Finding People on Your Level

[AlwaysLearning]

So I graduated from college in June. Over the summer I went on a couple of trips and I had a girlfriend for a few months. I dumped her but now I'm in a rut. I realized I don't have a close group of friends to party with at home. I spent most of my time with her (BAD IDEA).

I REALLY wanna go out and have crazy party weekends, especially after this break up and all, but hardly have anyone to kick it with back home. Most of my friends aren't on my level when it comes to this sh*t. They aren't as motivated as I am to meet girls and get drunk and get into all sorts of crazy scandalous stuff.

Anyone been in this type of situation? What did you do? I'd appreciate your help. It's almost to the point where I'm thinknig about going to the club alone.

-AL

 

[Desdinova]

It's almost to the point where I'm thinknig about going to the club alone.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with going out solo. In fact, it can be one of the best thing you do! Think about it, you don't have to worry about your friends wanting to go, you don't have to worry if they're showing up. You're there to have a good time, not to be company for your friends. You're in complete control of what you do without dragging the extra weight.

Take these opportunities to work on initiating convo with other people. You'll be able to make some new friends, and meet some new women. Your friends won't be expecting you to stay at the table and just talk about women.

I always found my game at its lowest when I was with friends. My attention was completely devoted to them and not myself.

Give it a try, and make it a point to just have fun! If you're not having fun, you can leave.

 

[AlwaysLearning]

Thanks Des,

Yeah after pondering it for a moment it doesn't seem that bad at all.

After all, if you don't have friends who are into DJing, then they'll just drag you down.

 

[JasonR]

i cant really recall me ever doing well, or even approaching many girls when im with friends.

if you go to the same club fairly often, you'll see the same people there and become club friends, well this happened to me anyway, and these guys had come alone at one point too, and they seem to be far more into DJing, and it was cool having them about.

solo is excellent.

when you meet other like minded people, its even better.

you meet up like every 30 mins or so and report back to each other, it really peps you up, and keeps you talking to women, as its more like a game.

 

[Lan]

I expanded my social circle by going to bars/clubs and meeting random people. Its pretty easy actually. If you are cool with other people, they will be cool to you as well. Just go out and start talking to somone who seems cool to you. Guaranteed you'll meet someone with a large social circle who has access to tight parties.

--Lan

 

[JT47319]

Most AFCs just aren't into "the Scene" so to speak so it's hard to go out with them strictly on a pick up or even socializing basis. Sometimes you can befriend a Natural though and not only is it fun, if fustrating (if he unknowingly ****blocks you), but also educational.

Unfortunately, I've probably winged with close to TWO DOZEN people off of PLAY, PAIR, the DJ boards, etc. and most guys... just can't hack it either thru lack of skill, inner game, or just not being a cool, friendly guy.

No easy solution other than to develop a social circle through multiple avenues and MAYBE picking up a good wing/buddy.

 

[DJD]

Nothing wrong at all in going out alone. I do it all the time, and often prefer doing so to hanging out with friends, some of whom mess up my game by acting like idiots. When people ask if I'm alone or why I'm alone, I sometimes just reply that I was supposed to meet a friend there but he didn't show and is not answering his phone.