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flirt or a subtle move?

LittleBigOne

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Since a few months i have a new colleague and she is a pretty good looking girl to me with Oriental roots. We work seperated in the same building but it happens we chat up during a break or so.
It became clear during a chat we both like cooking and a few days later she gives me recipes (while i didn't asked for them). Last week she asked me if i already tried one of her recipes and then she said 'i expect an invitation from you to come over for diner'. I responded by sure, i will invite you soon but let me practice a bit first.' What do you think, just a flirt or a smart/subtle move from her? Is this a way from her to show interest?
 
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She's interested in you.

A girl doesn't ask for an invitation to your pad for "dinner" if she isn't interested in you.
 

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As far as i know she is semi oriental. She is a not traditional looking oriental girl and she is rather tall (taller then me but i am relative short) and is playing basketball on a high level.
Some extra info, she is having a boyfriend and i have a girlfriend. Does it make the situation different you think?
 
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LittleBigOne said:
Some extra info, she is having a boyfriend and i have a girlfriend. Does it make the situation different you think?
As someone who believes in being faithful to your partner, I would steer clear, but many a man would do the total opposite, so it's down to you.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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If she's a major upgrade invite her over. If it gets close to sex, tell her you have a girl and dramatically pull away kinda like drama squirrel. Leave your girl and go to girlfriend release 2.0. Enjoy your good cooking, gratz man
 

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LittleBigOne said:
Since a few months i have a new colleague and she is a pretty good looking girl to me with Oriental roots. We work seperated in the same building but it happens we chat up during a break or so.
It became clear during a chat we both like cooking and a few days later she gives me recipes (while i didn't asked for them). Last week she asked me if i already tried one of her recipes and then she said 'i expect an invitation from you to come over for diner'. I responded by sure, i will invite you soon but let me practice a bit first.' What do you think, just a flirt or a smart/subtle move from her? Is this a way from her to show interest?
Next time she brings up that dinner invitation tell her to come over and show you how the recipe is done, get her to make her dinner and make moves on her.

At the very least....you have dinner made for you :D

As for your situation you have to play it by ear...she has a boyfriend which could mean she's just friendly. However if she comes over to your place alone and you guys talk about sex and other things the I think it's game on.
 

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does she know you have a girlfriend? i think thats relatively important.

if she knows your in a relationship, i think she might just want more guy friends who her boyfriend wont object to her hanging out with.
 

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Thanks for the responses,

We know from eachother that we are in a relationship. My conclusion after your help: She might be (slightly) attracted to me but, just like me, she is not gonna give up her boyfriend. But she is a girl to keep in mind and might be an option in the future. In the meanwhile i will continue making fun with her, busting her balls and blame her for everything that goes wrong and take a good look in how she responds to me.

Let´s make this thread title different:

Give one example of how a girl made clear she is or was attracted to you.
 
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This really hot girl said to me "Are you going to Y's party on Friday night" and I said "Maybe, I am not sure, I might be going to a club with a few friends" and she said "Well I'm only going to Y's party, if you're going". Low and behold, I got with her at the party.
 

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perseverance said:
This really hot girl said to me "Are you going to Y's party on Friday night" and I said "Maybe, I am not sure, I might be going to a club with a few friends" and she said "Well I'm only going to Y's party, if you're going". Low and behold, I got with her at the party.
Cool! Well, that´s a great example. Please write this one down in my new thread please. And thanks for your response!
 
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