Found out my longdistance girlfriend tried to meet up with a guyfriend

[marenostrum]

After a 10 months longdistance relationship end date is in a month
I found out she is was constantly talking to a guy who was intrested in her
and even sayed she wants to hang out.

but she maked him clearly only as friends
and she told him she is going to marry me
but he always hit on her and then she tell him that she don't want too hear things like that
that she is married

but still she insist in beign friends with him.
so it really pisses me of that she wanted to meet him while she knows he is intrested in her as romantic partner. when i found out i dumped her immediately.
but we are back again she told me she was wrong and begged me,
and she deleted her facebook and stopped all her male friendships out of her self

I know that she didn't cheat with him actually they never met.
but the idea that she tried or talked about meeting him while he is intresting
makes me feel so betrayed and i doubting her motives

she makes it clear to him that she only wants to be friends and that is going to marry me
she called him once bebe and after that she says sorry. (bit sketchy) we were not official then

if i ask her why she wants to meet him she tells me she just want to talk about things like friends she is acting really naive i don't know if she does it on purpose or she is really naive

she is 22 and i am 18 she had 2 relationship before me and only kissed i believe it
she bleed like a pig she didn't know how to jerk me off and didn't know how to give a ******* and even didn't want to look in my eyes during *******. so i know she is not a *****
i met her when she was on a gap year in my country and i know all girls are behaving like sluts then but she never hooked up.

but i am clearry doubting her motives and find it really disrespectful that she wanted to meet him mmmm. but she never did and i believe it according to their conversations

but she cleary knew he was into her that makes me so angry.

but on the otherhand she didn't cheat while she easily could

and i like her really much and the sex is amazing she is like 1.50 and big tits and really submissive. mmmm

and we were planning to live together in a appartment in a month in south america
i really like the idea of ****ing her everynight and chilling in south america

mmmmm what do you guys think?

and she talked with many guys on facebook but not really suspicious
(she told me she did it for attention)
and she had like 1 guy friend who is in his 40 and is married
and she calls him nicknames but that is normal in southamerica she talks like him like a dad. and they met once only for buissness and she knows his family and blabla so i am not really worried about that.

i think that she didn't cheat with the guy who was intrested in her
because it looks like they never met
she doesn't talk romantic to him i think if they had sex they would be talking different amiright??? and that she stays with me so long while she could easily replace me
i admire that to

she tells him always to behave like friends and behave
one thing that what pissed me of too that she talked once to him about our relationship problems and she told him she never felt in love before

and he sayed yeah with me everthing would be different

and then she says how is your girlfriend

so i really dont have the feeling that she is cheating

but she certainly crossed a line with talking with him and talking about meeting up
while he says he is in love with her if she did i dumped her ass,

but i think about the change that she really is naiev (atleast i want to believe that my self)
hmm because she is never maked me doubt before and our future was almost not possible
she really didn't know if was coming to her or not so i really admire that she didn't dump me for him.

 

[GotED?]

Sorry to wake you up (as I woke myself up over this past week/weekend) - but here's something I will share with you that made me realize how much more women out there lack integrity than I realized.

I was away for a week long workshop on spiritual subjects, usually 90% women and the rest are men (another 50% of men are mostly gay). I was one of the rare straight male spiritual guys and good looking. All the women were either married, or has a boyfriend.

This one particular Swedish blonde 27yr old hot as hell took a liking in me immediately (and me to her of course), then I found out she had a long distance boyfriend in fvcken South Africa (I am in the UK). WTF?? I told her what a waste of time doing long distance and wish her the best.

She kept on flirting and showing up around me, I finally had to sit her down on the 2nd night and told her that nothing is going to happen between me and her because I respect her 'situation' and I hold my own integrity to myself. That actually made her even MORE aggressive in being around me and checking me out all the time.

I am telling you bro, long distance is a huge gamble, let alone women NOT in long distance with good integrity and faithfulness is like finding a $100 bill in your underwear these days.

I would say this Swedish girl is a 8.5 or close to a 9.0. I am learning to stay away from HOT women, they are all total losers in my experience with little to offer other than the exterior. She even confided in me how she used to cheat on her boyfriends before... WTF... a HO is ALWAYS a HO.

Be well.

Exodus

 

[narcissist]

I see this relationship going nowhere but downhill

I would say dump her now or suffer the consequences later

goodluck

 

[Kailex]

she is 22 and i am 18.

You are WAY too young to be taking this girl THIS seriously.
Whatever she is doing, whatever she is explaining to you is so much more than you need to be dealing with at this point in your life.

If you have to put up a post that long explaining so much about her and you haven't even hit the age of 20, then chances are that it probably isn't the best situation for you.

First, the age difference.
Second, the ages.
Third, the long distance.

Go find some girls to mess around with. At least until you are 25+, THEN think about a serious relationship.

Seriously, I can't even remember some of the names of some of the girls I went out with when I was 20. And in hindsight my problems with women at the age of 18... are just ridiculous to me now.

 

[marenostrum]

Yes I know this relationship is too difficult for my to maintaince and unrealistic
But actually I like the idea of spending 6 months in south america and then go back
because my homesituation is really ****ty and I make enough money (programmer can work remote)
to survive there. And my 18 year old brain like the idea of everynight sex with a hot latin girl ^^ and i think it will be a good live experience.

But actually I maked this thread to find out what she was trying to achieve with her friendship.

Did she want to cheat on me.
Is he a backup plan.
Is she naive as ****.

I mean she ask him if he can go sunday but after that she tells him immediately that she is married to me -__- it is so shady but the problem is I invested so much in this relationship it was a bigmistake but now i wan't to go because i already set up my internet company and much effort.

When she was gone to her country we weren't not official
after 2 weeks or something she was back
but she chosed me over the other ,guy while our future is impossible

but i think i go to south america for 6 months my homesituation is so bad.
but i just dont really understand her motives with the other guy

i am thinking about:
backup-guy
attention
cheating but it doesn't look like but actually i find it close only reason i didn't break up with her is that they never met.

 

[VladPatton]

This girl is not naive, she's playing both your asses. Get out now while you waste more time.

 

[Kailex]

And my 18 year old brain like the idea of everynight sex with a hot latin girl ^^ and i think it will be a good live experience.

And this is your biggest problem right here.

Trust me, like Vlad said, she is NOT naive. In fact, she is the smartest person in this triangle.

She's playing you like a fiddle and you are so stuck on the fact that you could possibly have a sex with a latin girl, that you are willing to accept whatever hardship comes with the possibility of that.

That touches base with my earlier point. You are WAY too young to have these many worries about 1 girl. I get it, your home situation isn't easy, the 6 months thing isn't easy... so why not focus on work or other aspects of life in the meantime? Why take this girl so seriously?

Trust me, she's not worth it.

 

[Don-Kong]

she friendzoned a guy who was coming off as really desperate. Thats what you should have thought. Thats the big lesson. Not even hardcore DJ's can tap a girl in a relationship, especially after she says all that, its just desperate. Thats what he was, and you freaked out. You should have laughed and played it off then she wold see how you, the man, deals with it. You could have also played the 'he's probably cracking on to other girls who are in relationships' girls dont like thinking some guy is just after them for one thing, makes them feel cheap.

You live and learn.

Confidence in yourself and your woman is what you could work on. But jealousy is difficult to deal with especially LDR's. Been in exactly the same situation and drives you bonkers. Good luck