Finally got a date... now what?

[amazingswayze]

First, I'll admit that I've never been on a date before. I've had a few experiences with girls but never set up a date. There's this girl in my class I like a bit. I got her number last week. We went through a little beef at first because she had an attitude every time we spoke. I told her I don't put up with that type of behavior. I deactivated her ***** shield. After that occurrence last week, she texted me twice, on two seperate days. I was ready to NEXT her, but this seemed to me like an obvious IOI.
Backstory:
I've been rejected by asking for dates ever since the first time I asked a girl out a few months ago. That hurt a bit. I've been rejected by asking via text every time since. I decided to try something different. This time, (gasp) I would call the girl instead.
Last night, I texted her, "Can you talk right now?" She replies, "As in a vocal conversation?" Then I just called her. It went smoothly, and we made plans for tomorrow. I'm taking us to get empanadas after school tomorrow. I gotta admit, I'm kinda overthinking this. I'm worried about whether or not I should hook up with her. I never scooped a girl up in my car before either. I'm not going to be a nervous wreck, but these are just new experiences. :rock:

This is my mindset; "No matter what happens, It will be a good experience because I'm trying something new." At least this will be a good future reference!

Do you guys have any advice for me on my first ever date?

 

[Tictac]

It will be tough, but try to relax.

Get her to talk about her favorite subject, almost certainly herself.

 

[Obsidian]

You may want to brush up on Anti-Dump's Machine, which is part of the DJ Bible.

 

[bigneil]

Congratulations! Here is my advice:

* If you are old enough, go to a strip bar for lunch tomorrow and hang out with lots of hot naked women. Get a few table dances. This will desensitize you to beautiful women.
* Work out before your date, and (time permitting) eat right for 2-3 days prior. You will win or lose by the smallest detail.
* Be sure to dress sharp. Your watch, belt and shoes should match. Ask girls who are friends advice on your wardrobe.
* PAY for the date! Don't take her to any restaurant where you can't afford the most expensive item.
* Keep the date short - YOU be the one to end it. 2 hours tops.
* Go for the cheek kiss at the end of the date. If she seems to like it, go for a gentle kiss on the lips but no tongue.
* Don't talk about future plans.
* Don't write to her after - SHE should write to thank you.
* Don't tell her it's your first date.
* Hold eye contact.
* Don't smile too much.
* Let her do 70% of the talking.
* Know that this is a learning experience so you can't go wrong.
* Have fun!

To know if the date went well, according to Doc Love:

1) She compliments you.
2) She touches you.
3) She talks about future plans with you.
4) She kisses you goodnight.

3/4 means she likes you.

Good luck and let us know how it went.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Can’t really add much to the advice so far.

For future reference, the phone is for making dates only. No more than 2-3 texts back and forth between times a woman agrees to meet you face to face. And same for number of minutes on the phone; no more than 2-3 minutes chatter, then you say, then ‘OK, I’ve got a few bit and pieces to get on with now. I’ll pick you up tomorrow for xyz/looking forward to our date on Friday’.

Make definite dates, at definite times and places, then boom, you are not to be heard from until the date itself. Always leave her wanting more, whether on the phone or in person. Make your first date no longer than an hour or two.

I like your mindset at the end of the post. If you can truly carry this forward through the rest of your life, and remain relatively independent from the outcomes of your experiences, you’ll be getting laid before you know it.

Having followed some of your posts thus far, start thinking about other objectives in your life and what your real purpose, outside of women. This way, when you do get let down, which will invariably happen, you will have a more resilient mentality.

Also watch that internal monologue EVERY DAY, THROUGHOUT the day. I seem to recall reading something along the lines of ‘All I want is a gf’ the other day. This is not the mindset I mentioned before. The positive mindset concerns you and you alone. Others compliment your life, they are not there to complete it.

 

[amazingswayze]

Field Report

This is my mindset; "No matter what happens, It will be a good experience because I'm trying something new." At least this will be a good future reference!

Well, I'll just post here while it's still fresh in my mind. Today was chill. I was nervous at some points in class today but overall I held the right attitude. When class was over, told the girl to come thru. She went to the bathroom and got changed. I was pretty surprised. We had a normal conversation, went back to my car, and she likes my music. I drove us to empanadas. I kept it as fun as possible, with my positive attitude, and also by playing ping-pong.
We had a good conversation over empanadas, mostly about her. She said I'm mysterious. She also was a little shy about my eye contact. She told me I have nice eyelashes, then she melted a little when she said, "You have suchhhh nice eyeessss". Those compliments were good signs. When we finished, I got up and paid. She tried to pay for herself. Her food cost like less then $5. When I paid, she stuffed money in my pocket. It was more than $5. When we got back to my car, I gave her a kiss on the cheek. She was a little shy but I brushed it off. We went back by her place after, to the mall. She kept insisting that she pay for my gas, and that she had to buy me something at the mall. (She's a giver) I was just like, "you dont owe me anything." Anyways, I walked into GNC to buy some Green Tea Extract and she stepped up and paid for it. I was like okay! If she wants to do all these things for me so be it. Afterwards I did some kino, put my arm around her, told her she's a sweetheart. We walked through the mall for a bit then I told her I had to go. I dropped her off at her house but before, I went to kiss her on the cheek again. She brushed it off but right before she left, she tried giving me a kiss on the cheek. I intercepted it. I thought she was going for my lips. :crackup:

tldr;
I now have the confidence to take any girl on a date. I had fun today. From now on, when I see a girl I like, I will talk to her and get her number. Next time I set up a date, I will call.
Things I should have done differently:
I was too eager for a kiss on the lips. I should hold back a little more and increase sexual tension before going in for a kiss. I should apply kino a bit earlier perhaps, and overwhelm her with my sexual energy. I will learn.
Anyways, it was a totally positive experience. I'm just going to play it cool in school tomorrow and wait a few days before setting up another date. Her mom wants to meet me. So do her friends...

 

[Tictac]

Excellent!

Both the date itself and how you got your confidence up for later.