Friend = AFC his girlfriend = B***h

[T-Roy]

Howdy folks. I've got a bit of a pickle here. Me and my friend are in University. Me him and a another pal of mine used to always hang out together pretty much every day unless one of us had a date. Now, this friend in question has never had a real girlfriend. This is his first LTR and it's a bad one. I'm going to refer to my friend as "Whipped" and the girl as "B".

Now B is a year younger than us, she's got this hot/adorable thing going for her and I even used to like her. Before she started dating Whipped she was with this other guy who was a total pansy arse AFC. He was a sad excuse for a man, and she cheated on him all the time. Their relationship lasted for years.

She then dumped him and moved onto my friend. He doesn't hang out with us, he pays for her cell phone, he had over two grand saved up but now has none as he spent it all on her. He is now in debt to the collage which he wouldn't have been if not for her. He mostly avoids us and she has alienated him from pretty much everyone. He drops every plan he has if it comes down to her or anything else, he skipped tons of classes, he barely goes to work anymore, and he tries to guilt my other friend into driving him miles everyday just to see her. By this point my other friend just stopped.

Oh and B is constantly calling her ex, and texting him when she is with Whipped. Her ex is now an O.K and respectable guy. She is like some kind of freaking leech and everyone I know who was friends with Whipped hates her now too. (He was a really popular guy and now spends time with no one.)

Is there anything we (Whipped's friends) can do?

 

[Kailex]

Sounds like the plot from Saving Silverman.

To be honest, there's not much you can do. But I'll let you know right now, when B branch swings again, I really hope you'll be there for your friend.

Like you said, it's his first LTR, so he doesn't know what he's doing... so he's not going to listen to reason at this point. He's blinded. But the last thing he'll need once she does dump him, is friends that turned his back on him.

This relationship will be like watching a train wreck. You wish you could do something to stop it, but you really can't... and at the same time, you have to look.

I really wish there was something you could do, but at this point, there's not much really... let him learn the hard way.

 

[Warrior74]

I have a friend who constantly dates vapid bytchs who waste his life, all because he's a slave to poon. There is not much you can do, even if you talk to him and he agrees with you, you have to treat friends like women, look at his actions, not his words. My buddy knows what he does is shameful. Which is why he doesn't come around or call the fellas because he knows we all will bust on him for being a *****whipped Bytchboy. When he does come around and starts whining about his girl I have to ask him politely to shut up because he put himself in that situation. Cause frankly I don't want to hear it anymore. years of the same whining. ugh!

 

[sodbuster]

Nope,just hope it crashes and burns-worst outcome,he marries her.Just be around to pick up the pieces

 

[Igetit!]

Yeah,I agree with the others. There really isn't anything you can do.


This is kind of like trying to talk sense into a woman when she's in an abusive relationship.


What you say doesn't matter because everything you tell her is reasonable,it makes perfect sense,and it's all rational thinking,but all she cares about is how she feels.


Nothing else matters.



It seems like that's what's going on with your friend.



He has some type of inner void going on inside him and to him,he feels like this girl is the key....despite all the other negative things surrounding her.



Nothing you can do man. You just got to let him bang his head against the wall until HE gets it.


And if it takes 5 more years,then it takes 5 more years.


Like Sodbuster said,you can be there to support him when he crashes,but that's about it.



Whatever you do,if you don't want to lose him as a friend,then DON'T ATTACK THIS GIRL HE'S WITH.



Don't do it. Don't talk about her or put her down to HIM.


It'll make him turn on YOU. You can speak about the RELATIONSHIP,ask him if he's happy,ask him if her likes how he's being treated and such,but don't attack HER directly.

 

[HariPoter13]

Well i got this crazy idea, partly cos im drunk; but the idea still sounds great.

In order to save your friend you will have to lose him as a friend.

Get romantically involved with B. Make her drop him. Drive him to the bottom.

How much do you value your friend? Would you do this for him?

 

[Adonis PUA Trainer]

It's his time to live and learn, don't give advice where it's not asked for

 

[kingsam]

Sounds like the plot from Saving Silverman.

To be honest, there's not much you can do. But I'll let you know right now, when B branch swings again, I really hope you'll be there for your friend.

Like you said, it's his first LTR, so he doesn't know what he's doing... so he's not going to listen to reason at this point. He's blinded. But the last thing he'll need once she does dump him, is friends that turned his back on him.

This relationship will be like watching a train wreck. You wish you could do something to stop it, but you really can't... and at the same time, you have to look.

I really wish there was something you could do, but at this point, there's not much really... let him learn the hard way.

yes, from his point of view he is the one with a gf, so why should he listen to people who dont have a gf, you will only be able to tell him what was wrong after he has been hurt badly by her and its finally over, but even then theres a chance he will still not want to listen.

fisrt gf's often make guys "disapear" ive seen it many times (many of us on the forum have probably been guilty of doning it aswell in the past !)

 

[kingsam]

Get romantically involved with B. Make her drop him. Drive him to the bottom.

please DONT do this, you will probably alienate him forever!

 

[Leporello]

I have to agree: DON"T sleep with B! Your friend will blame you for everything.

Really, there's nothing much you can do, other than laugh about it.