battlefield
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I've known this girl for awhile. We share the same circle of friends but we were on opposite sides of the spectrum of our group so we never really got to know each other. Sometimes we'll chat and she's always receptive and I can make her laugh. Lately she's been IMing and texting me about what she's doing, asking me if I'm going. So far I've had other plans that got in the way.
A little background on me - 19 year old virgin. Had one girlfriend in high school that I dated for about 4 months before she dumped me because I was a vag. I feel kind of awkward around girls. I never know what to say. My conversational skills are really lacking but I'm getting better. I have a problem where I get kind of weird once a girl starts showing signs of attraction. I figure I can fix this by going outside of my comfort zone by showing affection. I am good looking, 5'10, in good shape, passive personality. Halfway through the DJ Bible.
So I get this text from her on Wednesday around 8:30pm.
Her: Hey there's a social on the 16. Coming?
Me: Is it in [city]?
Her: Ya. ______ has tickets
Me: A social sounds good but I dunno for sure
Her: Well it should be good
Is there an opening here? I feel that she left the ball (am I imagining the ball?) in my court and when that happens you have to make a play, right?
I think what I should do is call her (avoid text and IM) and say: "Hey ______ it's _______. [insert opener here]" then chat her up for about 1-2 minutes before turning the conversation to the social then being like: "so I wanted to ask you if you could grab some tickets for me and [my friend]" and then from there set up something where we could meet and go together within a small group.
A few questions -
What should I do if I get her voicemail?
How long should I wait to call? She texted me on Wednesday so I'm thinking Monday or Tuesday of the following week.
Things to say/not say
Anything else...
A little background on me - 19 year old virgin. Had one girlfriend in high school that I dated for about 4 months before she dumped me because I was a vag. I feel kind of awkward around girls. I never know what to say. My conversational skills are really lacking but I'm getting better. I have a problem where I get kind of weird once a girl starts showing signs of attraction. I figure I can fix this by going outside of my comfort zone by showing affection. I am good looking, 5'10, in good shape, passive personality. Halfway through the DJ Bible.
So I get this text from her on Wednesday around 8:30pm.
Her: Hey there's a social on the 16. Coming?
Me: Is it in [city]?
Her: Ya. ______ has tickets
Me: A social sounds good but I dunno for sure
Her: Well it should be good
Is there an opening here? I feel that she left the ball (am I imagining the ball?) in my court and when that happens you have to make a play, right?
I think what I should do is call her (avoid text and IM) and say: "Hey ______ it's _______. [insert opener here]" then chat her up for about 1-2 minutes before turning the conversation to the social then being like: "so I wanted to ask you if you could grab some tickets for me and [my friend]" and then from there set up something where we could meet and go together within a small group.
A few questions -
What should I do if I get her voicemail?
How long should I wait to call? She texted me on Wednesday so I'm thinking Monday or Tuesday of the following week.
Things to say/not say
Anything else...