Found out something disturbing about my current GF

[Fenderules]

Im 21 and she it 20. Basically we have dated for 4 months but have gone exclusive for the last 2 or so. Its early in the relationship and getting red flags. Luckily i havent fallen for her, even though she has for me.

anyway...

she told me that back when she was 16, her Bf at the time got into some harsh drugs. They had no money what so ever so she ended up selling her body to around 30 guys or so. she would meet them on chat lines and then real life and **** them.

I was shocked.

thats pretty scary stuff. I mean jesus what a ****ed up thing to do. The worst part of it was It was her idea to do it for her BF. The guy treated her like total **** 2. He cheated on her all the time and turned into a crack head. She left him cause she didnt want to be with a crackhead.

People do weird things.

Anyway i dont know wut to think about it. that's pretty messed. Major red flag there. I dont have any strong emotional attachments and i intend to keep it that way for now and see wut happens. that **** is just 2 messed.

 

[Soyoushave]

You say you don't have emotional attachment. In what way?
Emotional as in:
-I do(n't) care about her past/feelings etc.
-I do(n't) feel anything for her.

How does she feel about her past...is it a problem to her?
I mean, if you like her, and if you're not emotional attached to her past...and she can let the past the past...live now.

People do lots of stupid shyt, and if you keep getting confronted with that in your life, you never live to live now.
What I'm trying to say is, you're having a relationship with her now. So don't drag the past in to your relationship, and enjoy the present.

If she, however feels crappy about her past (I've gotta admit, that I would understand if she was)...let her talk to a psychologist...you are not the person responsible for solving these problems.

So long story short, what I would do:

-Find out if she has troubles with this past;
-Find out if you want to be with her.

It's good to emotionally detach from her problems (don't get a cold hearted A$$ though)

If you want to be with her, and she can let her past rest...Go for it, and enjoy the now and here
If you want to be with her, and she can't let her past rest...let her go to a psychologist, and don't get to emotionally attached (so it won't devour you)
If you don't want to be with her...go and get another girl...

hmmyeah, that's what I would do
GoodLuck

 

[Suicide]

Ahaha...dude, that blows.

Seriously, run. RUN. RUN AS FAST AS YOU ****ING CAN.

 

[Soyoushave]

Ahaha...dude, that blows.

Seriously, run. RUN. RUN AS FAST AS YOU ****ING CAN.

Lol

Yeah, that would be the easiest way...but I remember a quote from a fellow forum user about the troubled ones being the best or something

I think running is an answer that's to easy (I'm not saying you should stick to a person like glue tho)

 

[Suicide]

Lol

Yeah, that would be the easiest way...but I remember a quote from a fellow forum user about the troubled ones being the best or something

I think running is an answer that's to easy (I'm not saying you should stick to a person like glue tho)

I PROMISE you that girl is going to have some major, MAJOR issues. You might not see them now, but get your ass out of there before it's too late son!

Seriously, you're essentially dating a former prostitute. I GUARANTEE that you can do better than that.

Stay with this girl and you will regret it hardcore.

 

[Soyoushave]

Seriously, you're essentially dating a former prostitute. I GUARANTEE that you can do better than that.

This quote is so great I want to marry it and have kids with it:crackup:

I can't help myself though...I'm really into the people can (be) change(d) way of thinking...

I'm just really wondering...if she could put her past to rest (with help of a pro?)...what could possibly go wrong...I mean there's always a chance that this backfires, but with a positive attitude (+ the fact that he wants to stay emotionally detached) I don't see how he could screw himself up.
Even if this eventually turns out to be bogus, atleast he (l)earns himself another lesson

 

[strong like bull]

from my experience girls who have been raped, molested, abused, traumatized or have gone through a situation like yours did, have emotional/mental issues. odds are that even (ESPECIALLY) if they dont see the problems themselves, over time you will. anything from being psychotic, irrational to just generally being slutty and not realizing it. often times there is something BROKEN within the girl, figuratively speaking. and usually its not something that you could, or should, fix.

again, from MY experience. maybe you will have better luck than most of us did with the crazy ones...

-SLB

 

[Suicide]

I'm just really wondering...if she could put her past to rest (with help of a pro?)...what could possibly go wrong...I mean there's always a chance that this backfires, but with a positive attitude (+ the fact that he wants to stay emotionally detached)

Can't blame him for not knowing, it's not his fault.

Take it from someone who learned this lesson the hard way. That chick is going to be ****ed up for life, no matter how much therapy she has. She was obviously traumatized before she became a semen repository with her crack head ex-boyfriend, and now it's just magnified.

She is going to have one hell of a tough life, and the road to recovery is long and hard. I know it's temping to try and save her and all that **** (I've been down that road), but DON'T. GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE.

