Ganji after a 3-month LJBF??

[thizguy]

ok, i dated this gurl for 3 months, shes very pretty and i must admit i've been a bit AFC at times, doing considerate things for her here and there, while getting none of it in return.

so i guess its pretty obvious that i got LJBF'ed. on our 3rd month anniversary too, right before Xmas. the thing is, before we went out, we were great friends and we had this promise that no matter what happens in this relationship, we would still be friends. (afc on my part for making that promise).

so i got LJBF'ed over email, and it was a pretty long detailed email about how she really cares about me as a friend and is really concerned about me getting hurt. she really wants to stay in good terms with me. she says i've been a great bf, and shes a bad gf, and that this is at all no fault on my part. please reply and talk about this to her.

relationship was: 80% physical, 20% emotional

we also had plans to go ice skating on a date before this, and she said shes still willing to go with me as a friend.

i replied:
'if thats what u really want, then its fine with me. gimme a call if u still wanna ice skate. happy holidays.'

ganji or no ganji??? as a dj, ganji hellz yes. as a friend...i dunno

shes a very nice girl, and i do care about her very much as a friend. so i dunno if i should put her through the emotional stress of ganji, because its exactly what she is afraid of. and i kno it too.

what do i do??

 

[catch]

ooh ganji is harsh,

ive just read it, that ****s for girls who **** with you,
she sounds like a nice girl so unless shes giving you a styt test it may be better to skip the ganji.
maybe shes just not ready for what you want you know her better than me so you decide that one..

however.. it does sound like it might just work

 

[thizguy]

ok she replies. shes sounds very worried, begging me to talk to her and that she'll understand. if i dont wanna talk to her, she'll understand too. she just doesnt want me to be distant and mad at her.

argg what to do????

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

ganji is not the answer for this, social proof is, thats right be seen with other girls, thats all there is to it. Suddnely she will realise she wants you

although obvously do not shower her with attention or anytihng like that in the meantime.

 

[thizguy]

i replied:

sorry i sound distant, but im really busy with (something) and (some other thing) right now, so i dont have time to deal with this. just make sure this is really what u want and im cool wid it.

the thing is, im not cool with it. my afcness is killing me...i wanna be with her so bad

and i'm also leaving town for 3 weeks. should i see her one last time before i leave? or keep her guessing and leave in the middle of ganjing her? ahh im soo confused! help!

 

[check_mate_kid_uk]

leave her guessing

 

[thejuice]

Ive just recently came back tpo the boards and i keep seeing that word: ganji. What does it mean? I think i know but i wanna make sure before i comment

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Originally posted by thejuice
Ive just recently came back tpo the boards and i keep seeing that word: ganji. What does it mean? I think i know but i wanna make sure before i comment

I think it means "Marijuana", weed, pot, grass, wacky tobaccy etc...

DJ "thisguy" leave "this girl" alone -- if you can't handle the fact that shre doesn't want you!!!!

She is trying to let you down easy and is genuinely concerned about your feelings because she knows that you are "in" to her more than she is "in" to you!!!

Be a man and quit taking things so emotionally!!! You are not a child - you cannot salvage this with any "games"!!!

 

[Caveman]

I agree with PL,

Obviously this girl doesn't want you anymore. Relationshipwise. Any technique you will try to pull will not make her change her mind because she has already been with you. Either leave the girl alone to get your focus on something or someone else or accept the fact that she wants to be friends.

 

[stevey_2000]

definitely 'ganji' her as it's known, she might come running back, she might not but ganji games is definitely the way to go with this one,

absence make the heart grow fonder

 

[thizguy]

i think its my oneitis talking. arggg why is this process so freakin hard?? i wish i had feelings of steel that real DJs have.

so anyway im gonna go ice skating with her and pretend i'm totally cool with being friends with her, be all happy and macho on the outside, as if i didnt give a **** about her, only as a friend.

while being torn apart and all depressed and sad on the inside.

sigh....this sucks. but its gotta be done.

thanx a lot guys, appreciate it.