FR: "Glad We're Around A Real Man"

[NewAndImproved]

Short field report. Thought maybe it was worth posting just because it shows just how everything is relative and that anyone can remake themselves.

Headed to a lounge for my boy's birthday. It was a 2 weekend celebration and this was the final night. Get there dressed in my good luck zara jacket (batting 100% with it). Spend the first hour just eating and drinking (we got there early) but after a while I got an itch... In my chode days I'd be happy doing whatever my boys were doing. Not anymore. I knew it was time to explore the venue, even if no one else in the group was willing.

This cute indian girl (HB7) eyes me so I approach. She's doing residency and is out with a couple of girls and this dude who she made sure to immediately say "works with her." We dance and talk. I disappear a few times, once to dance with this girl who came out for our party (HB8) who is fine as hell but a mega AW. I used her to my advantage though and danced with her for one song, then pushed her off and went back to the Indian girl.

Now the guy who came with them clearly had a thing for this girl. He was really drunk by this point and her other friends had to sober him up. He tried cutting in on me and the girl several times and it was pretty tough to watch. I played it cool and friendly. Not too long I was that dude.

Here's the kicker though, once the guy goes off to the bathroom, one of the Indian girl's friends comes up to me and is like "ugh, I hate sloppy guys. I'm glad we're around a real man."

That's when it all clicked for me.

Call it cheesy, but this is the power of self-improvement and the incredible thing about life. You can be anyone you want to be. Not too long ago I was that dude. I know exactly how he feels.

I was afraid of expressing my sexuality. Even when girls went after me I froze up. But now I'm on the other side of the fence. I'm not gonna lie it took a lot of work but nothing in life is fixed. No matter how bad you think your reputation is, as a man, you can always reinvent yourself. And once you do watch how fun this all becomes.

To end the story, I ended up taking the Indian girl's number a few minutes later to let her deal with all that drama. She found me at the end of the night and gave me a kiss.

 

[floydb25]

Solid... And agreed... And been there...

But one thing to remember is that women change their views / minds constantly. So, you might slip up and do something weak, and they'll view you as a *****. Regardless of how they viewed you before. They're fickle and dumb like that...

Most of the time, there is no consistency whatsoever - just like how they think you're the best thing EVAR - then think you're the worst human being on the planet, because you stopped attracting them. It's ike they have no memory, and everything that occured before RIGHT NOW is erased. Fleeting emotions, and ****.

This applies to negative feelings, as well. You're a nice guy virgin sissy loser if you act like a chump early on - then you're the best thing EVAR once you start manning up. Or, they want nothing to do with you, hate your guts, think you're irrelevant, etc - then out of NO WHERE they start flirting with you, complimenting you, and think you're the best thing EVAR. Seriously.... I don't think they have a memory.

So, just make sure your actions and their views remain positive. Because it's all about the here-and-now to most *****es.

 

[zinc4]

Short field report. Thought maybe it was worth posting just because it shows just how everything is relative and that anyone can remake themselves.

Headed to a lounge for my boy's birthday. It was a 2 weekend celebration and this was the final night. Get there dressed in my good luck zara jacket (batting 100% with it). Spend the first hour just eating and drinking (we got there early) but after a while I got an itch... In my chode days I'd be happy doing whatever my boys were doing. Not anymore. I knew it was time to explore the venue, even if no one else in the group was willing.

This cute indian girl (HB7) eyes me so I approach. She's doing residency and is out with a couple of girls and this dude who she made sure to immediately say "works with her." We dance and talk. I disappear a few times, once to dance with this girl who came out for our party (HB8) who is fine as hell but a mega AW. I used her to my advantage though and danced with her for one song, then pushed her off and went back to the Indian girl.

Now the guy who came with them clearly had a thing for this girl. He was really drunk by this point and her other friends had to sober him up. He tried cutting in on me and the girl several times and it was pretty tough to watch. I played it cool and friendly. Not too long I was that dude.

Here's the kicker though, once the guy goes off to the bathroom, one of the Indian girl's friends comes up to me and is like "ugh, I hate sloppy guys. I'm glad we're around a real man."

