First night out at a club, and the lessons learned...

[sharpshooter]

Wow, I don't know where to begin! What a night.

So out of nowhere tonight I decided to finally go to a club....ALONE. It turned out to be a pretty big mistake, but a lot of lessons were learned. First i'm gonna talk about the overview of the club and then outline all my encounters.



The club. All ages (grr)(16 to 25) so a lot of the girls there were pretty damn immature. From now on i'm only going to over 19 clubs. It was a really small club, at first there were like 5 people on the dance floor. Later on through the night it got pretty packed but still the capacity wasn't that big, maybe like 30 people on the dance floor max. I noticed that in this club it felt like EVERYONE knew everyone. So I really felt out of place the entire night. Everyone was also dancing in groups (and it seemed like they knew each other from the body language and them talking). That was the only thing holding me back from dancing. I just didn't wanna grind up on some chick that might have had a boyfriend there (even though they looked so sexy with the mini skirts and all aaaaaaaahhhhhhhh ).

<Encounter 1>:

I was sitting in the lounge area when I saw these two hotties sit down across from me. Some club manager or something was taking pictures of them, so I walked up to him and told him to let me get in a few of them! So I walk up to one of the girls and said "lemme jump into one of these pics". The girl smiled and moved over so I could sit on the couch. I then motioned and told her that I wanted to sit inbetween both of them! She smiled and said fine. I sat between them, then all of a sudden I had this manly urge to put my arms around both of them! The one chick that was smiling at me before seemed cool with it, but as soon as I put my arm around the other girl, the other girl was like "nah, I can't do this" and pushed my arm off of her. So I ended up getting a pic just sitting between them, no arms around

Right after the picture snapped, the girl that didn't want me to put my arm around her told her friend "let's dance" So it was obvious she wanted to get away from me, and they just bolted out of there.

Mistake made: I think I came on too strong, and was way too over confident/****y. Plus I didn't even get to introduce myself or anything, it was like I just hoped into a pic with them.

<Encounter 2>:

About 20 minutes later I see these two cuties (different girls from the first encounter) sitting on a table. So I walked there and "tried" to introduce myself.......guess what. It was WAY TOO LOUD. I had to put my hand next to their head and scream for them to hear me. That's not a way to mack a chick. It totally threw everything off too, because they were just looking at me in a weird way like what's this guy trying to do. It's not my fault they couldn't hear me. Afterwards I scramed in their ears if they wanted to go outside to talk. I'm pretty sure they heard me say let's go outside to talk, but they still pretended like they couldn't hear. They thought I was some psycho, along with the fact they couldn't hear me half the time.

Mistake made: Pssh, never try macking a chick verbally at a club, especially if it's near the dance floor.

A) They can't hear
B) They really don't care, unless you're on the dance floor!

I learned today that if you're not gonna dance, the chances of picking up a chick at a club are slim to NONE.

<Encounter 3:>

I sat up right next to the dance floor and I noticed something.......this beautiful chick was staring at me...(so I thought)

Yeah she was giving me the eyeball, this "come onto the dancefloor baby and i'll show you a good time" type of look...again, so I thought. This went on for a good 10 minutes. She got off of the dance floor and towards the restroom, so as she left I changed seats and positioned myself to greet her as she returned from the restroom. So she comes back from the restroom and runs towards some guy at the dancefloor....and they started dirty dancing......I then realized that guy was standing behind me when she I thought she was staring me...., so it was him she was staring at all along and giving those looks to....not me

that one sorta hurt lol. Had to take a huge gulp, massaged up my ego from the bruising, and then sucked it up.

<Encounter 4>

Saw a lonely chick sitting near the dance floor, so I proceeded thinking she might wanna talk. She was staring at people dancing the same way I was. Again I had to put my hand to her ear and scream, so it wasn't smooth. I started off by saying "you look bored", she smiled and nodded. I then asked if she was around this area, and she gave a really rude "NO!". A while later I asked if she wanted to go out to talk, she gaveme a straight face and nodded NO.

