Hello fellow lost souls.
Six years ago I found out about the seduction community after a heart crushing moment in my life... Looking back now, that was the best thing that has ever happened to me.
Since that time I have had many relationships, one-night stands, and of course sexual droughts. I would like to share some of things I have learned along the way in hopes that those seeking guidance can avoid some of my mistakes.
I would like to thank those generous souls who have written on the topic, which has helped me grow as a person. Namely Mr. Covey, Sr. Pook and Mr. Greene.
First Things First: Ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.
How many of us are expert rationalizers? How many of us know how our mind works? Who knows their strengths and weaknesses? The most common mistake of beginners is a misunderstanding of reality.
In this distorted world life is fair and easy. You should not have to work at a goal to obtain it. This is False. There are no short cuts in life!
Beginners want to watch “Naturals” out “in the field” and emulate their methods. This will lead to failure 95% of the time. This approach is very frustrating and is not recommended.
If we are going to build a sex machine, we will start from the foundation and build up. The opposite way is much more risky and painful.
Just to drive this home a quick example is in order. Lets say you are on an airplane in the ****pit and your task is to learn how to fly a plane just by using your observation skills.
You may see the pilot flip different switches and push different buttons and memorize the order in which he does this. But you would not understand what each button does. You would not KNOW how to fly the plane. If you had to fly the plane, you would likely crash if you could even get the plane off the ground in the first place.
So why do people go on masf or other seduction forums and try to learn tactics and techniques to say to people? Why would you memorize canned openers, and try to be ****y and funny? That would be like me memorizing a few lines of Spanish and trying to hold a conversation with a fluent Spanish woman. She would immediately know I couldn’t speak the language as soon as I got past me llamo Nefarious…
Do not attempt to speak the language of seduction without understanding it first. **** imitation. Lets actually learn how to speak the language of seduction fluently.
The first phase is focused on learning yourself, removing anti seductive behaviors, and creating a solid foundation to build upon.
Why? Because you have to love yourself and be a highly functioning successful individual before you can welcome someone into your life. Positive thoughts naturally attract other people.
This lesson has two parts: setting goals and recognizing anti-seductive behaviors.
Setting Goals: Lets imagine how we want to look, what we want to accomplish, and the type of relationships we have.
Health: Work out. Eat healthy. Do what you need to do to get that body into shape. Stop being lazy.
Career/School: Are you currently doing what you need to do now to be where you want to be in 5 years? Invest the time and effort in yourself and stop being lazy.
Relationships: Do you have meaningful relationships with your family and friends? How can you strengthen those relationships? Stop being selfish and spend time with the people who are important to you.
Recognizing Anti-Seductive Behaviors: This is what separates normal people from naturals. Somewhere in the naturals life they learned not to acquire these traits. Lets catch you up to them. All of us have a few of these qualities, but as we remove them we will naturally become more seductive which will lead to success.
1) Impatience – Impatience is a very ugly trait. People who are impatient are so self absorbed that they only care for their own pleasure. This lack of consideration for other people is inherently ugly. Impatient people come off as arrogant and in reality have inferiority issues.
Patience is a virtue: By being patient and listening to what others have to say, we let them know that their opinion matters and that they are valuable to you as a person.
2) Moralizers – People who have rigid views about something and refuse to even consider other perspectives. They not only are closed individuals but they force their position on you and will criticize you for rejecting it.
Openness is important. Be open to other people, ideas, experiences, etc. Open people can handle criticism, which helps them grow. Be gracious if someone criticizes you. Learn from your mistakes and admit to your faults. No one is perfect and if you pretend to be then you are a douche. Watch Yes Man if you need inspiration.
3) Frugal people – People who are cheap with money have a character flaw. In ability to give indicates the lack of ability to take risks or for not being in control.
Be generous, give to other people and watch how the world will give back. Obviously don’t take this to far or you will appear to be trying to buying acceptance.
4) Being too self-conscious: Self-conscious people are worriers. They worry about their appearance, the consequences of failure and worst of all it is highly contagious.
This is a hard one to remove. Try to be bold, realize that other people are more worried then you are. Especially with this new found knowledge.
5) Talking too much: People who talk a lot, do so because they are full of themselves. It is exceptionally annoying because they don’t let the other person contribute to the interaction. This obviously repels other people.
Conversely, not taking a lot creates mystery, and intrigue. Learn to control the amount you talk in conversations. Strive for 60% them and 40% you. Life-tip: With old people strive for 70%/30%. They are dying for someone to listen to them and often have great advice.
6) The attention *****: This person craves attention; if they don’t receive attention they will whine and complain. These people can’t take jokes well.
Obviously try to avoid this trait.
7) Slobs: Avoid being a slob. Slobs do not care about their personal appearance or details in general. This shows that the person cannot control their impulses and are generally tasteless.
We must be the extreme opposite of the slob. Tact and attention to detail are basic requirements of any good seducer. Learn to control your impulses at all costs.
These qualities are very anti-seductive, it takes conscious effort to remove them but you will do it. I did.
Commit to making these changes, it will greatly add to the quality of your life.
In short:
It is critical to see the world as it is.
Avoid shortcuts; aim to genuinely understand the world.
We must genuinely love ourselves before we are fit to seduce anyone.
We must set goals and work towards achieving them.
To love yourself you must root out anti-seductive behaviors.
