Frustrating Text Convo

[Hobbs]

I met a girl on the subway yesterday, walked up to her and after 2 minutes of conversation I gave her my number and told her to text me.
Went really smooth and it seemed promising.
She was a tall, thin brunette, great smile, cute face so I was happy.

So anyways, tonight, (about 6 hours later) she texts me

HB8: Hi Hobbs, It's Stacey
(so far so good, lots of interest it looks)
Me: Hey, how's it going?
HB8: Hi, who is this? Lol
(... wtf lol )
Me: It's Hobbs, you just texted me
HB8: Ohh, okay just kind of confused with it being an email
( My iphone I guess appears as an email SOMETIMES when I text people instead of a number, it sucks)
Me: Yeah, it does that sometimes, Anyways what's up?
HB8: Yea? It says " Hobbs email address " @ blah blah "
HB8: at the stop
HB8: top*
Me: Oh well, I guess it will just make me stand out, what are you up too?

HB8: When I sent you my first message it was to the number you gave it came up Green bubble writing but when you mesage me it took me to this convo and it had a blue bubble writing

^... Are you ****ing serious!?! I dont give a **** about my phone or how the text message looks, FUUCCKKKKKKK

Me: That's iMessage, You have an iPhone, its how cool people text

HB8: I know but.... it was green in the message I sent you earlier

( FUUUUUCCCKKKKKKK!!! )

Me: Alright. Enough with my phone. What are you up too

HB8: Laying in bed watching seinfeld
(I ****ing hate that show, this is strike 2 )

Me: Really? the breaking bad premiere is on you ever watch it?
(probably shouldnt have mentioned that, at this point I just want any sort of sane conversation)

HB8: Naw
(At this point im pretty pissed off )

Me: I make one last attempt to save this conversation. I mention a thing I said to her on the bus that we talked about that I called the 'slut test' before I got her number.

HB8: Lol

(so now, I cant believe how ****ing dull this girl is so I decide thats strike 3 and call it quits by sending )

Me: Your a really interesting person
(just so she knows why I stopped conversation)

So I leave it at that for the rest of the night.
Then this morning I get a text from her saying

HB8: Why thank you

WHAT THE ****??? haha
I guess the sarcasm was too thinly veiled
Or maybe she was giving me a **** test and by me not responding to her for the rest of the night/ending convo
she tried to save it this morning?

I'm no idiot with talking to girls, I can usually maintain a conversation but this seemed work.
She's just really freaking cute and I think I could have fun with her if we met up in person. Before I meet up with her I just want to be able to have a f****** conversation with her.
Keep in mind this conversation was so frustrating because how slow it progressed, Its fast to read it when its typed out like this
But there were probably up to 1-2min before each text at least so, her being hung up on the colour of the text message 'bubbles'.. that just drove me crazy

Any ideas on a good response or what this girls problem is?

 

[SamTheHobit]

Dude the majority of girls are like this.. Just get used to fvcking your hand. This generation is doomed.

 

[Hobbs]

Man...
I just started a NoFap

 

[Iceberg]

Any ideas on a good response or what this girls problem is?

Her problem is that she's a f**king idiot. Hah.

 

[AAAgent]

You should have cut off the convo once you realized she was being retarded and wasting your time. I do this all the time with girls. If they waste my time with texting, i just don't respond or just give them real short curt answers.

If they respond why, i'll hit them back with a

AAA: What are you up to?
hb: blah blah
AAA: cool. want to go to xyz at 8?
Hb:
1.) maybe, i'm not sure. (i just won't respond, and most of the time they'll respond back to try with either a yes or a no. it's usually yes.)
2.) I actually have plans. (Alright then, have fun.)
3.) Sure. (Alright, i'll swing by and pick you up at 8.)

Don't let the girls waste your time or control your schedule.

 

[Hobbs]

want to go to xyz at 8?
Hb:
1.) maybe, i'm not sure. (i just won't respond, and most of the time they'll respond back to try with either a yes or a no. it's usually yes.)
2.) I actually have plans. (Alright then, have fun.)
3.) Sure. (Alright, i'll swing by and pick you up at 8.)

Don't let the girls waste your time or control your schedule.

That's good advice
But I wasnt even at the point of scheduling to meet up,
I was just trying to get past the introduction and it took all of this haha.

 

[ebracer05]

Dude, you should have cut things off much earlier. This girl sounds like she is fvcking retarded. I see this a lot though and I don't really understand it... guys try and get in these texting conversations with girls that go absolutely nowhere and never eject.

