suavedave
Senior Don Juan
Field Report: Approaching tons and getting good reactions!
Ok, here's another one... I am determined to improve my game, so I went out again for a night of sarging.
I started around 6:30 after getting a quick sleep at the library after work. This worked wonders and I was raring to go.
(1) A chick at the library, i see her and I approach. I've been trying to use intuition lately as a means to determin if I should go in and that's what I did... I luckily found an asian cook book so i went down and sat and started reading it. I asked her a question about food and she spoke for a while. She was great, really receptive... almost like she was encouraging me and helping to relax. At one point though she just kind of shut down; perhaps she saw a bit of nervousness so I ejected.
(2) Next stop: A bookstore. I go in and look around for a while. One chick looks hot so I sit down next to her. I picked up a tourist book on china and said, "hey are you chinese." She is and she is super friendly, but also really socialized. Well, this is something I'm working on: If the chick has spent a lot of time in N.A then I immediately back off as I figure they are wise and experienced....... my own problem. I try to avoid those that are better. Svengali has said,
"If you don't know in the first twenty minutes whether or not you're going to have sex with the woman you just met, you're not a seductionist."
I took this to heart and figured right off the bat that she was just really super friendly and not too interested. I think I **** myself over a lot thinking that I'm lesser, but to a large extent it's true. I've really been shy and lazy regarding PU, reading **** too much and not testing it and so not getting the required experience.
Anyway, I took Ross' words to heart as well when he said,
""NEVER ASK A WOMAN FOR ANYTHING (a date, a phone
number.). Instead: 1. Structure opportunities 2. Offer challenges 3.Elicit/evoke processes"
So i didn't ask her for her phone number. Instead I just asked about info about china and "do you know anywhere i can call to get more information about china." Anyway, she did the same thing the Jgirl I met at the library did and kind of gave me a go away signal (at least I think that's what it was....) So that was it I left.
(3) I go to safeway and there are TONS of chicks there. I approach one and ask her about "which one is better?" peaches or appricots. She just says they taste different.
(4) Another one, same place. She works as a volunteer daycare worker. But soon into the conversation she shuts down and turns away. The great thing that I've changed is approaching hotter chicks now-- I'm not super selective but anyone is game.
(5) I see a hot j-girl buying donuts and I ask her if there are donuts in japan. AGAIN she slows me down and really pauses and thinks about the question; the second time a jgirl did this tonight and it's GREAT... again, it's like they intuitively know I'm training myself and so they are giving me a chance. But Jgirls are great inso faras they are really interested in talking and are open and receptive (at least they appear to be).
So we talk for a while and I change the subject a bit... get some rapport going. Eventually we have to go and I invite her for a coffee/beer but she says she lives on the north shore (far away). I realize she probably prepared that line, and thinking back I should have pressed it a bit more.
(6) Subway and there is a philippino chick and we talk about hawaii etc. Really cold at first. I opened with, "Boy it's hot in here" and she makes a small short, "yea." But I continue... and continue despite a major shield up. I notice that from chicks who are in North america a while-- they get approached a lot and so are more reluctant to talk. But I kept it up.
In retrospect I should have used GM style (Grand Master), and said, "You know... I've never had sex with a philippino before.... just kidding." But that's thinking back.
(7) So it turns out that philippinos speak ....x.... i forget now, but I remembered after that conversation. So i see an older philippino and I open with, "...x.. (language) right?" And she says, "yea thats what I speak." So I say, "Oh really, me too!" and she says, you speak philippino? "Yea, it's my native toungue."
Anyway I told her that I didnt... when she thought I spoke philippino she was really interested but immediately backed off later.
(8) I was just fluffing with her because I had seen two J-girls near a bus stop, one was carrying an instrument and I knew that this would be a grea opener. So I get on and say something about the violin. The one is really shy and that throws me off a bit-- the other one speaks.
This is something ****ty about transit-- i got on to speak to them but then had to walk back a few blocks later. So it's a waste of time, maybe Mystery is right when he says,
"[C]lubs are like TRAINING GROUNDS. They are great HOLODECK educational programs. You go in and do lots of approaches to get good. Once you have the skill-set internalized, meeting girls out in cafes and other places is like shooting fish in a barrel."
Anyway, that's on the schedule for wednesday.
(9) Two jgirls on near the bus and I comment on her clothes. She's wearing a shirt on top of jeans and so I get in and sit down. I eventually sit down near her and keep talking about her clothes. But the conversation... I think I got a bit too nervous, not relaxed. I noticed this because this other guy in front of me starting talking to a 3set from mexico. He was so calm, so relaxed, and so funny. I dont even understand spanish but he had me laughing!
