my virginity to i thought she was the one for me, I went to bed just 3 weeks after meeting her, 1.3 years have past now. Before our first sexual encounter she told me she had two boyfriends, I said it was ok, Then after getting into the relationship i found out the had slept with 11 men before me, i accepted it and respected it, no big deal.BUT what i never expeted from my girl was a DISEASE i mean , that is important to me and to myself and my family, i protect myself i dont want cancer or any other crap to linger my or my woman's body. She says she never knew about it. that she had previuosly gone to the doctor to get tested and evrerything was ok. SHE IS F**** HOT, and that is the most horrible part, I LOVE A HOT GIRL WITH good personality and good love towards me. BUT the following things freaked me out like hell

1)I couldnt believe when she told me, I didnt know what to do i felt my world was falling apart so i told my mother for advice, guess what !! she said, "IF you continue to be with a girl like that forget about me i gave my whole life to you to protect you and raise you, and now you tell me that you are going to be with a girl that has a virus lingering inside her body???" "how can you make love to someone who can give you disease? "

OK OK any mother, father or friend will tell you that...BUTTTT

2) After crying, going to the doctor, etc, she expected me to keep on being the same guy, to go to bed with her and stayed at her home like nothing had happened, So my last conversation was the MOST HORRIBLE thing that has ever happened to me in my whole life, I SAID THAT I HAD MADE I MISTAKE telling my familly about it and that they didnt want me to be with her....YES very childish, absolutily, BUT when i asked her for time to think a few days she said....

GO with your family i dont want to see you....you are not going to die because of this... You are a child !!!...You want time for WHAT ??? your family doesnt want me, what do you expect me to do?... Dont you see that all our problems started because of your familily??? ( this was the most amazing thing ever...MY FAMILY i invited her to a trip with me to the beach, THEN i told her that if we go with my sister we could save some money and use my parents house, she said ok and then BAck out because she didnt want my sister to go)

.....I mean YES i behaved like a child BUT this is not a little thing this is a DESEASE....

Today she said i was a coward, i reply : cowards are the ones who dont give time when is need, cowards are the one who dont know that they have until they have lost it( several times she fought with me because she said that my familiy was in betwen ( WHEN MY PARENTS LIVE IN ANOTHER COUNTRY AND I LIVE WITH MY SISTER) , cowards are the one who doesnt treat you as the others treat you ( she once told me go with your sister, to play videogames or whatever excuse fits you the best...when i said that i was not going to eat with her because my sister asked me to eat with her)


she replied...that cowards are the ones who ran away from any little inconvenience ( a disease) ...
that i dint know how to take desicions on my own, and that for wanting everything i was not going to get anything, that i will see it soon.

GUYS the thing is I AM DEVASTATED, i Have lost my girl, maybe got a disease and i feel like sh**. BUt is this really my fault? Am i the one who slept with 11 guys? am i a coward for being scared of something that any human being should be scared? Do you guys think she would still be with me if it was the other way around? do you guys would be with a girl in this way even though she is hot? Would i deserve a disease i didnt want ? I know i went to bed with her fast BUT because i thought she was a nice girl, that I STILL THING SHE IS...But she must have waited and not slept with 11 guys. I wanted, I waited a lot...

Thanks

 

[Gangster Of Love]

Frustrada, how exactly do you know you have HPV? Did you get warts? Why are you freaking out? Did I miss something? Did you break out with something? If not, you are totally being a drama queen about it, but I can't blame you. You need to research what HPV is, how common, and how dangerous. Apparently your mom doesn't know much about it either. You should educate yourself on this, and be a little more mature about reacting and hurting with some of the things you say. I can't blame you for overreacting, though. Most would freak out if we hear a scary sounding name like HPV, and we don't understand it.

Yes, pretty much anybody who's had sex, has had it, has it, etc. Condoms won't protect you enough to greatly reduce its transmission. It is not really detectable in men. It usually clears the body, and usually no longer shows in pap smears after it "clears" the body.

