2006 - July 27
My sister calls me around 10 pm and asks if I would like to join her and two of her friends for a couple of drinks at a bar they are at. Now I figure I could use this as a great learning experience, I do not have to go through the awkward initial approach but I get to refine my conversation skills and more importantly increase my comfort level with girls. So I answer - "Yeah, I've been studying all day, I deserve a beer or two!"
My sisters two friends Mary and Anne both have bf's but seeing that I wasn't looking to get laid I figured I might aswell bring out the full artillery on them anyhow - the worst thing that happens is that I make a fool out of myself and I dont mind that
I join them at the bar they are at and they already had a couple of drinks and after initial "Hello"'s and "How are you?"'s they keep chatting lively with each other and I'm having a hard time to join the conversation. I figure I'll just observe and have a beer for now.
About 30 mins into the conversation I lean in to ask my sister a question when an aquaintance of hers (another girl) comes up to say hello to my sister and interrupts me. This girl seems a little drunk and is blabbering about this and that - me being a little annoyed because she interrupted me in a pretty rude way hold my hand up and make a gesture like a blabbering mouth and loudly say "YADA YADA YADA". This really caught the blabbering girl offguard and she thankfully shuts up and leaves - it also makes Mary laugh because I think she noticed how the interruption annoyed me. I lean in to Mary and say to her so only she can hear me:
Me: - "Oh my god, did I just do that? I'm so rude"
Mary: - "Nah, she was the one being rude - that was fun"
I kept working the "everyone else are idiots, let's talk crap about them and giggle" theme. Now I had her attention and pretty soon me and Mary had our own conversation and my sister and Anne another. This was so evident that when my sister and Anne said we should go on to a nightclub nearby Mary tells them "In a sec - you guys go ahead" and keeps talking to me!
Anyways after a little while we join my sister and Anne at the club and keep drinking, I notice that Mary is getting pretty tipsy and the conversation now is pretty much her blabbering about new-age stuff and ****. I nod politely and let her blabber on...
At this point three other of my sisters friends show up; Susanne, Christina and Amy (S and A have boyfriends, C is single). I know Susanne pretty well because I met her at this club another evening when I was there alone so when she holds her arms out to hug me I hug back, but instead of going cheek to cheek I kiss her on the mouth. She smiles and laughs "You jerk!"
I then turn to Christina - who is good looking (I'd say 7) but has low self-esteem - and say "Damn! You're hot girl!". I think this worked pretty well because I don't know her as well as I do my sisters other friends so she really didn't expect anything else than a polite "hello", she blushes and laughs then gives me a big hug.
Seeing how I'm bored to tears with Marys new-age rambling I strike up conversation with Christina instead. I was much more ****y and aggressive than earlier, perhaps due to the club athmosphere wich isn't really suited for to much of a deep conversation. We exchange a few standard "So what you doing now a days?" and I try to focus the conversation on her and what she's been up to. I then continue:
Me: So are you drunk yet?
Christina: No - I only had a drink so far!
Me: I don't believe you, I'll have to give you the sobriety test!
Christina: ???
Me: Hold your arm out!
I got this one from David D - I show her the spot on her arm where her lower and upper arm meets, by the elbow. I then tell her to close her eyes and to tell me when my finger reaches that spot. I then continue to slowly slowly move my finger from her hand towards that spot. Also, a good thing to do is to place her hand on your upper body - that way you are touching each other and you aint the only one with your filthy paws on her I noticed as I slowly moved my finger upwards her arm that her hand on my upper body was actually grasping my shirt! I lean in and whisper in her ear - "My sister wont let me flirt with her friends, but I'm about to break the rules" and then i nibbled on her neck ever so lightly. She grabbed the back of my head as I did, I figured at this point I could probably have kissed her - and then again she maybe would have pulled away seeing that my sister and their other friends were nearby. Anyways, from the inital "Damn your hot" to me nibbling her neck was maybe 5 minutes so I'll give myself kudos for that one! Offcourse we had met before so it wasn't a cold approach or anything...
