Funny Story; What Should be my Next Move

[CaConfused]

There's a lot more to this, but in the interest of time, here's the backstory!

6 months ago, I met a Rachel at a meetup. Talked with her. She's a little ****y since every dude hits on her.

A month after, I meet her again at another meetup, she remembers me, but I decide to knock her down a rung and act like I dont remember her. She didn't like this much and played it cooler with me. She leaves.. And I end up sleeping with her friend. >

So fast forward to now and I see Rachel at this underwear fun run.. I still recognize her despite our costumes. I'm with a female friend, and introduce Rachel to my female friend by saying 'this girl hates me!'. Rachel grins and says "I don't hate you, but maybe my friend (that I slept with) does." (It was a one-night stand)

We talk, take pictures together at the event (in one I pick her completely up.) .. She takes my hat and runs off with it. I get it back, text her the pics then take off and text her saying 'we're leaving to get food.

My female friend who talked with Rachel says she totally still remembers me not remembering her that day.

My question is: When do I ask her out? My female friend (who is pretty good at this) says that I should invite her out to hang with us tomorrow. (Me and like 3 female friends)

Is this too soon?

Thanks!!

 

[TheException]

but I decide to knock her down a rung and act like I dont remember her.

Quit playing games. What's the difference between doing this and just acting "non chalant" about remembering her? Is that big of a deal for you to say "Ohhh ya sure. I remember you. Hows it been?"

My question is: When do I ask her out? My female friend (who is pretty good at this) says that I should invite her out to hang with us tomorrow. (Me and like 3 female friends)

Is this too soon?

Thanks!!

Women give out the worst advice. I would not invite her out 1.) On such short notice(high % of denial or flake) 2.) I wouldnt bring her around friends.

Just wait a few days and text her "Hey it was good seeing you. Id like to get xyz sometime with you and catch up. What days are you free next week?"

She how she responds and react accordingly.

 

[CaConfused]

Quit playing games. What's the difference between doing this and just acting "non chalant" about remembering her? Is that big of a deal for you to say "Ohhh ya sure. I remember you. Hows it been?"

Women give out the worst advice. I would not invite her out 1.) On such short notice(high % of denial or flake) 2.) I wouldnt bring her around friends.

Just wait a few days and text her "Hey it was good seeing you. Id like to get xyz sometime with you and catch up. What days are you free next week?"

She how she responds and react accordingly.

Yeah, you guys have always told me that about women. I acted like I didn't remember her the first time because she blew me friend off and I was annoyed after. I'll wait a few days and text her as you recommend. Do any of you other experts have any other thoughts? Thanks!

 

[Igetit!]

My question is: When do I ask her out?

Your question is when do you ask her out. Huh....

Well my question is,WHY haven't you already asked her out? From what you said here....

6 months ago, I met a Rachel at a meetup. Talked with her. She's a little ****y since every dude hits on her.

and here....

A month after, I meet her again at another meetup, she remembers me, but I decide to knock her down a rung and act like I dont remember her.

and here...

So fast forward to now and I see Rachel at this underwear fun run.. I still recognize her despite our costumes. I'm with a female friend, and introduce Rachel to my female friend by saying 'this girl hates me!'. Rachel grins and says "I don't hate you, but maybe my friend (that I slept with) does." (It was a one-night stand)

You've already interacted with this girl 3 TIMES.

You've had 3 opportunities to ask her out,and still not taken any of them. Now....I've "gamed" a chick before,and generally,it takes place over a period of minutes,to hours.....max a couple of days....


You're going on OVER half a YEAR with this chick. So do I think it's "too soon" to ask her out? Umm......NO.


You either need to make a move,or if at least possible,stay the HELL AWAY from her....stop having these random interactions with her,cause the more you do that WITHOUT asking her out,the GREATER the chance of you getting friendzoned.



Also keep in mind,the fact that you slept with her friend may work against you as well...chicks sort of have an unwritten rule about not sleeping with a friend's ex. I know...you two didn't date,it was just a one night stand,but the chick may still hold it against you,specially if she and the other girl are still friends.

 

[Bingo-Player]

My question is: When do I ask her out? My female friend (who is pretty good at this) says that I should invite her out to hang with us tomorrow. (Me and like 3 female friends)

hang on a second here let me get this straight your "friend" whom you have slept with and is also friends with rachel is advising you on what to do with rachel ?

three words for you if this is the case bro

CONFLICT OF INTEREST

you do not want that chick you banged going anywhere near rachel that i can promise you

or its gonna end in tears - chicks want whats already theirs

 

[CaConfused]

Looks like I struck out. I texted her this opener on Monday

"Hey, its [me]. So I was just going through these pics we took on the Undies run...."

We took a lot of hilarious pics while drunk. I figured that would get a response. It didn't. I figure she's either embarassed at how smashed she was or because I slept with her (not close) friend 6 months ago.

Any advice? Was thinking of sending this today "Ok, I get it, I slept with your friend months ago and you don't feel like you should have worn my fancy hat"

(This refers to her taking my costume cowboy hat and wearing it around the bar.

Any recovery here?

 

[tripod23]

if I was you mate ....I would forget this chick.............reason being is if this chick was interested in you ........trust me she would not ignore your text.............no way.

any chick who has interest make things so easy..........the doors just open.

I just ask chicks right out now........if I have any interest in them .

I did this last week with a chick she showed interest gave me her number...........a couple of days went by and I call her...........she new it was me..............I said so when are you free to go out for drinks.......she said I will have to let you know........I said sure you have my number now let me know and I got off the phone right away........she hasn't called me to let me know...........and guess what I haven't text or called her again...WHY.........simple ........because she aint in to me....... EASY TO SPOT...........

DO NOT CHASE CHICKS FVCK THAT ........IT DOESNT WORK WHEN YOU HAVE ALREADY BLOWN IT............LET IT BE ......LEARN AND MOVE ON .

YOU WILL LOOK LIKE A PEST.......AND THAT ISNT SOMETHING YOU NEED.

HER LOSS REMEMBER...............

GOOD LUCK MATE

 

[CaConfused]

Ok everyone, we're STILL IN THE GAME BABY.

As you remember, I originally texted her "Hey, its [me]. So I was just going through these pics we took on the Undies run...." This was yday at 3:30

So she just texted me at 8:30: "Hahahaha! Well, I hope you had fun and remember some of it.".

So what's my next move and when?

 

[Mr Gyalist]

Your next move is to arrange a date....

 

[Yewki]

Any advice? Was thinking of sending this today "Ok, I get it, I slept with your friend months ago and you don't feel like you should have worn my fancy hat"

She did eventually respond, but the fact you seriously considered sending this (among other things) shows weakness in your frame. My point is you're too desperate to make it work with this girl and she's going to pick up on it, if she hasn't already. Don't put all your eggs in one basket, you need to keep pursuing other women actively at the same time. It's not just about her.