First date - how do you define chemistry? What makes you ask for a second date?

vanballmoos

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Just had my first date in a long time. Gorgeous girl, smart, witty, all that good stuff, but maybe no chemistry? She’s the first person I went out with since my ex, who knocked me off my feet on the first date

How would you define chemistry/spark after a first date?

What makes you want to ask a woman on a second date?

I don’t know, I’ve been out of the game for so long I think I forgot how to date.
 
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Ohso-Phresh

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Just had my first date in a long time. Gorgeous girl, smart, witty, all that good stuff, but maybe no chemistry? She’s the first person I went out with since my ex, who knocked me off my feet on the first date

How would you define chemistry/spark after a first date?

What makes you want to ask a woman on a second date?

I don’t know, I’ve been out of the game for so long I think I forgot how to date.
You two are in your bodies more than your heads.
You two will naturally be incidentally touching each other, there is a sparkle in the eyes, and a ‘feeling’ of ‘electricity’.


You are currently more in your head.

Keep going until you get what you want or get rejected.
 

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Attraction is not a choice. You just know. It’s magnetic and discomforting. Game and experience allow a DJ to be more comfortable with that discomfort. It never goes a way. If you don’t feel at all anxious, the attraction isn’t there.

I continue seeing every chick I want to bang. For me, there are two tiers of attraction; either just enough to bang, or I want to give her babies. I pursue both for sex. I only pursue the latter for LTR.
 

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For me it was always simple. I have to enjoy my time with them and that enjoyment must come EASY.

Anything else will be contrived, forced or a sign of undue compromise in some way.

This could also be said about hanging with a friend.

There’s another aspect your withholding, you coy u
 
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