Buddha_Mind
Master Don Juan
I've posted about a recent ended LTR, I've gotten a lot of AFC-criticism -- which truthfully, I do not take as flames because I desire IMPROVEMENT -- I've got to look at what's wrong to find out what to do to be RIGHT (am I right here, eh?)
I had moved back to the midwest about 4 months ago, having grown up in various midwest places. I have a long-time friend who I've known since I was about 15. I was an overweight kid in high school -- really developed a great deal of internal strength and lots of change through my college years and into my twenties.
I've known his sister since she was about 16. She knew the fat-timid-Buddha and saw him change into who he is presently. I've seen her on most holidays when I visit my friend -- she is very sexy, confident, takes care of her business. The last time I was with her I was involved in past-said-relationship, but definitely had a strong attraction to her also.
I believe she caught wind of my breakup, as she just recently asked me to "dinner".
My conundrum:
(a) My mind is still a little ****ed from this past break-up. I can't get involved with someone right now from a relationship standpoint...at least I don't think so.
(b) I'm setting my sights on getting back out to Seattle.
(c) She is the sister to one of my best-friends whom I consider a brother and have known since I was 15.
My fear is that if things do not end well -- or if things go in an improper path, that this will negatively effect my friendship with my old-friend [who has always been an advocate of me, and a believer in my personal success].
I am also very close to their entire family, them having known me over 10+ years now. They think very highly of me -- get excited when I come over and for some reason or another, consider me a "special presence" to be around...
What do I do? Do I have dinner 1:1 with her...I could always abstain from sexual behavior and enjoy her vibe...there is a part of me that could make a move I am most certain it would be reciprocated...but I am wondering what the best route is here...I could have fun and let it be what it is...
She has always been encouraging and supportive of my goals -- she has always thought highly of me -- and she's seen a great amount of change within me...
Is this dangerous territory? ...am I walking from one problem into another?
Am I overthinking this and should just view this as a blessing and enjoy?
Perspectives are desired please.
I had moved back to the midwest about 4 months ago, having grown up in various midwest places. I have a long-time friend who I've known since I was about 15. I was an overweight kid in high school -- really developed a great deal of internal strength and lots of change through my college years and into my twenties.
I've known his sister since she was about 16. She knew the fat-timid-Buddha and saw him change into who he is presently. I've seen her on most holidays when I visit my friend -- she is very sexy, confident, takes care of her business. The last time I was with her I was involved in past-said-relationship, but definitely had a strong attraction to her also.
I believe she caught wind of my breakup, as she just recently asked me to "dinner".
My conundrum:
(a) My mind is still a little ****ed from this past break-up. I can't get involved with someone right now from a relationship standpoint...at least I don't think so.
(b) I'm setting my sights on getting back out to Seattle.
(c) She is the sister to one of my best-friends whom I consider a brother and have known since I was 15.
My fear is that if things do not end well -- or if things go in an improper path, that this will negatively effect my friendship with my old-friend [who has always been an advocate of me, and a believer in my personal success].
I am also very close to their entire family, them having known me over 10+ years now. They think very highly of me -- get excited when I come over and for some reason or another, consider me a "special presence" to be around...
What do I do? Do I have dinner 1:1 with her...I could always abstain from sexual behavior and enjoy her vibe...there is a part of me that could make a move I am most certain it would be reciprocated...but I am wondering what the best route is here...I could have fun and let it be what it is...
She has always been encouraging and supportive of my goals -- she has always thought highly of me -- and she's seen a great amount of change within me...
Is this dangerous territory? ...am I walking from one problem into another?
Am I overthinking this and should just view this as a blessing and enjoy?
Perspectives are desired please.
