There is a girl in my social circle that caught my interest. One of those girls that seems to get it in how a man just is, or maybe just how I am.
Known for seven or so months, unavailable for 5 of them. Over the last few weeks, she ends up with me, one on one, pretty much every time we see each other and its not my doing. I have been asked if we had a thing going.
So, one night, I decide that i may actually want to start something with her. I asked her out and I got shot down. She told me that although she feels strongly connected to me, that she couldn't get involved with me because she though that my situation was too complicated..bla, bla, bla (what is complicated isn't really relevant here) and added that all connections don't need to be romantic. I simply said OK, that's life and maybe we shouldn't hang out so much since other women will think that we are a couple. I then changed the subject. Obviously, I'm freindzoned, but honestly not looking to get out since its not ever worth trying.
There are limited places to hang out right now and my group frequents the one place with a large, open outdoor space that stays open later than 8. So a couple of nights ago (just a few days after my shoot down), I go there and sit with a couple of my buds to watch a game and had no idea that she was there until she popped up next to me. I just said hi, kept it short and she went back to the girls. Later she comes and sits at the table right next to me. I needed to leave and she happened to be in the bathroom, so I said "tell her I said see you later" and left. I get a text: "Seriously? You got a drink a few minutes before I sat down" with a frown emoji. I didn't reply, but that's not uncommon. So the next night, at the same place, my friends had just left and I'm sitting and finishing my beer, when she appears with a fresh beer for me and asks "can we talk about last night", sits down and tells me that me leaving without saying goodbye was weird and then not replying to her text from last night "all day" had caused her a lot of anxiety. She found out that I left because she was told that I said "see you later", just as I would for any friend. I told her that I had to get to a store before it closed (true). I thought that was the end of it, but she brought it up twice more over the next ten minutes, right down to checking how close the time I said the store closed to the time of her text regarding my exit. It was like she thought that i was lying. WTF should she even care?
So here i am now with a pretty large social circle of people and I need to shut her down without coming across as a d**k and in a way that she can't spin it that I was. I just want some separation and it appears that, by accident, I found out that she isn't going to take it well. The last thing I want people to think is that I'm butthurt from her shooting me down and am sure that whatever occurs is going to become girly gossip.
Any insight or ideas?
I know, long read. I trimmed it the best that i could
Known for seven or so months, unavailable for 5 of them. Over the last few weeks, she ends up with me, one on one, pretty much every time we see each other and its not my doing. I have been asked if we had a thing going.
So, one night, I decide that i may actually want to start something with her. I asked her out and I got shot down. She told me that although she feels strongly connected to me, that she couldn't get involved with me because she though that my situation was too complicated..bla, bla, bla (what is complicated isn't really relevant here) and added that all connections don't need to be romantic. I simply said OK, that's life and maybe we shouldn't hang out so much since other women will think that we are a couple. I then changed the subject. Obviously, I'm freindzoned, but honestly not looking to get out since its not ever worth trying.
There are limited places to hang out right now and my group frequents the one place with a large, open outdoor space that stays open later than 8. So a couple of nights ago (just a few days after my shoot down), I go there and sit with a couple of my buds to watch a game and had no idea that she was there until she popped up next to me. I just said hi, kept it short and she went back to the girls. Later she comes and sits at the table right next to me. I needed to leave and she happened to be in the bathroom, so I said "tell her I said see you later" and left. I get a text: "Seriously? You got a drink a few minutes before I sat down" with a frown emoji. I didn't reply, but that's not uncommon. So the next night, at the same place, my friends had just left and I'm sitting and finishing my beer, when she appears with a fresh beer for me and asks "can we talk about last night", sits down and tells me that me leaving without saying goodbye was weird and then not replying to her text from last night "all day" had caused her a lot of anxiety. She found out that I left because she was told that I said "see you later", just as I would for any friend. I told her that I had to get to a store before it closed (true). I thought that was the end of it, but she brought it up twice more over the next ten minutes, right down to checking how close the time I said the store closed to the time of her text regarding my exit. It was like she thought that i was lying. WTF should she even care?
So here i am now with a pretty large social circle of people and I need to shut her down without coming across as a d**k and in a way that she can't spin it that I was. I just want some separation and it appears that, by accident, I found out that she isn't going to take it well. The last thing I want people to think is that I'm butthurt from her shooting me down and am sure that whatever occurs is going to become girly gossip.
Any insight or ideas?
I know, long read. I trimmed it the best that i could
