Funny thing

[SoylentGreen]

I've been trying a new experiment lately.

I've been more sexual in my speech and more ****y; I have been mocking women left and right - making fun of their clothes and their speech and whatever I can think of, I mock it. I walk away when they talk to me and make fun of them in front of others. I interrupt their stories with MY stories. The purpose of this experiment, as always, is to monitor and note the reactions I've been getting. I've been a total a$s for three weeks now and I see a difference in how the girls are acting around me.

I am finding that girls really do love a$$holes/jerks. Really. However maybe a$$hole isn't the right word.

At my work, there are now about forty new girls and while I haven't met them all, I have met most of them and I see a definite difference in how they are acting towards me versus last year when the last batch of "fresh fish" arrived. I have been the biggest a-hole and I have generated TONS of attraction by doing so.

Its weird, this world we live in. When you are nice to someone, they treat you like sh!t and when you're sh!tty to people they are nice to you. Unbelievable.

I am an avid reader of this site and so I am not surprised with this phenomenon. Its just weird seeing it first-hand. I thought I was already being "less nice" but now I see the level of a$$hole that women will put up with. In the past, I was so nice it was pathetic. I would go shopping with girls, help out with bf problems, cook dinners, make compliment after compliment, kiss ass, be super polite etc etc; and generally, at that time, most people thought I was gay.

Then I got a little (In my mind, ALOT) more assertive. I started actually saying no to people. I told girls "I won't talk about your bf with you" and "no, I won't take you to the mall so you can buy your bf some presents." and "yes that DOES make you look a bit heavy" etc etc

NOW--->>
In the last couple of weeks, I have taken it a step further. I said things like: "you're wearing THAT?" or "do you seriously NOT know that?" or "want to come into the bathroom and help me out, I'm all backed up? etc etc
I've been talking about how I hate clubgirls right in front of clubgirls. I said I hate chicks with makeup in front of one who cakes it on. Someone invited me to a party and I said: "with YOU??" real ignorantly, but a LITTLE playfully. I've pointed to my lap and said "have a seat" with a grin. I've been a TOTAL a$$ all around. I'm honestly shocked at how much interest I'm generating.

This is only an experiment.

I'm not the pathetic nice guy I used to be, but I'm not quite a jerk either. I think the reason girls are responding so well to my ignorant attitude lately is that it brings with it a hint of ****y confidence. I have been super bold and super judgemental. I think another part of the reason they are so nice is that they are afraid I might mock them IN FRONT of their friends so they seem to be really nice to me when alone. I think sometimes people will befriend the "a$$hole" just to not be on the receiving end of his mockery.

I'm not going to be like this forever, but I am going to take it a little farther to see just how far I have to go before being told to "f*ck off" or before I get slapped. I am just astonished at the level of jerk-ness peopel will tolerate...

Post your thoughts, I'm dying to hear them...

 

[edger]

For the same amount of attractive women I've been ****y/funny with who have been receptive to it, there have also been an equal amount who haven't been receptive to it. I've had hot women totally walk away from me(when I made it blatantly obvious I was joking). So, the ****y/funny thing can only go so far. Not all attractive women are the same. I used to think that they were. That's why you see quite a bit of hot women with AFC's, contrary to what's said. One thing I've realized with women, is that, nothing is set in stone the way it's made to be believed around here. I'm noticing, there are a lot of "exceptions to the rule" out there.

 

[Tazman]

Different women have different levels of tolerance for it. Some women will do things like edger mentioned, walk away from you, but they may still come back later (the test in this case is to see whether you start apologizing profusely or not give a f-ck).

I remember I was an a--hole to this attractive friend of my sister's, not because I was trying to hook up with her, but because she genuinely pissed me off (parking behind me in the driveway knowing I get up early for work while she's still sleeping). She called me on the phone to "confront" me about it later, but I blew her off.

After some time (maybe a few days) she comes over to the house and I say hello to her with a ****y smile knowing she was still pissed at me. Her response was predictable (annoyed) but later started talking about going out on a date with me and finding one of my friends for my sister.......

Being ****y can work but you have to have some sort of value attached to yourself or they'll simply hate you.

 

[SoylentGreen]

True. This test of mine is likely working because my test subjects are all under 24. And in the context of where I work, I do have high value at this point.

*After reading another post elsewhere on the site stating how so much bad advice is given on these forums I almost feel bad for starting this thread. *

What I - SHOULD have - said is its good to be assertive, confident and a little ****y. Along with this, a little playful teasing is also great and CAN work wonders IF the girls aren't insecure and are not already in a "mood" of their own. Also, being a bit more sexual than one deems to be "safe" is probably ok as well, as long as its in a tasteful way. Asking a girl to join me in the washroom probably only worked because I was saying it playfully and with a big dumb grin.

Its all about the individual situation and the individual girl. One has to calibrate according to these two factors. A DJ (as we are aspiring to be) should be alert and intelligent enough to determine what "method" to use, if any, and where to use it.