You have to keep your purpose in mind dude and continually ask yourself if what you're doing is helping or hindering it. This didn't help.

This is also why I like the phone so much better than text messaging. Not that you can't get in to the same types of problems on the phone, but texting is such a low risk and low investment form of communication, guys and girls alike who are too scared to talk on the phone choose it. I have a feeling if the same guys who were too scared to talk on the phone called instead of texted girls like this, there wouldn't be some long drawn out conversation because the fear they have that made them not want to call would intensify as the conversation bombed or went in to whatever strange mental frame this girl had and prompted them to eject sooner.

Anyways dude, learn how to eject from bad conversations via text and don't even let them continue when you discover they aren't facilitating your goals. I don't know that you terminally screwed anything up with this girl, but I'd have to ask based on this conversation why you would want to be with a girl like this.

EDIT - Remember, you are the man. Do not be afraid to redirect, even coarsely, the course of the conversation. "Hey, how's it going" (once she knows who you are) is enough for the introduction. What do you want out of the convo? If she keeps sending words that don't really mean anything or aren't going the direction you want, shift the frame bro. Don't even answer her questions or respond to her statements. Suppose you want to meet up... be like: "That's nice. You wanna (insert date request)". That's it. As others have said, don't let the girl control the conversation!

 

[NewAndImproved]

The whole green vs. blue iMessage and email vs. phone number showing up pisses me off, too!!!

Heh, this girl is funny.

 

[Hobbs]

I'd have to ask based on this conversation why you would want to be with a girl like this.

EDIT - Remember, you are the man. Do not be afraid to redirect, even coarsely, the course of the conversation. "Hey, how's it going" (once she knows who you are) is enough for the introduction.

I don't want to BE with her. I just want to hook up with her.
She's hot. And IN person, thought it was only 2 minutes, she didn't seem retarded lol.

I understand everything you're saying about ejecting, but i'm a tenacious person, and maybe with a little elbow grease I could figure her quirks out and get past them.

I also said "hey How's it going" And other attempts to change the course of the conversation, like I said, I was pretty much just shocked at how stupid everything was spiraling into

 

[SoSuave666]

It's so hard to build attraction over text. What you are actually trying to do is build rapport. A conversation via text is something I will always disagree with, but I can understand why some people do it, especially early on. You want to get to know her, break the ice, show her you're not a creep, I get it. You also run the risk of falling into the friendzone if you don't hurry up and get a meetup. No one is going to think "oh this guy just got so much hotter to me because he texts like a porn star." No, you fvck like a porn star. Most things that build attractions are done IN PERSON. It's why so many people on here will tell you to text ONLY when setting up dates. I tend to agree with that sentiment.

Smaller, wittier, open-ended texts are best to try and build some sort of attraction. It will keep you a semi-mystery while also being in communication. You'll also be able to pull off C&F with texting which can help. She seems like kind of a dolt though....not sure if that's the type of girl you're after. I mean, she didn't get the sarcasm in your last text. As a matter of fact, she took it as a straight up compliment. You have now crossed the barrier of 'some dude with enough balls to approach on the train' and moved into 'supplicating complimenty guy who texts with her all night' territory. If you are going to text her again, just escalate to a meet up.

 

[AAAgent]

Stop trying to change the conversation and just get to the point. The most fluff talk should be

AAA:Hey, it's AAA. What are you up to?
Hb:blah blah
AAA: cool. i'm heading to xyz at 8. want to come?

All this fluff talk and trying to change the convo just makes it 10x easier for you to say 1 wrong thing and screw your opportunity.

 

[Hobbs]

I mean, she didn't get the sarcasm in your last text. As a matter of fact, she took it as a straight up compliment. You have now crossed the barrier of 'some dude with enough balls to approach on the train' and moved into 'supplicating complimenty guy who texts with her all night' territory.

Hahaha, your right. That's actually pretty funny how it changed like that when I was trying to be a ****. I still cant believe this girl.

All this fluff talk and trying to change the convo just makes it 10x easier for you to say 1 wrong thing and screw your opportunity.

Not with me man.
I'm usually pretty good at escalating things from text, building rapport, so when I meet up with her it doesn't feel to her like it's the
'first' date
Usually I talk a broad up a bit then when I meet up its straight to sex

My game is usually
Get Number and close fast -> Build Rapport through text -> Schedule meet up at my or her place -> Accomplish Goal

 

[omega05]

I only had a 2 minute conversation with you before I gave you my number but sure I'll go out with you without having a conversation with you..come on man

Oh and by the way seinfeld is that show