First date: Day or night?

[Maxtro]

Explain why if you can.

Also, what do you typically do?

 

[Asasione]

Day or night is irrelevant! The main attraction is YOU not the fvcking venue or what time of day or anything. The girl should have a great time because she gets the pleasure of spending time with you no matter if your sitting at a coffee shop or at school chilling on some benches or on a quiet bus with no music. Stop relying on external things to engage women and rely on yourself, if you don't know how then learn how to make everyday conservation about mundane things like what happened to you this week, for example, sound interesting.

 

[Maxtro]

Day or night is irrelevant! The main attraction is YOU not the fvcking venue or what time of day or anything. The girl should have a great time because she gets the pleasure of spending time with you no matter if your sitting at a coffee shop or at school chilling on some benches or on a quiet bus with no music.

Thanks for your input.

I'm personally in the camp that the time of day doesn't matter but I keep hearing that night is best.

When I first spend some time out with a girl I prefer to do it during the day doing something relaxed where we can get to know each other.

 

[runner83]

Day or night is irrelevant! The main attraction is YOU not the fvcking venue or what time of day or anything. The girl should have a great time because she gets the pleasure of spending time with you no matter if your sitting at a coffee shop or at school chilling on some benches or on a quiet bus with no music. Stop relying on external things to engage women and rely on yourself, if you don't know how then learn how to make everyday conservation about mundane things like what happened to you this week, for example, sound interesting.

In theory, that is correct.

But in reality, it doesn't work that way.

You should be setting up the date to give you an advantage. Ask yourself two questions:

1) - how many times have you banged a girl when you've met up with her during the day?

2) - how many times have you banged a girl when you've met up with her during the night?

For me, and probably for most other guys, answer to 2) is about 1000% higher than for 1). The poll results reflect this.

A girl is much more down for fvcking during the night after she is loosened up by a few drinks.

When I first spend some time out with a girl I prefer to do it during the day doing something relaxed where we can get to know each other.

This is completely the wrong mindset. What do you want to do, be friends with this chick or bang her?

This should be rephrased to:

"When I first spend some time out with a girl I prefer to do it during the night doing something active with opportunities for kino, where I can tease her and increase the sexual tension between us to the point that she has to fvck my brains out to relieve it"

 

[Maxtro]

Wow only 13 votes. So nobody else goes on dates?

 

[Masculinity]

Wow only 13 votes. So nobody else goes on dates?

You're never going to get everyone to vote. It is a parts of statistics called response bias. Just like in government census. They did everything in their power and threatened to send people over to your house if you didn't fill it, yet the response rate was 75%.

Your questions should be already answered with the 14 votes you received. Also, seeing a girl at night is kind of common knowledge to most people here so that's why they might have not responded. Stick to night game when you have appointments with women & you can approach anytime day or night.

 

[Badmannaz]

daydate=friendzone

 

[Huffman]

daydate=friendzone

Can you please elaborate?

 

[LoneWolf]

daydate=friendzone

that is such bullsh1t. it's all about what connection you and the girl has that make the date go well. if ur only after sex don't date at all.. go to a night club and find some drunk hoe.

by the way, why do you guys always talk about banging like it's the only mission a guy has when he's seeing a girl. take me for example, sure i like sex but when i go on a date with a girl it's not the first thing on my mind... i actually like getting to know the girl and possibly have a good long relationship with them. sex can come after a few dates or more. i seriously think half the guys on this forum just want to have sex with girls and move on to another girl. the old fashion ways are over.

 

[Maxtro]

This thread makes me wish I could edit polls.

I'd add a "Doesn't matter" option if I could.

 

[Tesl]

This thread makes me wish I could edit polls.

I'd add a "Doesn't matter" option if I could.

I think it matters. Meeting up in the day gives the wrong message right away and shows "I want to be your friend". Don't waste your time with that, take her out for drinks then take her home.

 

[d!ckmojo]

I think it depends.

