For the new timers-Being rejected isn't so bad.

[Lompa]

Well, i would like to help some of you new timers with the fear of rejection:
This year, i liked this girl that i learned math with.
We had good talks and had fun, in monday i walked with her to the buses and said to her:"Lets go to play bowling sometime, give me your # and ill call you." She said "Sure, but i have a busy schdule and i am not avilable at anyday exept saturday." i said:"Fine ill call you than" she:"O.K. ill give you my phone tomorrow because i am in a hurry.". Tomorrow came and she avoided me. That day i was upset for 2 hours and thats all.

Moral:i have tried to get this girl for a half a year and all the pain was for 2 hours.

P.S. Sorry for my english, i am from israel.

 

[Wanderer*]

True, failure makes you stronger :yes:

 

[The Shocker]

Good job grabbing your balls and making a move. You feel more confident now don't you?

 

[Newcomer]

Good Luck

Well read my "how to get the girl", and you know that I am not any better... However I think we are able to learn a lot from such experiences.... when we have heard about the way to avoid them. Now you are introduced to the game, and are able to understand what you read here

Newcomer

 

[Lompa]

Thanks for the posts.
Anyways, i am going to the mall at saturday night with 2 good freinds-I am so getting my first number!

 

[MissionX]

Take charge of the situation, go and pick her up on Saturday, she is most likely waiting for you to make the move, just go and pick her up. and play it from there. If she seems uninterested, then you know for a fact something is up, then you might want to talk to her, and see what might be up.

Payne

 

[Lompa]

It will be semi desparete and i even dont have her phone.
I bet that girl is scared because of my date offer (first timer....).
I am just going to have fun in saturday i think adding her there wouldn't be a smart move (as the whole idea is to get #).

 

[MissionX]

Get her number later, if you knew where she lives, and she knows you do. Just drop in from time to time, and take her somewhere. Keeps her on her toes.

Payne

 

[Lompa]

I think you haven't understanded the siguation...
I asked her out, she said yes and she said she will give me her # the next day. We had a class togther the next day and she walked away VERY FAST and didn't respond my "wait for a mo'". Look, she is DEAD NERVOUS and she doesn't have a clue what to do, i bet she thinks its just going to go away.

Untill she gets enough self-confidence to speak with me i don't want her around me.
If i want to make it any better i think i should try to use msn to talk to her so she will think she has control and would be less nervous.

*****EDIT: When i mean # i mean other girls digits not hers...
I dont have the first girl # nor know where she lives.

 

[Mjazz]

I asked a girl for her number and she sprayed me with mace....moral of the story: dont try to pick up girls by just whipping it out.

 

[Charm]

^^^ Haha

 

[Lompa]

I asked a girl for her number and she sprayed me with mace....moral of the story: dont try to pick up girls by just whipping it out.

Lol... i will follow some of the thumb rules:
Eye contact. Smile. Approach(Look for body language).
I am pretty good looking and i don't see any problems with this approach.

 

[Contender]

Mani Shma?

You'll be fine; it's nothing to stress.

 

[Lompa]

Hehe ayze yofi lerot israli po!.
Cant wait until tomomrrow-ill update with my resualts.

 

[MrConfidence]

I don't know why I'm so afraid to approach. There's a girl named Marissa who I've talked to a couple of times, but just can't seem to approach. Oh wait, I do know, I don't know how to open. Don't know if I should compliment her on her new glasses, or neg hit her or better yet say something like "Hey, I remember you from marching band!". I have got to figure out a way to break the ice with this girl, and take her off the damn pedestal. The truth is is that I'm afraid of going up to her, saying something to her, and getting rejected.

 

[Raikojo17]

I don't know why I'm so afraid to approach. There's a girl named Marissa who I've talked to a couple of times, but just can't seem to approach. Oh wait, I do know, I don't know how to open. Don't know if I should compliment her on her new glasses, or neg hit her or better yet say something like "Hey, I remember you from marching band!". I have got to figure out a way to break the ice with this girl, and take her off the damn pedestal. The truth is is that I'm afraid of going up to her, saying something to her, and getting rejected.

then dont be afraid of getting rejected. u never learn anything if you arent willing to fail.

 

[Charm]

I met 2 girls recently that I thougt I knew from somewhere but actually didnt. One I said, arent you friends with my friend Bobby. She says "Bobby who?" I said his last name and shes like "Im not sure". I said, "I cant believe you forgot who your friend bobby was" and then proceeded to introduce myself and we got to talking. It didnt seem to matter that she didnt know who bobby was. For all she cared, I made it up to talk to her.

 

[MrConfidence]

then dont be afraid of getting rejected. u never learn anything if you arent willing to fail.

When? I don't have any classes with her and she sits with her friends(Some which are dudes) at lunch.

 

[GaryUranga]

Dude talk to her like shes a guy, be like "hey dude wanna see my penis?" just go in relaxed like a normal person

 

[Lust]

When? I don't have any classes with her and she sits with her friends(Some which are dudes) at lunch.

I personally think that's you giving yourself excuses.

Don't ever do that.

Don't say "I can't because blah blah blah".

Instead, say "I can when blah blah blah". Think positive, and don't give yourself excuses.

And also, i think you are getting too attached. I said this to someone else on the site, and that's this.

"Never attach excess meaning to being accepted or rejected" - Ross Jeffries.

Think about it, if you attach more and more meaning to her, which it sounds like, you are going to get more anxious about this. I like the guy who said speak to her like she's a guy, but, i think you should instead "treat" her like she's a guy, instead of talking about your penis.