FR: The Lady that Flaked

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Met this lady on Match. She ‘liked’ me and I sent her a message. She replied giving me her phone number and saying she did not like texting and she wanted me to call her. That evening I called her for about 20 minutes and she ended by saying she wanted to meet so a date was arranged.

Day of the date she flaked in the morning saying she did not feel well. I thought, ok, here we go again, another flaker. I sent her my normal positive response “No problem, hope you feel better soon”. My intention then was to forget her unless she made contact.

Three days later she messaged saying she felt a lot better, so a new date was arranged. Date went well, she got there first so by the time I arrived she already had her drink. Some guy was hitting on her but he quickly backed off when I arrived. Good date except when she finished her drink she said she only does one drink on a first date and she was leaving. Walked her to her car, nice hugging and kissing which she was really in to.

A few texts were exchanged later that evening and a dinner date at my house was arranged.

Dinner date was good, cooked, drank, nice kino. After dinner she suggested watching a movie. I did not think this was going anywhere, but I agreed and said let’s go watch in my bedroom, I have a large tv up there. She agreed. We initially made out before putting on the movie. I kept trying to get her top off but she kept resisting saying “I’m not getting naked”. I kept trying and eventually she took it off. A few more tries and I had her bra off. I was really enjoying those breasts.

All of a sudden she grabs the remote, turns the tv off, roles to me and starts ripping my clothes off. She gets naked and starts riding me. When she was done with that she gave me an incredible bj. There were a couple more rounds after that, it was great.

After that she was very open about talking about sex and what she likes and wants to do with me in future sessions.

I have never experienced anything quite like that.

The take home here is that when a woman flakes, it is best to be positive and not nasty. She might have a genuine reason to flake and you might end up inside her.
 

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Nice! :cool:
 

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I haven't got time for flakes. If a woman flakes she goes right to the bottom of the list.
 

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Met this lady on Match. She ‘liked’ me and I sent her a message. She replied giving me her phone number and saying she did not like texting and she wanted me to call her. That evening I called her for about 20 minutes and she ended by saying she wanted to meet so a date was arranged.

Day of the date she flaked in the morning saying she did not feel well. I thought, ok, here we go again, another flaker. I sent her my normal positive response “No problem, hope you feel better soon”. My intention then was to forget her unless she made contact.

Three days later she messaged saying she felt a lot better, so a new date was arranged. Date went well, she got there first so by the time I arrived she already had her drink. Some guy was hitting on her but he quickly backed off when I arrived. Good date except when she finished her drink she said she only does one drink on a first date and she was leaving. Walked her to her car, nice hugging and kissing which she was really in to.

A few texts were exchanged later that evening and a dinner date at my house was arranged.

Dinner date was good, cooked, drank, nice kino. After dinner she suggested watching a movie. I did not think this was going anywhere, but I agreed and said let’s go watch in my bedroom, I have a large tv up there. She agreed. We initially made out before putting on the movie. I kept trying to get her top off but she kept resisting saying “I’m not getting naked”. I kept trying and eventually she took it off. A few more tries and I had her bra off. I was really enjoying those breasts.

All of a sudden she grabs the remote, turns the tv off, roles to me and starts ripping my clothes off. She gets naked and starts riding me. When she was done with that she gave me an incredible bj. There were a couple more rounds after that, it was great.

After that she was very open about talking about sex and what she likes and wants to do with me in future sessions.

I have never experienced anything quite like that.

The take home here is that when a woman flakes, it is best to be positive and not nasty. She might have a genuine reason to flake and you might end up inside her.
I had something similar happen to me...the girl got super aggressive and we got naked and then she was like "we aren't have sex" and I was like OK...and just kept fingering her and she was stroking my c0ck and then begged me to put it in...I kinda snickered when she said we aren't having sex as she was the one who got us to this point and I was pretty confident she didn't do it to have it end there.
 

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Sounds like a woman with mental issues to me. Be careful.
 

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In general yes. OP did not contact her, she reached out to him
She would still be bottom of the list. Why would I schedule plans with someone who flaked and could very likely flake again. I would rather make plans with another girl.
 

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Here are the "take aways" from the interaction:

1. If a woman flakes, simply say no problem. Let her reach out after that.
2. A girl that says she only has one drink on a first date has that rule for a reason. It means she has drank too much and ended up naked several times before.
3. The OP did a good job of creating sechsual tension and pushing forward.
4. Girls like this have impulse control issues. You'll see that manifest even more in the coming weeks.
 

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The men who do the best with women rarely make such hard and rigid lines. Food for thought.
I stick by my philosophy, however I have an ironic update. The girl that flaked on me. My attitude towards her was laid back (she was bottom of my list)


Earlier in the week..she asked to reschedule. I told her the truth...that my weekend was fully booked. She sent me a text yesterday "why don't you call into mine on way back from your night out" so I called into hers and shagged her before I went to meet my friends.

Find it ironic considering original post.
 

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I stick by my philosophy, however I have an ironic update. The girl that flaked on me. My attitude towards her was laid back (she was bottom of my list)


Earlier in the week..she asked to reschedule. I told her the truth...that my weekend was fully booked. She sent me a text yesterday "why don't you call into mine on way back from your night out" so I called into hers and shagged her before I went to meet my friends.

Find it ironic considering original post.
I am not sure what the phrase "call into mine" even means...assuming this is an English English phrase? Not something used in American English.

Is that code for "Stop by my place"?
 

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I am not sure what the phrase "call into mine" even means...assuming this is an English English phrase? Not something used in American English.

Is that code for "Stop by my place"?
Yes it is. She is inviting me to go into her house.
 
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