Flakes but buys me drinks

XThrax

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I dated a woman who asked me to lunch. After a few times we rescheduled we finally had a drink together. She paid for my drink because of how flaky she was being. So we are about to be on the second date and everything seems good, I do some planning to end the night at my place. She flakes again, but offers again the buy me the next round. At this point I dont want to have another drink. She is probably screwing another guy at my own inconvenience.
So the question is should I delete her number and forget her, or should I raise the chips and tell her she needs to get dirty with me if she wants to continue.
My Johnson administration tell me I have nothing to lose by raising the chips.
 

SeekerOfTheWay

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She’s buying you drinks but wasting your time. What’s more important to you?
 

jaymbrs

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Delete the number. Her buying you 1 drink is to keep your interest, which I think is ridiculous. She should be paying for the whole tab. My time is more valuable than 1 free drink.
 

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Just pull back and keep building the rotation. If she pursues, let her do most of the work. If she doesn't... Well, next.

Sounds like you haven't had enough interaction to determine you should drop her.
 

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Friend zoned. She buys you drinks, that way she doesn’t feel like she “owes” you sex. I dated a woman who told me she would pay for drinks on her dates because she didn’t want the guy to expect sex from her if he bought the drinks. She friend zoned all of the guys she wasn’t sexually attracted. Im not saying this is what’s happening here but sounds a bit like it.
 

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Friend zoned. She buys you drinks, that way she doesn’t feel like she “owes” you sex. I dated a woman who told me she would pay for drinks on her dates because she didn’t want the guy to expect sex from her if he bought the drinks. She friend zoned all of the guys she wasn’t sexually attracted. Im not saying this is what’s happening here but sounds a bit like it.
This. Did not smash = low sex drive

#nextset
 

marmel75

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I dated a woman who asked me to lunch. After a few times we rescheduled we finally had a drink together. She paid for my drink because of how flaky she was being. So we are about to be on the second date and everything seems good, I do some planning to end the night at my place. She flakes again, but offers again the buy me the next round. At this point I dont want to have another drink. She is probably screwing another guy at my own inconvenience.
So the question is should I delete her number and forget her, or should I raise the chips and tell her she needs to get dirty with me if she wants to continue.
My Johnson administration tell me I have nothing to lose by raising the chips.
Tell her no drink, she can make it up to you by cooking you dinner at her place or she can lose your number.

Likely she will lose your number. Doesn't sound interested but doesnt hurt to have some balls.
 

XThrax

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Tell her no drink, she can make it up to you by cooking you dinner at her place or she can lose your number.

Likely she will lose your number. Doesn't sound interested but doesnt hurt to have some balls.
I kind of like this idea but I dont think I will pursue unless she randomly text me again. If she does then she can set up the date.
 
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