Ok, here's another one... I am determined to improve my game, so I went out again for a night of sarging.
I started around 6:30 after getting a quick sleep at the library after work. This worked wonders and I was raring to go.
(1) A chick at the library, i see her and I approach. I've been trying to use intuition lately as a means to determin if I should go in and that's what I did... I luckily found an asian cook book so i went down and sat and started reading it. I asked her a question about food and she spoke for a while. She was great, really receptive... almost like she was encouraging me and helping to relax. At one point though she just kind of shut down; perhaps she saw a bit of nervousness so I ejected.
(2) Next stop: A bookstore. I go in and look around for a while. One chick looks hot so I sit down next to her. I picked up a tourist book on china and said, "hey are you chinese." She is and she is super friendly, but also really socialized. Well, this is something I'm working on: If the chick has spent a lot of time in N.A then I immediately back off as I figure they are wise and experienced....... my own problem. I try to avoid those that are better. Svengali has said,
"If you don't know in the first twenty minutes whether or not you're going to have sex with the woman you just met, you're not a seductionist."
I took this to heart and figured right off the bat that she was just really super friendly and not too interested. I think I **** myself over a lot thinking that I'm lesser, but to a large extent it's true. I've really been shy and lazy regarding PU, reading **** too much and not testing it and so not getting the required experience.
Anyway, I took Ross' words to heart as well when he said,
""NEVER ASK A WOMAN FOR ANYTHING (a date, a phone
number.). Instead: 1. Structure opportunities 2. Offer challenges 3.Elicit/evoke processes"
So i didn't ask her for her phone number. Instead I just asked about info about china and "do you know anywhere i can call to get more information about china." Anyway, she did the same thing the Jgirl I met at the library did and kind of gave me a go away signal (at least I think that's what it was....) So that was it I left.
(3) I go to safeway and there are TONS of chicks there. I approach one and ask her about "which one is better?" peaches or appricots. She just says they taste different.
(4) Another one, same place. She works as a volunteer daycare worker. But soon into the conversation she shuts down and turns away. The great thing that I've changed is approaching hotter chicks now-- I'm not super selective but anyone is game.
(5) I see a hot j-girl buying donuts and I ask her if there are donuts in japan. AGAIN she slows me down and really pauses and thinks about the question; the second time a jgirl did this tonight and it's GREAT... again, it's like they intuitively know I'm training myself and so they are giving me a chance. But Jgirls are great inso faras they are really interested in talking and are open and receptive (at least they appear to be).
So we talk for a while and I change the subject a bit... get some rapport going. Eventually we have to go and I invite her for a coffee/beer but she says she lives on the north shore (far away). I realize she probably prepared that line, and thinking back I should have pressed it a bit more.
(6) Subway and there is a philippino chick and we talk about hawaii etc. Really cold at first. I opened with, "Boy it's hot in here" and she makes a small short, "yea." But I continue... and continue despite a major shield up. I notice that from chicks who are in North america a while-- they get approached a lot and so are more reluctant to talk. But I kept it up.
In retrospect I should have used GM style (Grand Master), and said, "You know... I've never had sex with a philippino before.... just kidding." But that's thinking back.
(7) So it turns out that philippinos speak ....x.... i forget now, but I remembered after that conversation. So i see an older philippino and I open with, "...x.. (language) right?" And she says, "yea thats what I speak." So I say, "Oh really, me too!" and she says, you speak philippino? "Yea, it's my native toungue."
Anyway I told her that I didnt... when she thought I spoke philippino she was really interested but immediately backed off later.
(8) I was just fluffing with her because I had seen two J-girls near a bus stop, one was carrying an instrument and I knew that this would be a grea opener. So I get on and say something about the violin. The one is really shy and that throws me off a bit-- the other one speaks.
This is something ****ty about transit-- i got on to speak to them but then had to walk back a few blocks later. So it's a waste of time, maybe Mystery is right when he says,
"[C]lubs are like TRAINING GROUNDS. They are great HOLODECK educational programs. You go in and do lots of approaches to get good. Once you have the skill-set internalized, meeting girls out in cafes and other places is like shooting fish in a barrel."
Anyway, that's on the schedule for wednesday.
(9) Two jgirls on near the bus and I comment on her clothes. She's wearing a shirt on top of jeans and so I get in and sit down. I eventually sit down near her and keep talking about her clothes. But the conversation... I think I got a bit too nervous, not relaxed. I noticed this because this other guy in front of me starting talking to a 3set from mexico. He was so calm, so relaxed, and so funny. I dont even understand spanish but he had me laughing!