You're young dude! There are plenty of relatively stable chicks out there. Hell, they're all little nuts in the first place...no need to get one that's even more crazy than the rest!

If you take my advice, you'll run into her in five years and thank me for it. If you don't, don't say I didn't tell you so.

Any psychiatrist will tell you the same thing that I am.

 

[Soyoushave]

I know it's temping to try and save her and all that **** (I've been down that road), but DON'T. GET THE HELL OUT OF THERE.

Yup You're soo right about that
I'm really happy for you (topicwriter) that you're still somewhat emotionally detached from her...that way you don't get really frustrated if things go wrong after putting lots of effort in her yourself.

What I do wonder though...setting aside this whole relationship thing with fenderules...

How does a girl like that ever get a normal relationship...

Being in such a situation pretty much signs you for life, so basically she's scruewed for the rest of her days in chances of getting a "normal" relationship (for as far a relationship can be normal )

I'm wondering this on a psychologic base btw. What are the ways a girl like that gets to function 100% again...is that even possible

 

[Suicide]

I'm wondering this on a psychologic base btw. What are the ways a girl like that gets to function 100% again...is that even possible

They simply don't. They will never be able to function completely normal again in one way or another. I've had girlfriends like this and have been through it with several psychologists and psychiatrists.

Until this girl gets INTENSIVE help, she'll never function normally. Even then, she's never going to be 100% normal.

 

[Soyoushave]

They simply don't. They will never be able to function completely normal again in one way or another. I've had girlfriends like this and have been through it with several psychologists and psychiatrists.

Until this girl gets INTENSIVE help, she'll never function normally. Even then, she's never going to be 100% normal.

that's a shame...luckily there's a sea full of "normal" girls

 

[Pimp-sicle]

If you truly don't have any emotional attachment to her then you would have never made her your gf, so that's about the biggest line of crap you could feed us.

Secondly, supposing you don't have THAT much emotional attachment to her, then its clear as day what you should do here...dump her before she makes her crazy life your life too.

If you stay with her you are in for some serious trouble in every fashion; mental, emotional and physical.


RUN!!!! Before your invest too much time in this nut-case



PIMP

 

[Max Power]

Fender if this is the same girl as in these threads below why the **** are you going exclusive with her? Even in these threads you said her being a slut was a turn off. I just hope you're serious when you say you're not emotionally attached.

Sluts that Don't Put Out

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=120411

So I Nailed a Chick in a Cemetary

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=122595

In my experience, everything everyone above has said is true. I just don't know how bad it is cause I usually eject pretty quickly once I find out there is some history of a psychological problem. It just kills my interest level. Dude, if you are in a band and have confidence I'm sure you can pull better babes.

You say "people do weird things." No. Weird people do weird things.

 

[Jariel]

It is tragic what some people get themselves into but why should you bear the burden of her actions?

My advice would be to get out before you get emotionally attached and she drags you down. She commited those actions, she has to deal with the consequences, not you.

I used to be one of those valiant guys who could never resist a damsel in distress. It was my instinct to help them, councel them and try to share my wisdom, but it ended up that they just dragged me down. Girls like this made my life the pits, then they kicked me to the curb.

Eventually I learned! Nowadays, I refuse to take the burden of other people's mistakes and I steer clear of troublesome girls.

 

[backbreaker]

I don't have many red flags for women

but a woman that sold her body for drugs is one of the Reddest flags a man can have

 

[Max Power]

a woman that sold her body for drugs is one of the Reddest flags a man can have

Correction backbreaker "Sold her body for drugs for some dude"

 

[Obsidian]

wow, this brings a whole new meaning to the term Hor Matrix

 

[backbreaker]

Correction backbreaker "Sold her body for drugs for some dude"

open wide babe :yawn:

 

[Snow Plowman]

It's really up too you...

What happened was in the past, it's obvious she had high compliance for her druggy bf back then to the point she was willing to sell her body for him.

The reason you feel this way is because you don't get the same validation you got before when you're fuking her. It's same with having a real great girl but you found out back in high school she did a porno gangbang.

IT WAS THE PAST. YOU DIDN"T KNOW HER AT THE TIME

This really makes me wonder how many dudes would get all tripped up if they seen an old picture of there current gf with a load on her face. They'd be crushed because the validation you used to get isn't as much because now you feel as if anyone can have her.

Really though you can't make things bother you. If you've been having a great time being with this chick for the months that you didn't know about this then stay. Don't leave her because of something she's done in the past.

 

[englishman]

I PROMISE you that girl is going to have some major, MAJOR issues.

Stay with this girl and you will regret it hardcore.

I agree, get the fvck outta there