Okay so today I lunch, I basically sat there looking at the direction of a girls table for almost all lunch period until I finally got the balls to approach the group of girls. So I go in there say "Hey" one girl says "Hey", but I couldn't seem to get the groups attention. But I wasn't going to give up, so I said to one of the girls, who I recognized from track, "Hey, you do track don't you?". And that lead to a pretty interesting conversation, we talked about track and she told me how she did shotput and eventually I told her I did distance, and she talked about how she could never see herself doing distance. So we talked about track for a while, and from then, I can't really orderly remember the conversation. She introduced me to her friends at some time in the conversation and I got to know them, and we also talked about prom. Also, she told me she was in pre-calc and eventually I asked her if she could help me with geometry. She said she "could" help me with geometry during lunch, but when I asked for the number, she declined. I also asked her about her weekend, and we talked about Smallville, which was a tv show we both happened to like. At the end of the period, I tried to number close AGAIN, and she declined, AGAIN. She said something like "Uh... I don't know, but it was nice meeting you" translated from Womanese to English, "No, I don't feel safe giving you my number". Ah well, if anything I found a girl I can talk to whenever I'm bored, or not hanging with my friends. Something I got a work on is involving her friends, I basically ignored them for most of the time. I probably came off as too desperate for her number and she didn't feel comfortable giving it to me. I feel like such an idiot for taking so long to get the balls to approach.
FR: Interested, but didn't want to give me her number.
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SenorSuave
Don Juan
You should have walked away after the first failure. But how exactly did you ask for her number? Just flat out "May I have your number?" or what?
THE_ADDMAN
Master Don Juan
if she didnt give u her number, she aint interested. move onto some girls who are
I don't know... just kind of asked for her number after she said that she could indeed help me with geometry. After that we talked for a bit more, the bill rang, tried to close again, she said "Well.. I don't know, but it was nice meeting you.". She never really said "no" but it was obvious she didn't want to give me her number(Changed subjects when I asked). Now I know that just because you're having a good convo with the girl, doesn't mean she's interested.
So I should basically move on? Not even be friends? Ah well. Atleast it was good conversation. Infact, this was one of the longest lasting conversations I've ever had with a girl I approached. But eh, if she aint interested, there's nothing I can do. And hey, if I need help with geometry I know who to go to now. If I need someone to f*ck, I'll look elsewhere.
After school 2 senior friends of mine said they saw me "spitting game" to the girl during lunch.
SenorSuave
Don Juan
Move on to the next one. You can say hi and stuff but otherwise you should just move on. Next time give a purpose for getting her number, like studying or hanging out. And when they say no, don't take it as a rejection; you didn't get rejected, your game did. Just move on though.
EDIT: of course, you can always do what I do with the smart ones; spit enough game at them to make them interested, then let them do your schoolwork while your out with the HB 8+'s haha
EDIT: of course, you can always do what I do with the smart ones; spit enough game at them to make them interested, then let them do your schoolwork while your out with the HB 8+'s haha
Yeah, that's what I'm going to do, move on. Of course I'm not going to completely ditch the chick or her friends though, I'll still talk to them once a while(Maybe go up to their table start small talk). But tell me, why do you think the chick declined? We seemed to be vibing great. She didn't exactly say "No" but she gave off a vibe that said "I don't trust you with my number". If she was interested, she would've just said yes. In the end, when I tried to number close again, kind of said "But I'd like to talk to you again, so is there a number I can call?" I got "I don't know... But it was nice meeting you".SenorSuave said:
Rata Blanca
Senior Don Juan
she declines, she ain't interested.
Try going fo the number when you both have to go.
"I would like to get in contact with you later on"
Try going fo the number when you both have to go.
"I would like to get in contact with you later on"
That's what I did, the bell rang.Rata Blanca said:
What I don't understand is why she was vibing with me(Turns out we have a lot in common), and we had good, long conversation, and then she just... declines. Is it common for women to vibe and have good conversation? Then just say no?
