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Jake_tha_Boss

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theres this girl named HB Brooke any way i started hanging out with her last fall mid- october to early december wen she got a boyfriend,then up until late february we didnt hang out an only saw each other every now an then at school
recently we started chillin again, however she was sayin we were "best friends"
and lately shes been callin me her brother, i still wanna get with her but i have a gut feeling all is lost because i seem to be WAY too far in the friend zone an there is no hope of anything ever happening, ive thought of tryin the FWB road with her but idk that much about it please help
 

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We're gonna need a little more detail.. When you hang out, is there any kino, any sexual escalation?
 

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No not real a hug here or there but not much else any she been partyin with us but at times i feel like she jus a moochin ***** cuz she is jus bein friendly an partyin on our bill (me an my friends that is) shell usually have this chick named ashley one of my friends is talkin to i really wanna beleive i can fix my fvck up but i have a gut feeling im too far
 

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Yeah man, if you've known her and hung with her since October, and all the physical contact she's gotten from you is hugs, she's going to see you as a friend. Notice the physicality between a girl and her closest friends. You'll notice it's usually hugs all around, stuff like that. If you act like her friend, she'll have it engraved in her mind that that's all you want or will ever need to be.
 

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well say i were to stop all contact with her for a few months again then come back on stronger in after that would that work?
 

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Well decided on gettin smart and ditchin that ***** like an old couch she aint worth the effort
 

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I've learned the hard way, once she calls you her brother you're fvcked. It's hard to get out, so you might as well just move on to the next.
 

You essentially upped your VALUE in her eyes by showing her that, if she wants you, she has to at times do things that you like to do. You are SOMETHING after all. You are NOT FREE. If she wants to hang with you, it's going to cost her something — time, effort, money.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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DJ_Hero said:
I used to believe in the friend zone, and I was actually put in it by some girls. But you can avoid it and it's simple. If you treat a girl like a friend, guess what? She will become your friend. You have to be naturally very sexual and never treat any girl as a friend (unless a whale is becoming attracted to you).

I've at least made out with about 5 people in my social circle who would have been considered my friend. If you believe you're in the friend zone then I'm sorry, but you are.

Try a throw a few sexual innuendos into conversation. At first the girl might be like "Ew!" or "Stop it :p" but in jest. If you keep it up, you will see her true colours. She will either become very receptive or she will tell you straight up to stop. If it's the latter then this will be you.
I agree with your post man. Sometimes it may be hard being or saying more sexual things if it's not what you are used to but if you look at the guys in school who would be considered a "player or ladies man" they will most likely be more sexual than the average guy. If I were you I'd still talk to her, if you think you have no shot you could still be her friend. Trust me man I have been friends with a girl who is gorgeous and we have been just friends for a while but sometimes I'll hit her up for advice. Plus you get introduced to new hot chicks you wouldn't have met without her help. But fortunately for me, she asked me to prom and I kept it sexual all night with dancing and the afterparties (till 5 a.m.) ;) So just keep her as a friend if you know you don't have a shot at getting her and maybe she will see you in a different light once she sees you with different girls.
 
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