Fvcked it

[Aesthetix29]

Okay been seeing this bird and she stayed over at mine on Thursday everything was good but we didn't have sex I tried to initiate but no success, I should mention I've fvcked before. It was as tho she didn't wanna come across as a sloot, as I got the impression she wants something more eventually .. Seen her Saturday morning then dropped her off at work and then didn't hear off her until today apart from social media likes etc... I posted a quote picture on FB stating "Never give someone the opportunity to waste your time twice" and straight away she screenshotted it and messaged it too me asking if this was directed at her to which it wasn't as I mentioned to her that it could be aimed at practically anyone in my life and that I shared it due too it being a true fact. Then she starts too be off with me via messaging etc... Like no kisses on the message etc... The last message she sent me was "Yeye sick of your attitude now boy x" to which I haven't replied as she tried to put a bit of humour in there.... My question is this salvegable? Should I go no contact?

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

-The game is being played in her frame. Not yours.

-Like her less and see more women. In fact like all of them less. Complaining about 'no kisses'.... come on man, you're not a gay. In fact, gays aren't even that gay.

-You're not absent enough from her to pique her imagination - texts, social media, posting ghey emotional quotes which are quite obviously about her. You're orbiting dude, really badly.

-Get on with your life. If she comes back, you gotta play it ice cold to get her back in your frame. Once they turn to walk out of it, they rarely return fully, if at all.

 

[TheException]

-The game is being played in her frame. Not yours.

-Like her less and see more women. In fact like all of them less. Complaining about 'no kisses'.... come on man, you're not a gay. In fact, gays aren't even that gay.

-You're not absent enough from her to pique her imagination - texts, social media, posting ghey emotional quotes which are quite obviously about her. You're orbiting dude, really badly.

-Get on with your life. If she comes back, you gotta play it ice cold to get her back in your frame. Once they turn to walk out of it, they rarely return fully, if at all.

As soon as she rejected sex that warrants immediate attention withdraw....instead you seen her two days later and took her to work lol.

As a single guy, your goal should NEVER be seeking "to salvage something". You should be pursuing enough women that this is never even a thought.

 

[Aesthetix29]

Well I know I've fvcked up.. So time too just back off and pursue other women I think... Thanks for the advice guys. What is it with these attention hoe's!

 

[Epimanes]

You don't have to be ice cold... That's bs.. What you should be is outcome independant. Meaning... Your feelings/attitude/demeanor is independant from the outcome. If you behave all sketchy your your visably butthurt about no kisses etc... She will sense it and test you.. Heck she will likely test to see if your outcome independance is real or not too.. Consistantly pass those tests and your in like flynn..

Epi

 

[YawataNoKami]

As soon as she rejected sex that warrants immediate attention withdraw....instead you seen her two days later and took her to work lol.

As a single guy, your goal should NEVER be "to salvage something". You should be pursuing enough women that this is never even a thought.

What he said.........
Right now you are just her girlfriend.

 

[blind_one]

As soon as she rejected sex that warrants immediate attention withdraw....instead you seen her two days later and took her to work lol.

As a single guy, your goal should NEVER be "to salvage something". You should be pursuing enough women that this is never even a thought.

This a thousand times. This is how you punish bad behaviour and set good habits.

Well said !

 

[Aesthetix29]

So here's the update.... Ignored her after all this happened then yesterday she called phoned me I ignored then straight after I get a text saying "pick up for 2 mins job on FB you or your brother could have" which is a little bit unusual as she doesn't normally do things like this... So I leave it a while and call her back, I just thanked her for the heads up but that my brothers working away and that I was busy at work so couldn't and then ended the call quickly as I shouldn't be on it at work... And she sounded pizzed off with me like being abrupt ... She replied "Right, bye"! But in a angry way ... That was yesterday lunch and since then she liked a few of my FB statuses and shared my new business page.. But no text or phone call.

Have I done the right thing by ignoring her...? Would it be a good idea to give her a call tonight? I should mention at some point I'd like too be in a relationship with this girl.. I just need advice on how to play it without coming across beta.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

And so the testing continues.

FB activity means nothing. She's probably 'liking' a bunch of other stuff besides yours.

The discrimination comes with things that she does with YOU only:

-Dating
-Fcking
-Dating
-Fcking

That's about it. Everything else is extra-curricular. Ask yourself if any activity between the two of you she would be doing with ANYone else. And you have your answer.

Make your intentions clear - you want to date, 121. And then you escalate. If she refuses, you say, 'OK. Let me know when you're free/if you change your mind.' Then you relatively disappear and get on with your life. Anything else is just keeping you in the zone.

Find other women to knock about with. That will soon have her interest piqued.