Gaming While Sober

[dannycc]

I've made it a mission to remain sober, and it is a bit challenging for me.

I tend to hesitate more when it's time to escalate and/or close.

I tend to feel a little less social.

I tend to feel a little more restrained and cautious in high energy environments.

I am probably a little bit more self conscious.

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As a quick example, yesterday, was at the bar, with a group of friends/acquaintances. I was eyeing this girl down, signaling my intent, quickly say hi to her and talk to some other friends.

She is getting loaded (some other goof is buying her drinks), and really getting into the game.

I say something critical of 'her team,' without talking to her directly and she turns and slaps me on the chest: "hey, watch what you say!"

A bit later, she is rubbing against me, her butt rubbing against me knee repeatedly.

So she is giving me some hardcore buying signals.

But for whatever reason, I am reluctant to number close much less for the full close we both want.

This is usually not an issue when I drink, so I am second guessing my non drinking manifesto.

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As a second example, later that night, I was talking to a girl, and she was very animated, leaning into me, grabbing my thigh, etc, and I still wouldn't escalate on her.

How good are you guys not drinking?

 

[Wisconsin144]

I'd remain sober, but always make a move, just think "**** it, what could go wrong." Count to three and do it.

Anyhow congrats on going sober, harder than it sounds for sure

 

[aforabi]

Haha, nice.

I have been approaching girls on the streets sober (I used to an alcoholic). Probably this is new for you and that's why you are concerned about it. You are not used to gaming sober. But let me share my experience.

Tons of benefits of gaming sober:

a) You remember every details of your encounter with the chicks, which becomes a invaluable piece of information to improve your game the next time.

b) As the night passes, your energy continues to go UP, and UP, and UP, and you need nothing other than a glass of water to keep it going UP. If you were drinking beer, you will another soon as soon as its effect slows you down. I say, "Hey, I would like to have coke with a lemon and an ice!" and the ladies grin

c) You become really calm, cool, and collected throughout the nite, because you do not let down your inhibitions that actually destroys a healthy interaction that was at peak when you were sober

d) You enjoy her more. You do not forget about her after 15 or 20 minutes. You are always focusing on her. You are never worried about getting another beer to give you that boost.

f) Approaching and gaming girls while sober gives you tremendous amount of confidence and it will be real.

g) I understand the self-conscious part. Over time, it will go way. It's just in your head because no body actually gives a f%ck about you there. No one pal. Get out of your head and just do it and learn from the failures and get more and more smoother with the ladies.

h) You avoid alcoholics, smokes, and loud music. You tend to look for more suitable place to find the 'right' partner - parks, museum, shopping malls, coffee shops, and of course the streets during afternoon, where tons of quality chicks roam around ....

Gaming sober is the way to go for me because I can tell the difference as i was alcoholic myself ... Don't be self-conscious (at least suck it up now because you will realize that no one actually cares you hitting on a chick)

Enjoy my fren,

 

[convict24]

Give it time I do 1000 times better now that I rarely drink. It took a lot of effort for it to come natural like before when I was drinking while going out. Keep in mind I was never very good at picking up women I usually used my above average looks and humor to score.

Now that its coming more and more natural and I'm not a heavy drinker I'm actually feeling like an alpha for the first time in my life. I have taken control. 2 months of not giving up after I got my **** together to score.

My biggest issue is how unattractive the majority of drunk girls are now that I don't drink when I go out. I usually try to **** and move to the next if interest is low. I can't stand putting effort into a dumb worthless empty convosation. I'm the sober guy riding solo or with a friend drinking tonic and lime. Throws them off when and if they figure out I'm not drinking. Usually instantly creates interest if they figure out I'm not drinking.

**** it is what I say in my head she's drunk it doesn't matter anyways.