(For men who struggle with dating):Take a break from dating to come back stronger

[Gamisch]

For any man who struggles with women;perhaps its time to take 1 or two back in order to make 3 or 4 steps forward.

The best version of yourself vs yourself right now.
Imagine yourself, but UPGRADED. It aint that hard. But if you dealt with enough women, and have the ability to reflect you'll know exactly what needs to be fixed!.

Its like wearing an (old) jacket for some time. At some point you simply acknowledge you want and need a new jacket. That analogy can be used to reflect your current ( dating) life.

You HAVE to first be dead honest about and to yourself. The trick is to do this without going into "pathetic boohoo me so poor "mode. No ,its rather a relieving conversation with one self, one that might've been long overdue. An honest assessment about ones strengths and weaknesses. The outcome will provide you with a clear to do list. Lets have a look at an example;

- fix your teeth, hair, skin, other physical appearance related things that cost money.

-hit the gym

-change of wardrobe

-change of decoration/furniture ect/renovating of your house


Nofap/sexual discipline
As you see this will take both time and money. That's why i advocate for nofap while doing this. No need to drive yourself crazy by watching porn or fantasies about women that are (stil) out of your league. This will only keep you in this predicament of messing with low hanging fruit, and you need that time to work on yourself!

You wanna cruise towards this new version of yourself. If anything, you should be thrilled and full of positive energy while doing this. This is how you can go through even a lengthy dryspell with yet a big smile on your face.

Nofap isn't mandatory, but will make it easier to pull this off when you're not brain washing yourself that you NEED to feck right now .

Keep imagining your come back.
It will take probably at least a year. (One year of abstinence, to get many years of play).You can be dead broke now, start flipping burgers tomorrow and be this better version of yourself next year. Thats why DISCIPLINE is so important. Dont spend money on things you dont need liKe eatkng out, goig out , bad habits ect.

Always remember that the world , and women with that, will judge you on the PRESENT moment. Nobody cares about yesteryear or the future. Once you KNOW you'll get a new jacket / car / house whatever, you'll wont mind wearing the old one for a little longer. Because there's a clear perspective and even date towards when your new "item "( best version of yourself) will arrive.

So you won't even blame women who act up to you now. You are " going through a transition ". If any (quality) woman believes in you and wants to roll, great. But DO NOT expect this to happen. And you must be at peace with that.

At the end of all this, your smv will have drastically improved. And remember, smv matters a LOT to get your foot in the door. Game will make you own that house.

 

[Gamisch]

A woman on a dating app might and will not even know she swiped left on the dudes left and right on the improved versions of them. Same dudes, different persons.

Funny how the poor versions " feel the need " to smile , while their improved versions are looking with a serious straight face. Because they're ABOUT that life now! No joking around. You get that right?

 

[Dr.Suave]

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A woman on a dating app might and will not even know she swiped left on the dudes left and right on the improved versions of them. Same dudes, different persons.

Funny how the poor versions " feel the need " to smile , while their improved versions are looking with a serious straight face. Because they're ABOUT that life now! No joking around. You get that right?

Are those Black Falcon and Captain Hook!? D@mn!!!! How did they get from "Before" to "After"?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

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A woman on a dating app might and will not even know she swiped left on the dudes left and right on the improved versions of them. Same dudes, different persons.

Funny how the poor versions " feel the need " to smile , while their improved versions are looking with a serious straight face. Because they're ABOUT that life now! No joking around. You get that right?

Women always comment about how I don't smile in my pictures but that never seems to stop them from talking, meeting up, dating and fvcking me.

 

[Gamisch]

Are those Black Falcon and Captain Hook!? D@mn!!!! How did they get from "Before" to "After"?

Yup. I put my hand above half the picture and compared the two pictures. Its baffling.

How they got there? These examples are all about money.

Funny how the black guy actually wears the exact same items: a football jersey and sunglasses. Yet they dont even look like brothers. Same dude.

 

[Gamisch]

Women always comment about how I don't smile in my pictures but that never seems to stop them from talking, meeting up, dating and fvcking me.

