G/F Problem

[AFI336]

Well lately me and my gf of 6 months haven't been talking that much lately and we've both been doing are own things with are friends. We spent all of last Friday and Saturday morning together and we haven't seen each other since. The reason is because she got mad about me throwing a party on Sat night and not doing something with her instead. So lately she has been trying to seem busy with her friends(which she doesn't do often because we spend time together a lot) and avoiding me. She's also getting *****y towards me saying that I don't want to talk or do anything, but i'm the one who calls her and asks if she wants to do something. I have to say that i'm not the type of guy to tolerate that mess. So when yesterday when I called her she was with one of her friends and 5 mins after talking to her she said "Can you call me back in 20 mins". I said sure that's cool. Call her back in 20 and she doesn't answer the phone. So I figure that's cool she'll just call me back later. She doesn't. So today she still hasn't called me and i'm wondering should I call her or should she be the one to call me?
Also when we do talk tonight i'm thinking about setting things straight by saying "either you want to be with me or you don't , make a choice". Any opinions?

 

[RazzleDazzle]

She's playing games. Simple as that, but you can play them and better. She is going through a lot of trouble to make you feel guilty, and is punishing you. Or so the woman mind thinks. Don't call her back. Control your eagerness and you'll be rewarded. If you see her be pleasent and upbeat. But if she tries to be a whiny *****, tell her "we have to talk" and make a time where you two can do that. Same day preferably, a few hours of waiting should make her mind go nutz. Then tell her that you want to be with her but she is not going to be the only thing in your life. If she can't handle that then fine, she is throwing away someone as good as you.

You just have to adjust her priorities. If she gets really mad then tell her off. You don't have all the time in the world to be worrying about some chick. If she is throwing this fit over one night then you know your in the right on this. It's one Freaking night!!

 

[HuuBinh]

i kinda agree w/ razzle, imo you guys have been dating for 6months, she should understand much of you by now. it seems to me that maybe she's losing interest or she's trying to take control of the relationship by acting careless. in your post, u wrote that u called and asked her if she wanted to do something? next time have plan in mind and be assertive.

 

[Ronin I]

Originally posted by AFI336
So when yesterday when I called her she was with one of her friends and 5 mins after talking to her she said "Can you call me back in 20 mins".

It maybe because I'm used to the silly games that many b!tches play but if I'm ever in a situation like this I'll usually say "Just call me later." OR "Just call me back when you're done." Basically, I'm a busy man, too busy to be chasing you down to talk - if you want to talk to me and you're too busy now than pick up the phone and call me later.

As per your problem - I probably wouldn't call her. Then when she calls you on it I'd say "Well to be honest with you, you've had an attitude with me lately and I'm in no hurry to talk to you if you're going to have that attitude. So you if you want to talk let's talk about what's bothering you OR you just need to get over it - Bottom line: I'm not tolerating your b!tchiness anymore."

 

[AFI336]

cool thanks for the replies. I don't think she is losing interest just because of the way she acted when we did hang out. Whats pissing me off though is when I call her and she says "You don't even want to talk to me" or "I should let you go because it seems like you don't want to talk". Why do they do this? to try to be in control? To Ronin, I actually usually tell her to call me back when she's not busy, but I don't know why I didn't this time, maybe to subdue her *****iness.

 

[drixsa]

my opinion is that: YOU ARE WHIPPED

and whipped bad at that

1. why should she keep her interest in you?
-if you are spending that much time together you must not have busy enough of a life and must be boring

2. she tells you to do it and you do it
-not that you should be a rebel but jesus if my G-F wants to fight with me she can go ahead and be crazy (like yours) once shes become civilized again then she can have a conversation with me

3. shes telling falsehoods about you, and you jus sit there like a lap dog
-if my g-f is talkin BS then im not on the other end of the phone to hear it let alone let her say stuff like that too me

Take control of the damn relationship or next her