first date report questions

[ink_wizard]

Hi ive just recently got back in to the dating game after a nasty break up with the ex and i just have a couple of questions i need directing on....

I have 2 plates spinning at the moment, one of them i went out on a date last night, picked her up and went for a couple of drinks at the bar...all seemed to be going well, we talked about ourselves, laughed alot, lots of eye contact, everytime she'd make jokes she'd always touch my arm or my leg and seemed pretty friendly and interested. At the end of the date i dropped her back off at her house and she told me she had a good time and kissed me on the cheek and told me to keep in touch...

2 hours later she texts me thanking me for a nice night and i replied no worries, had heaps of fun. Then she sent me another text saying "i hope i exceeded expectations" lol and i wrote yes you did because well i liked her but i want more of a FWB with her then a relationship and she said she was in to "casual sex".....

However i have not received a text from her today and im wondering if i should text her something or wait for her to write to me? and do u think she likes me or is just doing this for an ego boost??

 

[ink_wizard]

anyone??

 

[marmel75]

anyone??

Why didn't you kiss her on the lips?

 

[ink_wizard]

Why didn't you kiss her on the lips?

Because she leaned in first and kissed my cheek and then left before i could even sneak another kiss in...

UPDATE though: i gave in and messaged her, and she knows i want to bang her and i asked if she ever would consider having a one night stand with me and she said "maybe" and then i wrote well let me know when your free and we shall...she hasn't replied back yet.....again i dont know if she really wants me or is just using me as an ego stroke...shes hot and she knows it and can land anyone she wants and is also a party chick.....what now?

 

[AlphaNate]

Because she leaned in first and kissed my cheek and then left before i could even sneak another kiss in...

UPDATE though: i gave in and messaged her, and she knows i want to bang her and i asked if she ever would consider having a one night stand with me and she said "maybe" and then i wrote well let me know when your free and we shall...she hasn't replied back yet.....again i dont know if she really wants me or is just using me as an ego stroke...shes hot and she knows it and can land anyone she wants and is also a party chick.....what now?

You may have lost a little of her interest when you asked her for sex...

 

[ink_wizard]

You may have lost a little of her interest when you asked her for sex...

i know but i dont want to be in a "friendzone" with her and im not the type to play bullsh1t games, i wanted to be upfront and tell her what i wanted....
Having said that i do regret mentioning anything now.....any suggestions on what my next step should be??

 

[f283000]

UPDATE though: i gave in and messaged her, and she knows i want to bang her and i asked if she ever would consider having a one night stand with me and she said "maybe" and then i wrote well let me know when your free and we shall...she hasn't replied back yet.....again i dont know if she really wants me or is just using me as an ego stroke...shes hot and she knows it and can land anyone she wants and is also a party chick.....what now?

OUCH! Well good luck with that brother you just made this girl look like a sloot!

The chances of her contacting you are very VERY slim. Her anti-sloot defenses are probably raised to the maximum level now. If her interest level was super high to begin with and she is desperate this is just crazy enough to work although 9 times out of 10 her anti-slut defenses will have raised her alarms too much for you to hear back from her.

You don't avoid the friend zone by telling a woman you don't want to be in the friend zone! What next are you going to get in your knees next time and beg to not get in the friend zone? You do it with your actions.

Are you being sexual with her?
Are you touching her constantly? (kinoing her?)
Are you talking about provocatice subjects such as sex with her to get her mind going?
Are you teasing her? Neging her?
Are you using positive compliments to show sexual interest? ("i think you're damn sexy" as simple as it is works wonders to let a girl know you see her as a sexual being not a friend)

That's how you avoid the friend zone by being a sexual threat.

You don't tell a woman "i want to have a ons with you." If you want to have a ons with a woman invite her for drinks and try working your game it is that simple. A woman is not going to agree to something that will make her feel like a hor but she will have a ons with you like a hor if you push all the right buttons when you go out with her.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

OUCH! Well good luck with that brother you just made this girl look like a sloot!

The chances of her contacting you are very VERY slim. Her anti-sloot defenses are probably raised to the maximum level now. If her interest level was super high to begin with and she is desperate this is just crazy enough to work although 9 times out of 10 her anti-slut defenses will have raised her alarms too much for you to hear back from her.

You don't avoid the friend zone by telling a woman you don't want to be in the friend zone! What next are you going to get in your knees next time and beg to not get in the friend zone? You do it with your actions.

Are you being sexual with her?
Are you touching her constantly? (kinoing her?)
Are you talking about provocatice subjects such as sex with her to get her mind going?
Are you teasing her? Neging her?
Are you using positive compliments to show sexual interest? ("i think you're damn sexy" as simple as it is works wonders to let a girl know you see her as a sexual being not a friend)

That's how you avoid the friend zone by being a sexual threat.

You don't tell a woman "i want to have a ons with you." If you want to have a ons with a woman invite her for drinks and try working your game it is that simple. A woman is not going to agree to something that will make her feel like a hor but she will have a ons with you like a hor if you push all the right buttons when you go out with her.

On the money bro!


I hope the OP is like 18 years old, otherwise this is just flat out sad. I literally did all of this combined when I read his post:


:kick: :woo: :trouble: :crazy: :moon: :cuss:







PIMP

 

[Iceberg]

2 hours later she texts me thanking me for a nice night and i replied no worries, had heaps of fun. Then she sent me another text saying "i hope i exceeded expectations" lol and i wrote yes you did because well i liked her but i want more of a FWB with her then a relationship and she said she was in to "casual sex".....

So this was obviously an OKCupid date.

However i have not received a text from her today and im wondering if i should text her something or wait for her to write to me? and do u think she likes me or is just doing this for an ego boost??

What's the big deal about not receiving a text? Is that what you think modern dating is - You go on one date and then text each other every day?

UPDATE though: i gave in and messaged her, and she knows i want to bang her and i asked if she ever would consider having a one night stand with me and she said "maybe" and then i wrote well let me know when your free and we shall...she hasn't replied back yet.....again i dont know if she really wants me or is just using me as an ego stroke...shes hot and she knows it and can land anyone she wants and is also a party chick.....what now?

Well that was a stupid move. If you want sex, you can get sex without asking for it first. Whether you invite her to your house for dinner, or invite yourself over to her place for a movie...nobody arranges sex by saying, "Hey, want a one night stand?" It takes all the fun and spontaneity out of it.

I'm not saying you ruined yourself. But you're acting desperate. Avoiding the friend zone isnt about begging for one night stands.

 

[AlphaNate]

The best way to learn is to get out there and screw up, and you may have accomplished that here.

If nothing else comes out of it (probably not going to happen now), at least make sure you learned something.