Mistake made: Again, too close to the dancefloor, what was I thinking trying to verbally mack a chick when she can barely hear me.

Conclusion:

The night ended with these two really horny girls (both with mini skirts as well ) going up on the platform and literally rubbing their asses on these two guys faces. One of the girls started lifting her mini skirt, pulling away her thong and rubbing her *****. I was sitting two feet away and saw her puss. After that every guy who danced near that area got to feel them up. I felt out of place, jealous, and pissed, yet I had the biggest boner. Not a good feeling at all.

However when I walked out of there, I walked out of there with my head held high and a huge smile on my face. I learned a lot tonight. One thing is for sure, the art of clubbing is different from the art of dj'ing. Yes most of the basics are the same of course, but even some master dj's (not saying i'm one of those at all) would never suceed at a club. All you basically have to do is be able to dance. If you're not gonna dance, then it's a waste. I learned that first hand today. The next time I'll be going to a club, it'll be with some friends and I will dance. Clubs aren't for every dj, that is for sure.

Oh and P.S. I went in with my "bushy" brushed up hair style lol. That didn't help either. Althought I was dressed really really sharp.

 

[Spiter]

i hear ya bro, clubbing is another art in itself

While I am not great at it or anything, I've learned some stuff from the times I've gone out. The dancing thing, that is a must. I like to dance around my room to hip hop and watch myself in the mirror, lol. But seriously, with some practice at home, you can get better than you'll ever have to be at a club.

Being alone can create some uncomfortable situations too. It's like, how do you go from standing by yourself looking like a loser to being all up on a girl?? I liked your attempt with getting in the picture. You laid it on the line there, takes a lot of guts. I think the most comfortable way to go to a club would be with another girl or two that you're completely plutonic with, going into the night knowing that you're both looking for other people to hook up with. Two girls would be ideal cuz other chicks wouldn't know what's up with you. You set the social status right there, you have some people to get comfortable dancing with, and then in the middle of it you can drag another girl from the crowd or turn around and start getting all up on some babe.

I give you props though on your attempts, and if all else fails get some alcohol to get you going. You'll never see those people again, hopefully.

 

[fukuy]

good work that you went there by yourself in your first time. I was totally wasted in my first time so i just kept unconsciously hitting on every chick on the floor.

 

[Oxide]

hah, well hey, without experiences you never learn and grow...

Go to Dj bible, scroll down and find the club links. We put a pretty good info about clubs in there, should help you out a bit.


"dancing in clubs is a must" - really? what did you expect, horseback riding?

Get the moves and get in the groove bro, you'll get it.

 

[sharpshooter]

Before going in I honestly thought that there would be a lot of girls on the sides or in the lounge area willing to talk. Boy was I wrong!! It was the complete opposite.

I brought a pen for no reason, I had expected to get 5 numbers atleast. Every convo starts and ends with "I can't hear you"

You could be the slickest of the slick! the most flattering pimp! the most macking mack! but if you can't dance in a club, you're not gonna get ****.


lesson learned, and starting tommorow my dancing shall be improved.

 

[Choke]

You need a wingman and a sack full of bricks. You can whap girls on the head with the bricks, and the you and the wingman can spend the whole night having sex with their unconcious bodies.

 

[Bunk 040]

Playa, never let a broad disrespect you. In all of your encounters them chickens trying to disrespect you.

#1: If a chicken reject you, never let her touch you without calling her on that ****, and not in a flirty way but in a manly way.

#2: If they give you funny looks from jump start, then give them hoes the "finger" or something.

#3: What?? You saw a chicken eyeing you for 10 minutes and you didn't approach. She probably was looking at you for the first 8 minutes, but you "failed" to recognize.