Your smile gotta be a weapon. Or I'd say, your haymaker. You can't throw haymakers constantly. Gotta time it well.

 

[soulforge]

Great post.. I Sometimes imagine myself doing some temporary prison time lol

One year prison time.. No chicks, no dating, no wasting/spending money on crap.

Pure focus on improving my physical shape, looking young and eating healthy.. Working on making money, nicer clothes, better car and nice living space.

The loneliness, frustration, it's all temporary.

We all went through a puzzy drought before, till we met our recent ex.. we all had a hottie we broke up with, fell into the mindset that we never meet a hot one again... months down the line, you get another hot one.

My advice is, get yourself out there. Cold approach as much as possible. My city is a playground to me now, where I literally approach 3-4 young hot ones daily.

I bumped into an old friend today who I have not seen in maybe 7-8 years. He is only two years older than me and he looked busted.

He looked chubby, had some front teeth missing (he sounded a little broken) my feeling is, he probably got burned by some toxic woman.

First thing he said to me is this... Damn you are looking good. Your looking lean.. You don't seem to have aged at all..

Hard work in the gym and good nutrition, discipline pays off.

 

[Gamisch]

Great post.. I Sometimes imagine myself doing some temporary prison time lol

One year prison time.. No chicks, no dating, no wasting/spending money on crap.

Pure focus on improving my physical shape, looking young and eating healthy.. Working on making money, nicer clothes, better car and nice living space.

The loneliness, frustration, it's all temporary.

We all went through a puzzy drought before, till we met our recent ex.. we all had a hottie we broke up with, fell into the mindset that we never meet a hot one again... months down the line, you get another hot one.

My advice is, get yourself out there. Cold approach as much as possible. My city is a playground to me now, where I literally approach 3-4 young hot ones daily.

I bumped into an old friend today who I have not seen in maybe 7-8 years. He is only two years older than me and he looked busted.

He looked chubby, had some front teeth missing (he sounded a little broken) my feeling is, he probably got burned by some toxic woman.

First thing he said to me is this... Damn you are looking good. Your looking lean.. You don't seem to have aged at all..

Hard work in the gym and good nutrition, discipline pays off.

Thanks for noticing the idea behind this.

I like the phrase "prison time". Might as well call it "the power chamber".

I also agree you should still run game on women. The only "drawback " for ME is that I am fully aware that the women I want might judge me (as they usually do) on PRESENT Gamisch rather than his in the near future improved version. On the other hand, these improvement come in increments so needles to say I already see some results/ got more women staring at me.

The gym and a MUCH better physique , and a change of wardrobe were my first two major changes. Visible changes so women react differently right away. Another one is going nofap/ practicing sexual discipline . More of mental one that benefits me from the inside out.

The big work is about the mental ,spiritual and financial part. Those 3 cover a LOT of other aspects that hold me from running game how I WANT to run it. Made a career switch , and I work like crazy on changing my habits.

I had a drink with some men my age yesterday. Damn. I am(almost!!) as ripped like a 25 year old athlete, while most are looking like spoiled pudding. On the other hand ,the ones that still had something youthful about them were also still acting and living like degenerate teenagers; hustling , welfare , overdrinking and some even had a scramble at the end..sigh.

Thats our competition if we look at the 35+ league. Its much more intriguing to keep competing with, or for that spot in the top 20 % of men regardless of age.

 

[Gamisch]

Great post.. I Sometimes imagine myself doing some temporary prison time lol

One year prison time.. No chicks, no dating, no wasting/spending money on crap.

Pure focus on improving my physical shape, looking young and eating healthy.. Working on making money, nicer clothes, better car and nice living space.

The loneliness, frustration, it's all temporary.

We all went through a puzzy drought before, till we met our recent ex.. we all had a hottie we broke up with, fell into the mindset that we never meet a hot one again... months down the line, you get another hot one.

My advice is, get yourself out there. Cold approach as much as possible. My city is a playground to me now, where I literally approach 3-4 young hot ones daily.