That's when it all clicked for me.

Call it cheesy, but this is the power of self-improvement and the incredible thing about life. You can be anyone you want to be. Not too long ago I was that dude. I know exactly how he feels.

I was afraid of expressing my sexuality. Even when girls went after me I froze up. But now I'm on the other side of the fence. I'm not gonna lie it took a lot of work but nothing in life is fixed. No matter how bad you think your reputation is, as a man, you can always reinvent yourself. And once you do watch how fun this all becomes.

To end the story, I ended up taking the Indian girl's number a few minutes later to let her deal with all that drama. She found me at the end of the night and gave me a kiss.

Not trying to be a buzz kill, but take women's shallow compliments worth a grain of salt and don't use them as a measuring stick of any kind....the difference is he was wasted and you were not. I have had women say great things about me in one light then in another one say i was the scum of the earth and vice versa...truth is the majority of times, their fickle opinions mean nothing. Most of them should have their mouths ducktaped until granted otherwise.

 

[sageproduct]

Yes definitely, who you are or who you seem to be has an endless degree of situational variability and can overall change over time



My junior year of high school my one-itis went to prom with me, then was at camp all summer...She came back and excitedly announced she "got engaged" to this 24 year old dude (who she probably met and banged the summer before). I remember thinking to myself, "What a fwcking douchebag, you're 24 years old and making easy prey of high school girls...why can't you let a high school guy like me have them!! :cuss: "

Now that I'm 20 and game-wise at least I know the rules and can keep score now, I kind of want to be that douchebag who's getting with a high schooler lol (only if they're of the age of consent of course), stealing her away from all the guys her age who are pussies. Circle of life...

 

[floydb25]

Sage: Word. Truth is, you gotta put yourself first, and go for what you want. People I used to help and befriend stole girl's from right under my nose. Or back-stabbed and disrespected me in other ways. And a whole list of "nice guy's finish last" bull****. They only care about themselves and their needs, so you should too. Just the way it is. ESPECIALLY when it comes to women. They'll be more than glad to sleep with your girl - even if you wouldn't, and they know this. Sometimes especially so.

Don't assume that anything you do or the way you are is going to be reciprocated by others - even if they complain about the same things happening to them. Most people are all about themselves, in the end.

Or, if you don't attract a girl and strike when the iron's hot - she's not going to wait for you to come around. She's going to find someone else who makes her hot & excited instead. Or if she wants a ONS, or to cheat on her boyfriend, or whatever. She's not going to care about your genuinity, morals, or relationship-minded views.

Not a lot of genuine, selfless, "nice" people out there these days. Likely because they got trampled over, and learned their lesson. Can't survive like that. And we live in a very entitled, fast-paced, take what you can get, come and go society. Not so much down here, mind... Just in general.

 

[NewAndImproved]

Just as a follow up, went out with this girl over the weekend.

She didn't respond to my first phone call and then when I texted her, waited a day to reply. I then didn't reply to her message and she double texted the next day. Test passed.

Had some banter about the Super Bowl the previous weekend, then suggested that we "meet up this coming week." She seemed keen so I went for it. She actually drove an hour to a spot I suggested for drinks that I walked to, LOL.

Cuter than I remembered but older... like 37!! (Doesn't look older than 32). Accomplished PhD... a real career woman who it's clear sacrificed other parts of her life for success.

Didn't really laugh at my jokes much but overall I'd say it was fine. She kept asking a lot of career-related questions. I'm doing fine for my age but damn. I'm definitely not established yet.

At the end, tried to get her to come back, but she wasn't having it. Dunno. She did tell me to text her about a project I had to finish and also asked for my last name.

A friend of mine is convinced I can just hook up with her but I think she's looking for something serious (hence all those career screening questions).

Dunno. Been attracting some cougars recently with my beard, haha.

 

[sageproduct]

Hey, nice that you got her out on the date

This is the Indian chick right? Funny, I've heard an Indian guy say that Indian girls will only date guys who are "potential suitors", as he said, hence those career-related questions lol.

Let's see what happens!