Existential
Don Juan
FR: How I Slept With an Aspiring Import Model and Her Sister (Part II)
Recap
Last time we left off with me driving HBSister home. She is the sister of the original target, HBImport.
The Days After
HBImport finds me on MySpace and makes several remarks about me and her sister. I completely ignore these. My frame is, "You could be a cool new friend. Shes not even on my radar as something that is potentially more." Now, this obviously not what I logically know to be true. In order for me to be congruent with this I need to compartmentalize.
HBImport asks me about helping design the club I am hoping to open (Side note: Didn't go through with it). The conversation quickly progresses to AIM. She makes sexualized remarks to the effect of, "We have to be careful to not cross the line between business and pleasure."
Now, most guys would respond with sexualized conversation. Me? I talk about her sister. This tango goes on for approximately a week. I slowly add in sexual remarks, but, I always have plausible deniability; and, I always use it to withdrawal soon after. She is completely unsure of my feelings for her. All she knows is that her sister was able to sleep with me and right now I am in no way responding like a man who is interested in her. She is compelled to chase further.
HBImport is also a masseuse. She does some sort of promotional night at a bar a few towns away. She says I should come in and visit her so that we can talk business. I accept her request.
Meeting up with HBImport
An actual escort has been making suggestive comments to me for a while on MySpace. She's likely fishing for additional clientele. Unbeknownst to her, she is inadvertantly ventured into waters too deep for her to handle. I tell her that she and her roommate should join my group of friends for the night.
Also in the group is my cousin and her female friend. To round out the group is a former student of mine. All in all, we total four women and two men.
From the getgo HBEscort is vibing me. The entire group is wondering why we are driving thirty minutes to go to some podunk bar. Other then my former student, the rest are told I'm meeting a friend.
The bar is actually quite big and crowded despite the fact that it is a Wednesday night. Apparently, it is some sort of anniversary party.
We all take a seat at a table. I notice HBImport giving a massage on one side. I know she notices me but I intentionally do not make contact. She is currently being fawned over by several AFCs. The type who will pay a dollar a minute for a massage.
HBImport comes over and greets us. I introduce her to the group and make note of the girl coding being done between HBEscort and HBImport. HBImport moves noticeably closer to me.
One of the AFCs from earlier comes up behind HBImport and whisks her to the dance floor. I don't even turn to look. My cousin looks at me and I tell her that it's alright, HBImport will be going home with me.
Meanwhile, HBEscort has taken the opportunity to seize my attention. For the next thirty minutes the group interacts and we have not heard from HBImport.
Suddenly, I feel hands on my back and long, silken black hair is in my face.
HBImport: Come with me I want you to meet someone.
Ex: Alright.
HBEscort: (stunned look)
HBImport takes me by the hand and out onto the patio. She introduces me to the owner of the bar and his collection of friends. HBImport next tells me how much she enjoys my MySpace profile song (Jay Chou - Hair Like Snow) and she loves that I have Thai music on my site. I correct her...it's Chinese.
We end up making a wager and I call a friend of mine who spent several months in China for confirmation. Moments later, I'm collective my winnings; a free massage. I enjoy this as she sensually drops her hair in my face. Our conversation continues intermittently as we whisper into one another's ears.
The Rest of The Group Departs
My cousin and her friend come over to say goodbye. HBEscort, her friend, and my student have moved outside to the patio.
I go back over to reconvene with the group. HBEscort has developed a pissy mood. She says that her and her friend are about ready to leave. I tell her it was nice meeting her. As they are departing, her friend apologizes for her attitude on her behalf.
My student and I talk for a few minutes. We open up a set and once I know that he is doing alright I go back to HBImport. I take her to dance floor and we dance for a while.
I notice the AFCs from earlier looking at us.
Ex: Your friends look like they want to talk to you.
HBImport: They aren't friends.
Ex: Oh...a...boyfriend?
HBImport: No, I don't have a boyfriend.
Ex: I see.
We dance awhile longer and then reconvene with my former student.
Ex: I have to drop him off first, but, I can meet you for a while at Steak n' Shake.
HBImport agrees.
End of the Night
At Steak n' Shake I sit on the same side of the booth as HBImport. We built rapport and physically escalate. She behaves much in the same manner as her sister did. Nothing out of the ordinary occurred. After we were done eating we walked out to the parking lot.
Existential: You will follow me then?
HBImport: Where?
Existential: To my house.
HBImport: Oh...where you took my sister?
Existential: Yes.
HBImport: Ok.
We arrive back at my house and I turn on the TV. We're under the covers and cuddling.
HBImport: What did you do with my sister that night?
Existential: That night? We kissed and fell asleep.
HBImport knows what happened between her sister and I. Her sister told me she told her. Just the same, if she wants to pretend she doesn't know, that's ok with me and I understand why. Also notice...I didn't lie. We didn't do anything else that night. It was the morning after.
By this time it is very late, I am tired, and the first thing on my mind is sleep. The fact that HBImport doesn't seem to want to go any further is fine with me. I roll over and tell her good night.
Not fifteen second later there is a palpable energy shift in the room. HBImport has turned from being the uncertain girl to the agressive woman. I am a bit taken aback as she literally throws herself on me.
Needless to say, I didn't get any sleep for the entire night.
Girlfriend, Friends with Benefits, or, Nothing?
In the coming weeks HBImport and I spend several nights together. We go from officially being friends with benefits to her being my "nonexclusive girlfriend." This simmered down as she moved a few hours away. I still see her out on occassion if she is back in town to see her family. I still consider her a friend.
As for HBSister, her and I are still friends. This is an important point. If you're always honest about your intentions and what you expect women will not be angry with you. It's the guy who attempts to manipulate or lies who ends up breaking hearts or being the target of feminine outrage.