Anyways, I didn't want to proceed any further with my sisters friend without serious intent of a possible relationship - that could get me into deep trouble :nono: so I pulled away. I said I needed to find my sister to check if she had my cellphone (lie).
I now see Mary alone on the dance floor - she is like a trance or some spooky new age stuff (or just ****faced) - I decided to find out how much of the earlier good vibes remained so I went up and smiled to her.
Mary: Where you headed?
Me: Outside for a smoke - join me?
Mary: Sure
I then make my way across the dancefloor, purposely leaving her behind at first. I then turn back and smile at her as she is confused and trying to keep up with me through the dancing crowd. I hold my hand out and she grabs it and I then lead her way. As we are walking, holding hands i gently squeeze her hand, not looking at her but still walking and she squezees back! I use my thumb to stroke her hand and i feel her fingers tickling my palm - that was really cool, we werent even looking at each other but making our way trough the club and flirting with our hands at the same time - even got me a bit aroused :crazy: - holding hands is really powerfull kino, especially as it signals to everyone around "Hey look at us, we are together!" in a cute kind of way :flowers:
After the smoke, the club was closing and all the girls and some guys were headed to my sisters place to hang out. I opted not to go seeing that 1: I really didn't want to make any further advances and 2: It could get a bit awkward as I flirted pretty intensly with two different girls who both were headed there.
All in all it was a great night for confidence and experience building. Although I shouldn't hang out too much with my sister, perhaps if she wasn't there I would have gone for a kiss. Then again probably better that I didn't seeing how that could really land me in a world of **** if I'm not carefull
The most interesting experience was the hand holding with Mary - I'm NOT gonna do that again with her or I'll get one'itis for her for sure! :nervous:
Today (thursday) I'll probaby be clubbing again but not with my sister and her friends, also sunday I have a second date with a girl. We'll see how that turns out...
Please comment, I'll keep you posted
My sister calls me around 10 pm and asks if I would like to join her and two of her friends for a couple of drinks at a bar they are at. Now I figure I could use this as a great learning experience, I do not have to go through the awkward initial approach but I get to refine my conversation skills and more importantly increase my comfort level with girls. So I answer - "Yeah, I've been studying all day, I deserve a beer or two!"
My sisters two friends Mary and Anne both have bf's but seeing that I wasn't looking to get laid I figured I might aswell bring out the full artillery on them anyhow - the worst thing that happens is that I make a fool out of myself and I dont mind that
I join them at the bar they are at and they already had a couple of drinks and after initial "Hello"'s and "How are you?"'s they keep chatting lively with each other and I'm having a hard time to join the conversation. I figure I'll just observe and have a beer for now.
About 30 mins into the conversation I lean in to ask my sister a question when an aquaintance of hers (another girl) comes up to say hello to my sister and interrupts me. This girl seems a little drunk and is blabbering about this and that - me being a little annoyed because she interrupted me in a pretty rude way hold my hand up and make a gesture like a blabbering mouth and loudly say "YADA YADA YADA". This really caught the blabbering girl offguard and she thankfully shuts up and leaves - it also makes Mary laugh because I think she noticed how the interruption annoyed me. I lean in to Mary and say to her so only she can hear me:
Me: - "Oh my god, did I just do that? I'm so rude"
Mary: - "Nah, she was the one being rude - that was fun"
I kept working the "everyone else are idiots, let's talk crap about them and giggle" theme. Now I had her attention and pretty soon me and Mary had our own conversation and my sister and Anne another. This was so evident that when my sister and Anne said we should go on to a nightclub nearby Mary tells them "In a sec - you guys go ahead" and keeps talking to me!
Anyways after a little while we join my sister and Anne at the club and keep drinking, I notice that Mary is getting pretty tipsy and the conversation now is pretty much her blabbering about new-age stuff and ****. I nod politely and let her blabber on...