#4: Stop yelling in the damn clubs. If you want to talk to her whisper and blow in her ears. (I swear that **** feels good)

Conclusion: Don't just stand you ass around approaching. You could've been one of the dudes getting lap dances. And stop making the gay excuses for your damn self, "not even master DJ's can succeed in a club". WTF is that??? If he is a DJ he will find a way to succeed, just as you need to hit the same damn club tomorrow and dance with every cute girl you see!

 

[Spiter]

Originally posted by Bunk 040
Playa, never let a broad disrespect you. In all of your encounters them chickens trying to disrespect you.

#1: If a chicken reject you, never let her touch you without calling her on that ****, and not in a flirty way but in a manly way.

#2: If they give you funny looks from jump start, then give them hoes the "finger" or something.

#3: What?? You saw a chicken eyeing you for 10 minutes and you didn't approach. She probably was looking at you for the first 8 minutes, but you "failed" to recognize.

!

Lol, chickens

 

[deeloo]

here my piece of advice: Go to a club with your friends to HAVE FUN, don't go there to hit on chicks, that's sad. Most of the time the chicks are there to have fun too. And please, DONT go by yourself.

 

[Choke]

Drink a little to relax yourself. Once you’re relaxed you can start hitting on the ladies like a pro. You can take one home, bang her like a pro, leave her hanging like a pro, and then turn around and tell her that you're pro-choice. Tell that **** she's not going to have your baby even if you have to use the wire-hanger yourself.

 

[khane9]

I don't think you came on too strong. I don't think going alone was really a big mistake. Biggest mistake I think was staying there too long. You went too early and you stayed for no good reason.

I went out solo last weekend (post in Mature Man forum). I was shot down hard and I wasn't even there to pick up women. I was just chatting people up. Wasn't there for more than an hour and moved on to someplace else.
Took a few tries to find something, and ended up having a good time.

I took on the attitude that if it isn't turning into a good experience, kill it right away, move on and try again. You waste an hour instead of an entire Friday night. You can walk into a place with a clean slate and try again with a lesson you learned but only an hour ago. Don't sit still and let it gell up into one big failure.

 

[Crank_It_Up]

learning to dance is a must... it's like a mating ritual at clubs. Watch girls dance, some are good, some are not, some are very sensual, suggestive, and yet subtle. That's the style you want, smooth, sensual, suggestive, and yet at the same time, subtle. So it looks like you exude sexuality, but are not even trying... it should appear effortless.

Don't worry about getting shot down at clubs, it happens to the best of us, no telling what is going on in the life of that girl at that time. Could be she already has a boyfriend and feels guilty, or perhaps her boyfriend just screwed her over, or she might be simply trying to show off for her friends. There's always the possibility that she just is not attracted to you... no biggie, move on to another girl.

Getting a girl is like getting a job, the more places you apply, the greater your chance of success. Have fun, clubs are great, and yes, you'll see a lot of the same people tend to frequent their favorite clubs, so they tend to know each other somewhat.

 

[sharpshooter]

Originally posted by Bunk 040
Playa, never let a broad disrespect you. In all of your encounters them chickens trying to disrespect you.

#1: If a chicken reject you, never let her touch you without calling her on that ****, and not in a flirty way but in a manly way.

#2: If they give you funny looks from jump start, then give them hoes the "finger" or something.

#3: What?? You saw a chicken eyeing you for 10 minutes and you didn't approach. She probably was looking at you for the first 8 minutes, but you "failed" to recognize.

#4: Stop yelling in the damn clubs. If you want to talk to her whisper and blow in her ears. (I swear that **** feels good)

Conclusion: Don't just stand you ass around approaching. You could've been one of the dudes getting lap dances. And stop making the gay excuses for your damn self, "not even master DJ's can succeed in a club". WTF is that??? If he is a DJ he will find a way to succeed, just as you need to hit the same damn club tomorrow and dance with every cute girl you see!

Number 3) The girl was staring at HIM the entire time, not me. I was so dissillusional that I thought it was me, but when you're sitting down and someone's standing behind you at a distance, it's easy to mistake the person as looking at you.

and also.There's no way they can hear a whisper there trust me!

anyways, i'm over last night already. Learned a ton of lessons.

