Gaming my Dentist's hot assistant!

[baffledking]

Hey gentlemen, I'm new to this place. I thought I'd share with you a fun scenario I've got going and ask some advice on how to steer it where I want to go.
I recently got back from two years living in Osaka and now am in school here in Vancouver. Last week, I went in to a new dentist for a cleaning and check-up and to my surprise and delight, the Dentist's assistant was a staggering 8.5/9 whom would have been an intimidating girl to approach on the street or at the club but, because of the professional atmosphere of the clinic, was easy to build rapport with. She ended up inviting me to an SPCA fundraising benefit at a local sports bar that evening (wtf!) but I told her I had plans and that I'd try to stop by if I had time. Though I declined her invitation, she still kept a playful interest in me and was definitely outstepping her required "customer service" friendliness. Our flirting session was cut-short, however, when the damn dentist came in and sent her out of the room so he could do my teeth. I figured I had blown my chances with her and that I wouldn't get a chance to follow up our conversation but something totally serendipitous happened later that evening.
After escaping from a party for my friend's friend I ended up downtown with some buddies around 3am after the clubs had let out. We went to a cafe to chat and relax when suddenly I see this smoking hot babe approach our table with her eyes wide and locked on me. She came right up to me, sat on my lap and started stroking my leg! I soon realized it was the Dental Assistant from earlier that day! Not only was it a huge coincidence that I ran into her that very same day, but she was all over me too! Now, she was pretty wasted, but excessive flirting is still flirting so I wasn't really concerned whether or not she understood the "signals" she was giving. It was a comical scene because my buddies were totally non-plused and didn't know what kind of relationship I had with this girl, and likewise, her friends were visibly shaken with her "familiarity" with me, a guy they had never seen or heard about. We talked for about an hour, then one of my buddies had to catch a cab home so we ended up outside on the street where my girl's friends huddled around her like your regular jealous ****-blockers. After the cab came, she grabbed my arm and linked it with hers and asked me to walk with her and her friends a couple blocks to their car.
I asked her where they were going and she told me they lived in Burnaby (a suburb of Vancouver) which really sucked because there was nothing I could say as an excuse to follow her out there, as there is nothing to do in Burnaby at all. I couldn't invite her to my place as I live with my parents (I'm 20 years old and I just got back from living in Japan!). The final minutes of our conversation were horrible, as the last information I divulged to her before she got in her friends car was that I was 5 years younger than her, lived with my parents and smoked. I totally blew it when I asked her as she was getting into the car "When am I gonna' see you again?" (hey, I panicked!) and she said "Your next appointment is in 6 months"!!!!!!!!
I didn't even get her number, damnit.
Anyhow, luckily, I have to go back to the dentist tomorrow for some teeth whitening kit (free when you become a new patient!) so I will get a much needed chance to make things right again.

Advice? I want to avoid sounding desperate. Also, the dentist may be in the room! Who knows!

 

[OneEyedJack]

She might be an attention seeker. Careful

 

[baffledking]

Yeah, I have doubts about her sincerity. I'll have to slip her a business card next time I'm in there or just flat out invite her for coffee. Again, the clinic setting is unbelievably awkward with the dentist and hygienists walking around.

Anybody else been in a similar situation?

 

[backbreaker]

repeat after me.

Enter. Tab. use it ever 4 or 5 sentences

asked her where they were

the same thing you are doing there.. trying to find someone with enough balls to put a stick in her mouth.


I promise, you guys sit here and you complain about not getting any, and women literarly are winding up on the pitchers mound and throwing at you guys right down the middle of the plate.

the avg guy probably passes up 1 piece of ass a day and doesn't know it. you are so worried about what to say, how to "react" that you miss ovbious signs from women.

