Flaking after first date - When to next

[For_F]

If you've by all accounts i.e. her texting you the next morning saying she had a great night and you yourself had a great night, after the first date you try to set another date up but she doesnt answer your call and doesnt reply to a voice message is it okay to try ringing her a week later or even two weeks?

Obviously could be a million reasons as to why she isnt replying but I don't want to display oneitis but I also had a great time with her.

Suggestions?

 

[Financed]

This just recently happened to me. She texted me that night AND the next morning thanking me, telling me how much fun she had and that we should do it again soon. I waited about five days and called her to set up a second. She responded to my message with a text because she was busy. I waited another day and then just asked her over text. I did make the mistake of asking her if she wanted to meet that day and she declined because of work but didn't counter offer.

I'd give it at least a week and try again. If nothing, NEXT!!

 

[foreverAFC]

This just recently happened to me. She texted me that night AND the next morning thanking me, telling me how much fun she had and that we should do it again soon. I waited about five days and called her to set up a second. She responded to my message with a text because she was busy. I waited another day and then just asked her over text. I did make the mistake of asking her if she wanted to meet that day and she declined because of work but didn't counter offer.

I'd give it at least a week and try again. If nothing, NEXT!!

could it be you waited too long ?

 

[TillTheEndOfTime]

This just recently happened to me. She texted me that night AND the next morning thanking me, telling me how much fun she had and that we should do it again soon. I waited about five days and called her to set up a second. She responded to my message with a text because she was busy. I waited another day and then just asked her over text. I did make the mistake of asking her if she wanted to meet that day and she declined because of work but didn't counter offer.

I'd give it at least a week and try again. If nothing, NEXT!!

No counter offer is pretty much assured that there is no interest. I have tested this fact multiple times.

A girl who is interested will always suggest a different day/time if she really wants to ever see you.

 

[Financed]

could it be you waited too long ?

We went out Thursday and I called again Tuesday. I don't think that's too long.

No counter offer is pretty much assured that there is no interest. I have tested this fact multiple times.

A girl who is interested will always suggest a different day/time if she really wants to ever see you.

That's how I took it. She said she worked late and that she would have to take a rain check... whatever haha

 

[For_F]

Way to hijack my thread ;(

 

[Purefilth]

Way to hijack my thread ;(

aww foreveralone

lol maybe 2-3 days, so she's still got a good feeling from the date, and she's had time to think about/ miss you. 5 days may be a bit too long, but hey - if youre busy and she loses interest over a couple of days, Next anyways - her loss right?

Edit- @For F its up to you when you next her. she could be genuinely busy, since she had a great time, see how long it takes her to initiate contact. Then ask her out again.
OR You could try again in a day or two,
"hey HB, I just saw the funniest thing/saw something that remindeed me of you, blah blah blah - hows your week looking?"
Here you catch her interest with your fun story, and she lets you know what days shes free.

"OK cool, wanna catch a beer/bowling/movie on XYZ at ABC?"

Yes = date
no+counter= date
no+ no counter=Nexxtttt!

 

[DonJuanabe]

5 days is too long. Years ago, before internet dating, it was fine because women had far fewer men asking them out. These days, with online dating, they have plenty of opportunities. So, wait a couple days so they think about you and know you're not too eager, but you also don't let them get swept up by someone else.

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Although it sounds counter intuitive your best strategy at this point is to not contact and wait her out.

From my own Personal Experience:

1. If you leave a message and she doesn't call you back within 2 weeks it's over. Most interested females will call you back within 2-3 days at the most. You're just simpin at this point.

2. If she rejects your date offer and doesn't counter it's over.

3. 5 days is way too long to respond to a text/message. It sounds like you got too caught up in the PUA garbage and outgamed yourself. Any woman with a shred of self respect isn't gonna tolerate that.

 

[Financed]

Although it sounds counter intuitive your best strategy at this point is to not contact and wait her out.

From my own Personal Experience:

1. If you leave a message and she doesn't call you back within 2 weeks it's over. Most interested females will call you back within 2-3 days at the most. You're just simpin at this point.

2. If she rejects your date offer and doesn't counter it's over.

3. 5 days is way too long to respond to a text/message. It sounds like you got too caught up in the PUA garbage and outgamed yourself. Any woman with a shred of self respect isn't gonna tolerate that.

1. She responded to my message with a text not too long after because she was at work. I didn't respond to the text until later the next day.

2. She asked for a rain check. Not really a counter offer, so yeah, I agree with that.

3. I resonded to her texts messages saying I have a good time as well. I was away that weekend so I called on day 4/5. This was the call I got the text response.

I saw this last Saturday and played it cool. She approached me a few times an I kept it fun but didn't chase. She hit me up on Facebook this week too. I'll see her tonight but again I'm just going to play it cool, not hang around her too much or give her too much attention.

 

[frisco]

Financed some women are natural texters, You will have more luck txting her instead of calling. And if she txt you how good of a time she had you deff need to ask her if she has any big plans coming up? and set up a date for when you got back.

Did you even let her Know you where leaving? She may of just assumed you lost interest and interest fizzled for her

 

[Financed]

Financed some women are natural texters, You will have more luck txting her instead of calling. And if she txt you how good of a time she had you deff need to ask her if she has any big plans coming up? and set up a date for when you got back.

Did you even let her Know you where leaving? She may of just assumed you lost interest and interest fizzled for her

When we were out on date one I did mention that I was going away for the weekend. There's another variable involved... I met her through a good mutual friend, who had been informing me of her situation before I even asked her out. She's still in contact with her ex. I figured that I would give it a shot. At this point I can see it'll only be a headache/heartache for me moving forward. We'll remain friends but I'm moving past anything more happening...