Hey guys,
So I've been working on my game, after being utterly terrible. I used to be very overly romantic, and emotional. This backfired a lot, and lately I've been focusing on being quite the opposite. Finally paid off, but now I'm not sure what to do next, as I've never actually succeeded before as sad as that is to say haha.
I met this girl, let's call her N, about two weeks ago on my campus, and we have been meeting almost every day with a third friend for band practices. I've focused on being ****y, very ****y, teasing her about her trying to seduce me, and putting myself up as a player with some outrageous claims, and building kino.
I also always made sure that my claims made her laugh, laughter was the emphasis, not setting myself up in a good light. Last week, I put my arm around her whilst walking her to class, and she put her arm around my waist.Fast forward to Friday night, and we were hanging out chilling as a band throughout the day, me holding her, rubbing her leg etc, but always teasing.
I also bought her a chocolate that I surprised her with after we smoked a joint and had some wine as a group, and when she sat on me to thank me, I knew I was in there. She later told a friend it was a special chocolate that they couldn't have off. That night, after my friend left, I approached her as she was getting changed in her dorm, and we made out quite fiercely, having fun, pushing her against the cupboard and on her roommates bed. I tried to tease her into taking stripping into her underwear, but she wasn't keen, although my hands were pretty much free to roam where they pleased.
I came through the next morning to get my stuff, and we spoke and laughed. I also brought her some breakfast and airtime which she asked for, and I teased her about using me. We also made out some more, and had a nap together in her bed. She was having period pains, so she wasn't in the mood to be active, not that I was going to push her, and so we passed out.
Since then, I added her on facebook ( after a running gag that I dont add my side girls to facebook), and sent her a message saying that if she needed me, which she will, she can contact me there. She replied saying how she loves that I think she is going to need here, to which I replied saying I know she does
I'm seeing her again on Tuesday, for band, and we prob. drinking after that. She earlier started saying I should join them for wine, but she changed her mind saying that she gets abit wild on wine haha.
So my questions guys, is how do I read this and continue, as this is my first success. She doesn't seem the type to just **** around, and frankly, I'm quite keen to actually have a girlfriend, and I do quite like this girl.
Other things, she doesn't do PDA's, which I can't really comment on, and when we have been in private I've made a point of being aggressive in the making out, making her feel wanted and sexual. ( like pulling into her on our last private moment together in the stairwell, which she did and then laughed me off saying we can't do that).
So I'm just going to avoid initiating anything deep, and dramatic, and slowly step up the "romance" side, ( for instance take her on a picnic I've been teasing her about) whilst keeping up the light hearted "player" teasing. We also had a small conversation, in which she said that you wouldn't just get with someone if you didn't consider the possibility of having something further with them, to which I responded I agree, but that intentions are the death of anything fun and that it's better to let dynamics develop organically.
Sorry if this is unnecessarily long, I just feel pretty content with how I played this
So I've been working on my game, after being utterly terrible. I used to be very overly romantic, and emotional. This backfired a lot, and lately I've been focusing on being quite the opposite. Finally paid off, but now I'm not sure what to do next, as I've never actually succeeded before as sad as that is to say haha.
I met this girl, let's call her N, about two weeks ago on my campus, and we have been meeting almost every day with a third friend for band practices. I've focused on being ****y, very ****y, teasing her about her trying to seduce me, and putting myself up as a player with some outrageous claims, and building kino.
I also always made sure that my claims made her laugh, laughter was the emphasis, not setting myself up in a good light. Last week, I put my arm around her whilst walking her to class, and she put her arm around my waist.Fast forward to Friday night, and we were hanging out chilling as a band throughout the day, me holding her, rubbing her leg etc, but always teasing.
I also bought her a chocolate that I surprised her with after we smoked a joint and had some wine as a group, and when she sat on me to thank me, I knew I was in there. She later told a friend it was a special chocolate that they couldn't have off. That night, after my friend left, I approached her as she was getting changed in her dorm, and we made out quite fiercely, having fun, pushing her against the cupboard and on her roommates bed. I tried to tease her into taking stripping into her underwear, but she wasn't keen, although my hands were pretty much free to roam where they pleased.
I came through the next morning to get my stuff, and we spoke and laughed. I also brought her some breakfast and airtime which she asked for, and I teased her about using me. We also made out some more, and had a nap together in her bed. She was having period pains, so she wasn't in the mood to be active, not that I was going to push her, and so we passed out.
Since then, I added her on facebook ( after a running gag that I dont add my side girls to facebook), and sent her a message saying that if she needed me, which she will, she can contact me there. She replied saying how she loves that I think she is going to need here, to which I replied saying I know she does
I'm seeing her again on Tuesday, for band, and we prob. drinking after that. She earlier started saying I should join them for wine, but she changed her mind saying that she gets abit wild on wine haha.
So my questions guys, is how do I read this and continue, as this is my first success. She doesn't seem the type to just **** around, and frankly, I'm quite keen to actually have a girlfriend, and I do quite like this girl.
Other things, she doesn't do PDA's, which I can't really comment on, and when we have been in private I've made a point of being aggressive in the making out, making her feel wanted and sexual. ( like pulling into her on our last private moment together in the stairwell, which she did and then laughed me off saying we can't do that).
So I'm just going to avoid initiating anything deep, and dramatic, and slowly step up the "romance" side, ( for instance take her on a picnic I've been teasing her about) whilst keeping up the light hearted "player" teasing. We also had a small conversation, in which she said that you wouldn't just get with someone if you didn't consider the possibility of having something further with them, to which I responded I agree, but that intentions are the death of anything fun and that it's better to let dynamics develop organically.
Sorry if this is unnecessarily long, I just feel pretty content with how I played this