I bumped into an old friend today who I have not seen in maybe 7-8 years. He is only two years older than me and he looked busted.

He looked chubby, had some front teeth missing (he sounded a little broken) my feeling is, he probably got burned by some toxic woman.

First thing he said to me is this... Damn you are looking good. Your looking lean.. You don't seem to have aged at all..

Hard work in the gym and good nutrition, discipline pays off.

Any man individually knows damn well whether he should or shouldn't take this sabbatical from dating.

I already know that IF I reach my first goals, I will look at it as if I am back on zero and see where I can improve even further.

 

[corrector]

Any man individually knows damn well whether he should or shouldn't take this sabbatical from dating.

I already know that IF I reach my first goals, I will look at it as if I am back on zero and see where I can improve even further.

I think I have been on a 9 year involuntary sabbatical.

 

[Gamisch]

Now this is a a quality piece of writing. Did you write this Gamisch or did you copy and paste? This is what this site used to be about...Real straight to the point manly advice

As you can tell from the long azz post, this ish been on my mind for weeks, perhaps even months.

But I appreciate the compliment a lot!

 

[Gamisch]

I think I have been on a 9 year involuntary sabbatical.

Might as well make it voluntary, BUT not without forming a clear plan.

 

[corrector]

Might as well make it voluntary, BUT not without forming a clear plan.

What makes you think that I can make it voluntary? Sounds like you are implying I'm fakecell. Are you are trying to use some reverse psychololgy here?

 

[Gamisch]

What makes you think that I can make it voluntary? Sounds like you are implying I'm fakecell. Are you are trying to use some reverse psychololgy here?

In a way you are. You decide the effort that Chad puts in to attract women is not something you wanna do as well.

You decided to be who you are. If that's a man whose unattractive, then oke, your choice.

My incel homeboy says he is " quite happy with who he is". I subtly keep pushing him (and you) tho...

At the end prostitution is the oldest job in the world. No man NEEDS to be stay dry. I can feck a hooker for 30/40 euro (hb6-hb9) but decided to stay away from there for now 6 years almost. I am indeed voluntary cell every damn day when i wake up untill I'm not.

 

[manfrombelow]

Exactly. OP. You hit the nail on the head.

I learned this the hard way.

There were periods of time where I sucked at almost every aspect of life: From dating to career (making money)... etc...

That's when I knew I had to, well, "disappear" for a while, I would delete all dating apps, force myself to hit the gym, re-organize my daily schedule, go to sleep and get out of bed earlier, give myself more discipline.. etc...

Normally it would take from half a year to more than a whole year, and when I "came back" I got pvssies as a side effect of a better life.

 

[corrector]

In a way you are. You decide the effort that Chad puts in to attract women is not something you wanna do as well.

Chads do not put in an effort to attract women. Women put in an effort to attract Chad.

You decide to be who you are. If that's a man whose unattractive, then oke, your choice.

I have not decided to be unattractive. Where is the disconnect?

My incel homeboy says he is " quite happy with who he is". I subtly keep pushing him (and you) tho...

Fair enough.

At the end prostitution is the oldest job in the world. No man NEEDS to be stay dry. I can feck a hooker for 30/40 euro (hb6-hb9) but decided to stay away from there for now 6 years almost. I am indeed voluntary cell every damn day when i wake up untill I'm not.

Definitely the idea or concept of it is old as well.

 

[Gamisch]

Chads do not put in an effort to attract women. Women put in an effort to attract Chad.



I have not decided to be unattractive. Where is the disconnect?



Fair enough.



Definitely the idea or concept of it is old as well.

Wrong.

You only notice Chad because he IS Chad NOW. You still believe he got his 6 pack from God.

It takes work to be and stay Chad. Any man can do it with enough willpower. One important even crucial component is knowing exactly what style and demeanor fits you best.

 

[Stoic]

Good post Gamisch.

I try to be true to myself but paradoxically am always reinventing myself.

sometimes I’m business stoic- clean cut,suit and tie for work. Other times, I’m super athletic stoic, always tan at the tennis courts, lean and focused.