If you've got serious game, and you can loosen a chick up without the need for a few drinks, day dates can work. It has the advantage of there being less pressure i.e. compared to the traditional dinner then movies, which can get a bit stiff.

However, basically runner83 is right, for us normal guys w/out super high level game skills, night dates are invariably better for getting some sw33t pussay.

 

[Chickfight]

I used to avoid daydates like the plague. It's the logical thing to do.
Then I was forced to see a girl at midday cause it was legitimately the only time that worked.

In the end it was no different than an evening date for me, though I still don't recommend it unless you can find some very quiet places. That's only because if you haven't kissed her yet, it might feel strange to kiss her in front of a bunch of strangers in broad daylight. After the making out has been firmly established though, kissing in public is not really problem for most girls. Personally, I went to an almost empty movie theatre to make out and after that it was all good.

So to summarize my view; going for the day date is fine if you have no choice, but NOT unless you can be virtually alone with her for the make out or HAVE ALREADY made out with her.


Of course thats just a guideline I follow.. To get really good game you have know what the best thing to is, yet not be worried about doing it or not doing it if that makes sense. Don't be afraid to go with your gut instinct sometimes. If it works, you'll learn and internalize it, if it doesn't then it won't really set you back as long as you keep a strong frame and don't sweat it.

Also, though people do look better at night and with alcohol

 

[Maxtro]

Heh, odds are I would not have already made out with her if we're going on our first date. I'm also not looking to score on the first date either. I'd actual rather not do it.

Are night dates really nothing more than, take her to a bar and hope she gets drunk?

 

[Tortendieb]

Nah man, chicks only get drunk if they want to. If you go drinking with a girl, she KNOWS what you intend. If she gets drunk, it means YES PLEASE I WANT IT TOO.

Also do something after the bar. Some people like clubbing but I don't, so billiard can work nicely.

 

[LoneWolf]

I used to avoid daydates like the plague. It's the logical thing to do.
Then I was forced to see a girl at midday cause it was legitimately the only time that worked.

In the end it was no different than an evening date for me, though I still don't recommend it unless you can find some very quiet places. That's only because if you haven't kissed her yet, it might feel strange to kiss her in front of a bunch of strangers in broad daylight. After the making out has been firmly established though, kissing in public is not really problem for most girls. Personally, I went to an almost empty movie theatre to make out and after that it was all good.

So to summarize my view; going for the day date is fine if you have no choice, but NOT unless you can be virtually alone with her for the make out or HAVE ALREADY made out with her.


Of course thats just a guideline I follow.. To get really good game you have know what the best thing to is, yet not be worried about doing it or not doing it if that makes sense. Don't be afraid to go with your gut instinct sometimes. If it works, you'll learn and internalize it, if it doesn't then it won't really set you back as long as you keep a strong frame and don't sweat it.

Also, though people do look better at night and with alcohol

i went on my third date during the day and we made out in public. also at the bus stop infront of everyone. though we had already made out on our previous date. i dont really think day dates matter if you both like each other, honestly. obviously night time is better if you want to get some sex. but meh. all the same to me really. the main thing is to have a good time together.

 

[Maxtro]

So if you don't care about getting sex on the date, does the time of day matter?

As I mentioned before, I'm talking about first dates, and I don't care about getting first date nookie.

 

[LoneWolf]

So if you don't care about getting sex on the date, does the time of day matter?

As I mentioned before, I'm talking about first dates, and I don't care about getting first date nookie.

well when u put it that way you better hope the girl is a skanky hoe to put out on the first date. i would go with night time for THAT kind of date. but if you can actually get a hotel room or take her back home during the day then go for it. again i think it's all about connection and how good the attraction is. but yeah, they would have to be pretty sluttyy. i never try to get sex on a first date because i don't feel comfortable enough for that and i don't respect the girls who put out that fast... but thats just me.

 

[Maxtro]

LoneWolf, I appreciate your posts but you seemed to completely misunderstand my post.

I don't want sex on the first date. I'm not sure how you came to the conclusion that I did.

 

[Kerpal]

People still date?