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Gamer's Fatigue

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Approach is for me essentially a stream of “opportunities for improvement” (also known as failures).

After the first two approaches I realise afterwards that I change. I do what is counterproductive: I loose my frame, become this try hard that tries to entertain and be accepted. (And in a sense that is true. I do my very hard to be liked so here’s a contradiction but that’s another topic.)

But how do you prevent such an implosion? How to do you retain your “integrity”?

My answer is that during my first approaches I pretend to be someone I’m not, while afterwards when tired, I fall back to something that currently comes naturally and requires no effort. Any solution beyond rest/game less?
 

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Approach is for me essentially a stream of “opportunities for improvement” (also known as failures).

After the first two approaches I realise afterwards that I change. I do what is counterproductive: I loose my frame, become this try hard that tries to entertain and be accepted. (And in a sense that is true. I do my very hard to be liked so here’s a contradiction but that’s another topic.)

But how do you prevent such an implosion? How to do you retain your “integrity”?

My answer is that during my first approaches I pretend to be someone I’m not, while afterwards when tired, I fall back to something that currently comes naturally and requires no effort. Any solution beyond rest/game less?
It sounds like you need to work on your inner game; the essence of that is self-respect. You are allowing other people (nature) to control you. In this case you are allowing your sexual urges to control you and that gives women power over you. When a woman thinks she's above you she loses respect for you and also her sexual attraction to you.

You have to be in a certain mind set, in a certain place in your life where you have complete self-acceptance.
 
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Says a lot about me that I thought this thread was about videogames....
 

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Minimize effort by not putting a facade. Just put yourself out there and be social with girls and guys alike.

This need to be liked by people pushes people away, right?

So instead, practice being nonchalant and relaxed and just say hi and be curious about people.

Keep your words minimal and have the sound of your purpose running in your mind like white noise during every interaction
 
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