At this point three other of my sisters friends show up; Susanne, Christina and Amy (S and A have boyfriends, C is single). I know Susanne pretty well because I met her at this club another evening when I was there alone so when she holds her arms out to hug me I hug back, but instead of going cheek to cheek I kiss her on the mouth. She smiles and laughs "You jerk!"
I then turn to Christina - who is good looking (I'd say 7) but has low self-esteem - and say "Damn! You're hot girl!". I think this worked pretty well because I don't know her as well as I do my sisters other friends so she really didn't expect anything else than a polite "hello", she blushes and laughs then gives me a big hug.
Seeing how I'm bored to tears with Marys new-age rambling I strike up conversation with Christina instead. I was much more ****y and aggressive than earlier, perhaps due to the club athmosphere wich isn't really suited for to much of a deep conversation. We exchange a few standard "So what you doing now a days?" and I try to focus the conversation on her and what she's been up to. I then continue:
Me: So are you drunk yet?
Christina: No - I only had a drink so far!
Me: I don't believe you, I'll have to give you the sobriety test!
Christina: ???
Me: Hold your arm out!
I got this one from David D - I show her the spot on her arm where her lower and upper arm meets, by the elbow. I then tell her to close her eyes and to tell me when my finger reaches that spot. I then continue to slowly slowly move my finger from her hand towards that spot. Also, a good thing to do is to place her hand on your upper body - that way you are touching each other and you aint the only one with your filthy paws on her
I noticed as I slowly moved my finger upwards her arm that her hand on my upper body was actually grasping my shirt! I lean in and whisper in her ear - "My sister wont let me flirt with her friends, but I'm about to break the rules" and then i nibbled on her neck ever so lightly. She grabbed the back of my head as I did, I figured at this point I could probably have kissed her - and then again she maybe would have pulled away seeing that my sister and their other friends were nearby. Anyways, from the inital "Damn your hot" to me nibbling her neck was maybe 5 minutes so I'll give myself kudos for that one! Offcourse we had met before so it wasn't a cold approach or anything...Anyways, I didn't want to proceed any further with my sisters friend without serious intent of a possible relationship - that could get me into deep trouble :nono: so I pulled away. I said I needed to find my sister to check if she had my cellphone (lie).
I now see Mary alone on the dance floor - she is like a trance or some spooky new age stuff (or just ****faced) - I decided to find out how much of the earlier good vibes remained so I went up and smiled to her.
Mary: Where you headed?
Me: Outside for a smoke - join me?
Mary: Sure
I then make my way across the dancefloor, purposely leaving her behind at first. I then turn back and smile at her as she is confused and trying to keep up with me through the dancing crowd. I hold my hand out and she grabs it and I then lead her way. As we are walking, holding hands i gently squeeze her hand, not looking at her but still walking and she squezees back! I use my thumb to stroke her hand and i feel her fingers tickling my palm - that was really cool, we werent even looking at each other but making our way trough the club and flirting with our hands at the same time - even got me a bit aroused :crazy: - holding hands is really powerfull kino, especially as it signals to everyone around "Hey look at us, we are together!" in a cute kind of way :flowers:
After the smoke, the club was closing and all the girls and some guys were headed to my sisters place to hang out. I opted not to go seeing that 1: I really didn't want to make any further advances and 2: It could get a bit awkward as I flirted pretty intensly with two different girls who both were headed there.
All in all it was a great night for confidence and experience building. Although I shouldn't hang out too much with my sister, perhaps if she wasn't there I would have gone for a kiss. Then again probably better that I didn't seeing how that could really land me in a world of **** if I'm not carefull
The most interesting experience was the hand holding with Mary - I'm NOT gonna do that again with her or I'll get one'itis for her for sure! :nervous:
Today (thursday) I'll probaby be clubbing again but not with my sister and her friends, also sunday I have a second date with a girl. We'll see how that turns out...
Please comment, I'll keep you posted