- Nefarious
Six years ago I found out about the seduction community after a heart crushing moment in my life... Looking back now, that was the best thing that has ever happened to me.
Since that time I have had many relationships, one-night stands, and of course sexual droughts. I would like to share some of things I have learned along the way in hopes that those seeking guidance can avoid some of my mistakes.
I would like to thank those generous souls who have written on the topic, which has helped me grow as a person. Namely Mr. Covey, Sr. Pook and Mr. Greene.
First Things First: Ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.
How many of us are expert rationalizers? How many of us know how our mind works? Who knows their strengths and weaknesses? The most common mistake of beginners is a misunderstanding of reality.
In this distorted world life is fair and easy. You should not have to work at a goal to obtain it. This is False. There are no short cuts in life!
Beginners want to watch “Naturals” out “in the field” and emulate their methods. This will lead to failure 95% of the time. This approach is very frustrating and is not recommended.
If we are going to build a sex machine, we will start from the foundation and build up. The opposite way is much more risky and painful.
Just to drive this home a quick example is in order. Lets say you are on an airplane in the ****pit and your task is to learn how to fly a plane just by using your observation skills.
You may see the pilot flip different switches and push different buttons and memorize the order in which he does this. But you would not understand what each button does. You would not KNOW how to fly the plane. If you had to fly the plane, you would likely crash if you could even get the plane off the ground in the first place.
So why do people go on masf or other seduction forums and try to learn tactics and techniques to say to people? Why would you memorize canned openers, and try to be ****y and funny? That would be like me memorizing a few lines of Spanish and trying to hold a conversation with a fluent Spanish woman. She would immediately know I couldn’t speak the language as soon as I got past me llamo Nefarious…
Do not attempt to speak the language of seduction without understanding it first. **** imitation. Lets actually learn how to speak the language of seduction fluently.
The first phase is focused on learning yourself, removing anti seductive behaviors, and creating a solid foundation to build upon.
Why? Because you have to love yourself and be a highly functioning successful individual before you can welcome someone into your life. Positive thoughts naturally attract other people.
This lesson has two parts: setting goals and recognizing anti-seductive behaviors.
Setting Goals: Lets imagine how we want to look, what we want to accomplish, and the type of relationships we have.
Health: Work out. Eat healthy. Do what you need to do to get that body into shape. Stop being lazy.
Career/School: Are you currently doing what you need to do now to be where you want to be in 5 years? Invest the time and effort in yourself and stop being lazy.
Relationships: Do you have meaningful relationships with your family and friends? How can you strengthen those relationships? Stop being selfish and spend time with the people who are important to you.
Recognizing Anti-Seductive Behaviors: This is what separates normal people from naturals. Somewhere in the naturals life they learned not to acquire these traits. Lets catch you up to them. All of us have a few of these qualities, but as we remove them we will naturally become more seductive which will lead to success.
1) Impatience – Impatience is a very ugly trait. People who are impatient are so self absorbed that they only care for their own pleasure. This lack of consideration for other people is inherently ugly. Impatient people come off as arrogant and in reality have inferiority issues.
Patience is a virtue: By being patient and listening to what others have to say, we let them know that their opinion matters and that they are valuable to you as a person.
2) Moralizers – People who have rigid views about something and refuse to even consider other perspectives. They not only are closed individuals but they force their position on you and will criticize you for rejecting it.
Openness is important. Be open to other people, ideas, experiences, etc. Open people can handle criticism, which helps them grow. Be gracious if someone criticizes you. Learn from your mistakes and admit to your faults. No one is perfect and if you pretend to be then you are a douche. Watch Yes Man if you need inspiration.
3) Frugal people – People who are cheap with money have a character flaw. In ability to give indicates the lack of ability to take risks or for not being in control.
Be generous, give to other people and watch how the world will give back. Obviously don’t take this to far or you will appear to be trying to buying acceptance.
4) Being too self-conscious: Self-conscious people are worriers. They worry about their appearance, the consequences of failure and worst of all it is highly contagious.
This is a hard one to remove. Try to be bold, realize that other people are more worried then you are. Especially with this new found knowledge.
5) Talking too much: People who talk a lot, do so because they are full of themselves. It is exceptionally annoying because they don’t let the other person contribute to the interaction. This obviously repels other people.
Conversely, not taking a lot creates mystery, and intrigue. Learn to control the amount you talk in conversations. Strive for 60% them and 40% you. Life-tip: With old people strive for 70%/30%. They are dying for someone to listen to them and often have great advice.
6) The attention *****: This person craves attention; if they don’t receive attention they will whine and complain. These people can’t take jokes well.
Obviously try to avoid this trait.
7) Slobs: Avoid being a slob. Slobs do not care about their personal appearance or details in general. This shows that the person cannot control their impulses and are generally tasteless.
We must be the extreme opposite of the slob. Tact and attention to detail are basic requirements of any good seducer. Learn to control your impulses at all costs.
These qualities are very anti-seductive, it takes conscious effort to remove them but you will do it. I did.
Commit to making these changes, it will greatly add to the quality of your life.
In short:
It is critical to see the world as it is.
Avoid shortcuts; aim to genuinely understand the world.
We must genuinely love ourselves before we are fit to seduce anyone.
We must set goals and work towards achieving them.
To love yourself you must root out anti-seductive behaviors.
- Nefarious
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