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Master Don Juan
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I am at loss of what to do. See, me and my girl have been together for almost 9 months now, and the idea of a 4-some with another couple have crossed our minds, but we never really considered it until now.
A couple of our friends hooked up a while ago, and while they are not yet sexually active, the chick is considering a 4-some. My girl is not quite sure, but said 'with some convincing, she'd do it'. The other guy is a total no, but I think that may change. Me? That's the problem.
While I think I can screw another chick while watching another guy do mine, I am really not sure how I'll take it. For me, 9 months is a long time, and I don't really wanna risk what we have. And I have a feeling that neither does she. It's just what she said is rubbing me the wrong way.
I am my girl's first everything, pretty much, and we have been sexually active since the new year's day, but I am wondering if she's getting bored with it. I make it a point of trying different things - locations, positions, pace (got head in a movie theatre: is that a cliche?), taking turns, anything I could think of. Or maybe she's just adventurous.
While she may be adventurous, she's also stupid, and doesn't know what she really wants. It also seems like she has a very dim idea of what it would mean to her watching me do another girl - she's very attached to me, and me even thinking about another girl hurts her (I told her to live with it, and she was understanding, but still hurt). So a foursome seems very extreme.
Another problem is that I'm volatile - my temper sometimes is hard to control. I could get angry easily, especially over a guy trying to pick up my girl. Possessive? No, I do not restrain her socially. But I would not tolerate any kind of cheating. So the foursome may affect me more negatively than I'd like to think.
So what I decided is to wait. I don't think we're at the point where we trust each other enough to watch us 'cheat' on each other (by our agreement - sex with another person=cheating, as is kissing). But 'waiting' seems like 'giving up control', instead of taking action - not manly. I don't want to be a pansy and let her do the deciding, since I know she sucks at making decisions. So using the above info, I decided to say no to a 4some.
What do you guys think?
A couple of our friends hooked up a while ago, and while they are not yet sexually active, the chick is considering a 4-some. My girl is not quite sure, but said 'with some convincing, she'd do it'. The other guy is a total no, but I think that may change. Me? That's the problem.
While I think I can screw another chick while watching another guy do mine, I am really not sure how I'll take it. For me, 9 months is a long time, and I don't really wanna risk what we have. And I have a feeling that neither does she. It's just what she said is rubbing me the wrong way.
I am my girl's first everything, pretty much, and we have been sexually active since the new year's day, but I am wondering if she's getting bored with it. I make it a point of trying different things - locations, positions, pace (got head in a movie theatre: is that a cliche?), taking turns, anything I could think of. Or maybe she's just adventurous.
While she may be adventurous, she's also stupid, and doesn't know what she really wants. It also seems like she has a very dim idea of what it would mean to her watching me do another girl - she's very attached to me, and me even thinking about another girl hurts her (I told her to live with it, and she was understanding, but still hurt). So a foursome seems very extreme.
Another problem is that I'm volatile - my temper sometimes is hard to control. I could get angry easily, especially over a guy trying to pick up my girl. Possessive? No, I do not restrain her socially. But I would not tolerate any kind of cheating. So the foursome may affect me more negatively than I'd like to think.
So what I decided is to wait. I don't think we're at the point where we trust each other enough to watch us 'cheat' on each other (by our agreement - sex with another person=cheating, as is kissing). But 'waiting' seems like 'giving up control', instead of taking action - not manly. I don't want to be a pansy and let her do the deciding, since I know she sucks at making decisions. So using the above info, I decided to say no to a 4some.
What do you guys think?
