phoenix_cinder
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For the men out there who are having trouble by being the Mr nice too much
You've all read it in here time and time again
Mr nice finishes last
But what do you do if you are that naturally kind and giving person
Where it hurts to be a jerk
Here are some tips I found worked for me
(1) Be a complete ass**** for a day
Thats right I said ass**** not jerk
Just like training for a 15 k marathon ...if you train by running 20 k
instead of 15 makes the 15 k easier. As does being a ass**** makes
being a jerk easier than just being a jerk would
The best time to do this is if you are on a vacation in some city you dont live in. That way you beeing a jerk cant backfire in the future.
Plus its alot easier to be a jerk to a person who you know you
will never see again in your life.
(just make sure you dont try this at a bar or to someone big enough they could plummet you in one shot)
(2) Incorporate partial jerkedness into your life
best place to start is with your family for they usually have the
highest tollerance level towards you. Be your normal kind mr nice guy and every now and then do or say something jerklike.
ex leave a mess, rude comments (be careful with this one),
not saying excuse me when u burp, etc etc
When you believe to of gotten a handle on that try it out on friends, schoolmates (warning the tolerance level will lower substantially in comparison to yout family)
(3) once you have her interested in you
Once youve gotten a woman interested in you (and I dont mean a few days
this has to be a few weeks....at least!) this is when you can slowly go back
to the Mr nice guy that you really are and want to be.
Best to start lowering your jerkedness for moments when its just you and
her. That makes her feel special like she gets too see a side of you noone
else does. Like a miniwheat
The slower you let your jerkidness dissipate the more natural it will seem
to her so if that means taking months to become mr nice guy you want to be
so be it. What rush are you in??
Easy mistakes to make that you do NOT want to happen
- you be a ass**** instead fo a jerk. Women can tolelrate jerks not ass****'s
- you go overboard. There is always too muck of a jerk, every woman has
a differnt level of tolerance for how much jerk they can handle.
But a warning NEVER eliminate the jerk in you completely It wil always be
needed. You need that rough side of you to show if not she will just see you as
a spineless weakling. Make sure you dont become so nice that you let her walk
over you. And even though letting her make all the choices is nice, its not
always wanted
I hope that this in combination with the many many hints and tips on this site
will help many of you mr nice guys
Or your second option is to just be a afc mr nice guy till you are about
30 when women finally grow out of that i want a jerk stage (well ...most of
them)
Happy Hunting
You've all read it in here time and time again
Mr nice finishes last
But what do you do if you are that naturally kind and giving person
Where it hurts to be a jerk
Here are some tips I found worked for me
(1) Be a complete ass**** for a day
Thats right I said ass**** not jerk
Just like training for a 15 k marathon ...if you train by running 20 k
instead of 15 makes the 15 k easier. As does being a ass**** makes
being a jerk easier than just being a jerk would
The best time to do this is if you are on a vacation in some city you dont live in. That way you beeing a jerk cant backfire in the future.
Plus its alot easier to be a jerk to a person who you know you
will never see again in your life.
(just make sure you dont try this at a bar or to someone big enough they could plummet you in one shot)
(2) Incorporate partial jerkedness into your life
best place to start is with your family for they usually have the
highest tollerance level towards you. Be your normal kind mr nice guy and every now and then do or say something jerklike.
ex leave a mess, rude comments (be careful with this one),
not saying excuse me when u burp, etc etc
When you believe to of gotten a handle on that try it out on friends, schoolmates (warning the tolerance level will lower substantially in comparison to yout family)
(3) once you have her interested in you
Once youve gotten a woman interested in you (and I dont mean a few days
this has to be a few weeks....at least!) this is when you can slowly go back
to the Mr nice guy that you really are and want to be.
Best to start lowering your jerkedness for moments when its just you and
her. That makes her feel special like she gets too see a side of you noone
else does. Like a miniwheat
The slower you let your jerkidness dissipate the more natural it will seem
to her so if that means taking months to become mr nice guy you want to be
so be it. What rush are you in??
Easy mistakes to make that you do NOT want to happen
- you be a ass**** instead fo a jerk. Women can tolelrate jerks not ass****'s
- you go overboard. There is always too muck of a jerk, every woman has
a differnt level of tolerance for how much jerk they can handle.
But a warning NEVER eliminate the jerk in you completely It wil always be
needed. You need that rough side of you to show if not she will just see you as
a spineless weakling. Make sure you dont become so nice that you let her walk
over you. And even though letting her make all the choices is nice, its not
always wanted
I hope that this in combination with the many many hints and tips on this site
will help many of you mr nice guys
Or your second option is to just be a afc mr nice guy till you are about
30 when women finally grow out of that i want a jerk stage (well ...most of
them)
Happy Hunting