 

[Trance]

U are taking too many lessons from 1 night, 1 club, and your 1st time. I go clubing 3/4 times a week, to a lot of diferent clubs, and still i feel there is so much to learn about the art of clubing.

 

[sharpshooter]

I didn't say there's no more to learn... when did I ever say that!

I just said I learned a lot

 

[drumr2]

BAH! you wouldn't catch me dead in a club! The last time I went into one, was over 6 years ago, and the experiance was so bad, I was nearly in tears. I'm not a dancer, never will be, so I have no business in a place like that.

This is why I stick to online personals.

To each his own, I guess.

 

[sharpshooter]

Originally posted by drumr2
BAH! you wouldn't catch me dead in a club! The last time I went into one, was over 6 years ago, and the experiance was so bad, I was nearly in tears. I'm not a dancer, never will be, so I have no business in a place like that.

This is why I stick to online personals.

To each his own, I guess.

whoa, nearly in tears??

I wanna hear about this experience, if you don't wanna post it. Give me a private message, i'm curious as to what happened to you that night.

 

[drumr2]

Well, there's always been something about social settings that nearly drives me to tears. I can't totally describe it, but when I'm around lots of people that I don't know who are having the time of their lives, I always feel like a complete waste of oxygen. It immediately puts me into a deep state of depression that takes days or weeks to go away.

When I was a teenager, I would go to church dances (liek all the youths did), and the same things would happen. Only, it's gotten worse over the years, and I've had to seclude myself from these types of setting almost entirely, unless I'm with a bunch of people that I knkow REALLY well.

A club is like a 1000x magnified version of these chruch dances that I would go to.

I can't explain it, maybe it has something to do with growing up as an only-child. Either way, those types of scenarios (beach parties, house parties, clubs, dances, etc.) drive me into a state of depression that literally makes me want to jump off a cliff. Luckily, I've figured out that it's temporary, so I just stay away from social settings anymore. :/

 

[sharpshooter]

whoa. You'll grow out of it man, trust me. Just be there with a friend or two and have a good time. Don't take it too seriously.



life is fun

 

[squirrels]

Encounter 1: Don't feel bad about coming on strong at the club. F it. Next time you may want to put your arms back but not necessarily hug up on the girls, if that's what you did, but hell with it. If she doesn't like to get touched by a man of your caliber, then that's her problem. BTW, you probably should've been out of that shot as soon as it was taken, instead of hanging around. Just make an impression and go. That's "Tao of Steve".

Encounter 2: I hear you completely on this one...it's VERY hard to talk to women in loud places. Get close and just talk into her ear. If you have to SHOUT into her ear, it's not going to work...it's just too loud. And you're right, dancing increases your chances of picking up chicks in a club like, 5-fold or something. (random number I pulled outta my ass, but it seems to fit) If you're gonna approach two chicks at once, unless one of them has already noticed you, it's best to pick up a wingman...cuz eventually you're gonna have to pick one of them, they both know that, and neither wants to be odd-girl-out.

Encounter 3: If you REALLY want to know if the girl is looking at you, change position or walk toward her and see if she keeps staring. If she's still looking at that spot when you move, then she's probably not looking at you.

Best thing to do is go talk to her. If you go up to say hi and she's still staring over where you WERE, then she's probably not after you.

Encounter 4: Like someone said, don't scream in a girl's ear. If you do that, it usually gives the impression that you're drunk. If not that, then it's still ignorant. Get up close to her ear and talk in an "inside voice." If you have to scream, you may as well not talk. Learn to be sparing with words in a club when body language can say just as much.

And don't hit on the bored girls. Chances are they're already in a negative mindset and you'll probably end up doing more damage associating yourself with that boredom than you'll be able to do good by pulling her out of it. Besides, if you're out having a good time, do you really WANT to hang out with bored, depressed girls?

Club screw-ups are funny to reminisce about, though, and you only learn by doing.