Snow Plowman
Master Don Juan
WTF
Are you giving up already!?
A girl declines a #close it means her BT isn't there yet. From the whole thing it sounded like you weren't giving value. When a girl says no it doesn't mean you failed or that she doesn't even like it...it just means the knob isn't there yet and she isn't welling to comply yet.
It's crazy how guys NEXT so fast. The thing is being persistant, that will get you far. I had a natural friend who was trying to close a girl friend that I knew. Now he tried I think 4 times to # close this girl and she just wouldn't give it to him. But you know what he learned from it and another day he tried and he got it. If I'm not mistaken she was the one reminding him to take the #.
The point I'm trying to put across is that anything where she declines your request, means she isn't ready yet. Her buying temperature isn't there yet. When What I mean is that if you attempted something and she didn't go with it but is still standing there talking then it just mean Buying temperature isn't at the point yet.
Side note - Another thing to always know is that women live in the emotion of the moment. A girl could be kissing you one minute and pissed off at you the next minute. Or she could hate you when you first talk to her and 30 minutes your back at her house about to close.
So what is that saying...You can never really fail at this, because if you stay there stick to your gameplan and be persistant over time she will become attracted. If you could meet a girl and talk to her as long as you want without food, sleep, etc then you'd be able to pull 100% because the only thing that may stop you is a flake, or bad logistics. Once you leave that set the girl basically forgets about you.
Are you giving up already!?
A girl declines a #close it means her BT isn't there yet. From the whole thing it sounded like you weren't giving value. When a girl says no it doesn't mean you failed or that she doesn't even like it...it just means the knob isn't there yet and she isn't welling to comply yet.
It's crazy how guys NEXT so fast. The thing is being persistant, that will get you far. I had a natural friend who was trying to close a girl friend that I knew. Now he tried I think 4 times to # close this girl and she just wouldn't give it to him. But you know what he learned from it and another day he tried and he got it. If I'm not mistaken she was the one reminding him to take the #.
The point I'm trying to put across is that anything where she declines your request, means she isn't ready yet. Her buying temperature isn't there yet. When What I mean is that if you attempted something and she didn't go with it but is still standing there talking then it just mean Buying temperature isn't at the point yet.
Side note - Another thing to always know is that women live in the emotion of the moment. A girl could be kissing you one minute and pissed off at you the next minute. Or she could hate you when you first talk to her and 30 minutes your back at her house about to close.
So what is that saying...You can never really fail at this, because if you stay there stick to your gameplan and be persistant over time she will become attracted. If you could meet a girl and talk to her as long as you want without food, sleep, etc then you'd be able to pull 100% because the only thing that may stop you is a flake, or bad logistics. Once you leave that set the girl basically forgets about you.
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
Yes, but you continue with other girls and she's not your main target.
In the mean time, you continue self improving.
In the mean time, you continue self improving.
DJ1234
Senior Don Juan
It almost sounds like she is JLBF but I bet you could get her number...try just talking to one of her friends and see her reaction.
plus your not doing anything to give her a good reason to give you her number, sometimes you have to do more than a good convo to me the way you made it sound there was no flirting in the convo just talking about school sometimes that works but you gotta let her know that your wanting to be more than just a study buddy, and by giving up shows your not in control of yourself your not bein relaxed and charming. But look at it this way she is kind of testing you, give her a reason to give her the number give her the sexual kind of suave smile when you pass her in the hallway, and dont let this girl be your main person because many guys in here do that and it causes them to not think like a DJ not use what they know and talk to her one day the next day dont compelety leave her alone but make her wonder why you arnt talkin to her then the next day or the day after talk to her again push and pull don't forget that one. but just do some actually flirting and one of those days your not talkin to her a lot ( a day when your laughing with your friends at lunch ) go over to her table be like im goin to get some coffee ( or some place to eat or drink or hang out ) today after school j/w if you would like to join me, and if she says no dont give her a chance to give you a reason why be like k thats cool ill talk to you later and go over to your friends and start laughing again make it seem like her saying no has no effect on you at all.