Women Haze, you were among the very small percentage that actually develops warts after being infected. MOST people who are carries, DO NOT develop genital warts. Just like not everyone who is a carrier of HSV2 (herpes) will have break outs.



Frustrada, you are overreacting. Perhaps you should have had second thought about sleeping with anybody who is not a virgin. Seems like that is the real issue that is bothering you.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

I imagine you mean burning as in 'emotional pain'?



No, not every active person gets HPV. It's not THAT common and you'd have to be unprotected to have a good chance.

HPV is known to cause cervical cancer in women. In men, don't know for sure. It could cause some other unseen side effect. I don't know that men can know if they have it unless they get tested. But there could be other symptoms.

Ok, you haven't read much about it. Why don't you go get some facts? The wikipedia link posted should inform you about some of the basic facts.
Dr. Hansfield is an expert on the subject of STD, I recommend everyone who is freaking out about not understanding this virus, give him a read. Below is a link to a short article. He has a Q&A type of column where he answers these types of questions. Google him.

http://www.health.com/health/condition-article/0,,20188476,00.html

1. Not EVERY ACTIVE PERSON, but pretty much everybody who has had more than one partner who also had had more than one. If you and your partner are virgins, who will never cheat, then you will never get it. Everygody who has had or has sex with others, has come into contact, will contract it, and will eliminate it from their body, eventually. Just based on the literature and stats out there. Just reporting.

2. IT IS THAT COMMON. It is the most common STD. Read the link above. Where did you get that info?

3. You don't have to be unprotected. In fact, HPV is one of those STD where being protected with a condom will not do much to help prevention. Condom does little to prevent it, because of the way hpv is transmited. Where did you get that info that condom will pretty much protect you completely?

4. Again, HPV is known to cause cervical cancer in women, yet, HPV positve testing during pap smears is also common, and most women clear it from their system. Treatment is available.

5. There really isn't any test for men.

Bottom line. It is always good to understand something before freaking out, not the other way around.

 

[Gangster Of Love]

You told your mother about it? Common. HPV is treatable with simple tablets ( I forgot the name of the tablet but you'd need a prescription to get it anyway-- so yes, you need to see a doctor). My ex gave went for her regular checkup one day and she found out that she has the virus. She thought I was the one that gave it to her and I told her NAH. I never had sex with anyone else except her so she blamed it on her ex (yeah, that was about 1.5 years into our relationship). To be sure I don't have it, I went for a checkup and loo and behold, the result came out NEGATIVE (I do not have the virus.) I knew long time ago that this girl was up to something and this just confirmed my suspicions. Anyway, I'm glad we are no longer together.

Anyway, the question of whether to damp her or not should not be solely based on this event alone. In any case, go get yourself TESTED QUICK.

There is no "test for HPV" in men. Ok, maybe they do it now, in the last 3 or so years since I reseached this. When I dove into learnign about HPV, I learned that it is so common that unless you have actual genital warts, clinics don't even bother. Also, experts believe it "clears" your body after a while, so even if you don't "test" postive, there's a chance it left your system.

People that get prescribed medication for it, get it because they have genital warts. That's when you know that you have it for sure. Other than that, you won't know.

Pap smears detect it in women. They do those because of the small, yet real risk of cervical cancer. There is treatment for women. There is also treatment for people with actual warts.

 

[DJDamage]

I just hope more women are getting the HPV vaccine now a days
:nervous: , I always think about that when getting a blowJ0b

 

[horaholic]

Flu's and colds are diseases too. Are you going to break up with your woman if you catch a cold from her?

 

[penkitten]

the vaccine is for teenage girls to take before they become sexually active and get exposed to hpv.
the vaccine is supposed to help prevent you from catching it.
once you catch it, too late for the vaccine.

 

[trent81]

You sure it's all she gave you? Ten guys is alot. She's a sluvt.

 

[frustrada]

of course i was virgin !!!! trent

 

[Igetit!]

of course i was virgin !!!! trent

I think you misunderstood Trent.


I believe has was saying are you sure that HPV was the ONLY THING she gave you.

Are you certain that you don't have anything else in addition to HPV.