What does it take? A woman with a neon sign around her neck, saying "Insert your d!ck here" pointing down to her area? while she's naked, and with your the words "baffledkings area only" tatooted in between her legs just so there was no confusion on who she was reffering to?

this girl wanted to fvck you in the dentist office, wanted to fvck you when she saw you. the thing with women, alot more are attracted to you than you think, however unlike men, the time span can come and go in as little as 5 mintues.. if you don't realize when she wants you, you have no chance afterwards.

you might as well forget about her now. she' likes to party, she sees you as to "slow", and what' sad is you both want the same thing! yet you are to chicken to act on your emotions.

I'd rather get slapped trying to fvck a girl I am very attracted to, then to go home and beat my meat thinking about fvcking her because I was to ***** not ot talk to her.


your ONLY chance, and I mean ONLY chance is to pay her absolutely no attention. None whatsoever. don't' talk to her, don't' be nice to her. Make her go out of her WAY to come talk to you.. if she doesn't, just give it up. And if she does talk to you, make plans for her to come to your house, that night, no exepctions. Take it or leave it.

 

[RAFCbearfilm]

I read your post and agree with backbreaker - why you did not even get to make out with this girl is beyond me. if she is as hot as you say, and writhing around on your lap, you go for it.
When a hot girl asks you out for a party after work, that is not "Customer Service" that is a come on. Maybe that should be posted in the tips section here! (joking)
Seriously, you have your reasonable excuse to see her and you have a chance to close, again. Be cool and ask for the number or tell her where you are going to be next weekend (one night only, btw, not the whole weekend.)
Reading your post, if it's even half true, you should have no worries.

Please let us know what happened when you saw her again!

 

[baffledking]

Gentlemen, I appreciate the responses. There is no doubt that I dropped the ball that evening; I followed her lead the whole time without realizing that she wanted me to take over. And, as you said, she probably just lost interest.

I've got to go back to the clinic in a few days to pick up some whitening product; this will be my last chance. Either I close on her once and for all or focus my attention on others.

My plan: hand her my business card and tell her to call me when she gets off work so we can hang out somewhere more comfortable.

 

[backbreaker]

baffledking... come on man.. let's be honest

let's say you succeed and getting her out.

then what...

you ovbiously don't hvae enough balls to do what she wants you to do. you will go out, have a couple of drinks, then wonder if she wants you to "kiss her" or not. Then she will go home, call her ex BF and get it rammed in her all night long, like she wanted you to do but you were too chicken to do.

what I am getting at is, you might win the battle, but you aren't in any type of condition to win a war. If you have problems missing ovbious come ons like that, you can't handle a relationship.

you need to take the time out and read the DJ bible. Read some of the old post here. Get some confidence about yourself going before you worry about any women.. have some foresight

you are in the right place, and ovbiously you are attractive enough or have enough going for you where a hot woman thought you were cute, so that's a good start, but trust me... it is only a foot in the door.

get in shape, read a book or two, develop some hobbies.. forget about women for a while. there isn't a going out of business sale on *****, I promise you.. as a matter of fact, they are making more everyday!

 

[Heart Break Kid]

On a less serious note...
She's the one who cleans your teeth before the dentist, but you don't have enough time to talk to her. I suggest you eat a bunch of oreos before going to the dentist.

 

[baffledking]

Cool beans, guys. It's great to have some live feedback.

Backbreaker, you're probably right that I should just call a spade a spade and realize that the problem is not with the awkward pickup environment but with myself. I've got to build up some more confidence and take down my worries like they were part of the Berlin Wall!

I'm in pretty good shape; nothing I wouldn't show at the beach and, I'm an actor, musician and I occasionally do modeling work. That's not to say that I couldn't tune myself up to a more chiseled level and work on my mental flaws which is where the problem is. I intend to spend a lot more time reading these forums and practicing my game as much as possible.

But I'm still going to try to close on this girl and turn the ship around. Contrary to what you may think, I'm no newbie to this; I'm 20 years old and I've slept with close to 30 women. Not a bad number, though it could and should be higher.

Anyhow, thanks for the advice. It's been a great opportunity to clear my head and shake out the bull**** delusions I usually waste most of my time wrestling with day in day out. I'll let you guys know how it goes.

In the words of Frank Zappa, "Broken hearts are for *******s".