finally did well for once, not sure if what i plan to do next is correct?

[big weezy]

i finally did a successful pick up the other day in coffee shop, where i saw a HB holding a book while she was waiting for her coffee and asked her what book it was. started chatting a bit, threw in a couple of DHV's a couple of negs etc

she looked like she wanted to leave but actually she just wanted to go outside for a cigarette and invited me to come out with her (i made mistake of saying yes.. but didn't matter) so i did, though i did think at the time i should have something better to do and she was controlling the situation a bit.

anyway, outside while she was smoking i negged her some more, again and again and she responded really well.. she was really dressed down, no make up, in sweat pants etc but she still looked really cute. she kept telling me how she's normally really girly and dressed up and i caught her at the worst time and next time she'd look better for me wanting my approval and validation. i called her trouble.

i do smell an attention wh0re potentially cos she did say 'girls dont like me. i have mainly guy friends' red flag there.

anyway i left it saying i had to go back in, she's leaving soon to go home for the summer so i have a short time window to bang her. she offered me her facebook i said 'i dont use facebook anymore and i wouldn't take your facebook if i did' she then kept trying to agree with me with whatever i said to appease me. i think that's an IOI if she tries to accommodate and changes her opinion to match yours so you approve of her.

anyway i took her number and said that she might not see me anymore if she doesn't return after the summer (me being the prize rather than i wont get to see her anymore)

she had no battery in her phone 'supposedly' so a fake number could have ensued however when i put the number wrong in my phone, she corrected me. also seeing as she's leaving i suggested we swap blackberry pins also, she said she'd text me it later.

anyway about an hour later i just sent a quick text to let her know this was my number and that hopefully next time she would look more girly for me.

she responded really well with a 'hahaha yes wow you saw me in the worst possible situation, what is your whole name? (i like to save full names on my phone '

this is BS really, what she's tryna do is find me on facebook to either a)tell her friends who she met or b)find out more info about me.

i didnt call her out on it but i gave her my first name in full in the 2nd text with something along the lines of 'i expect you to be fully kitted out in your best clothes even if we're only playing golf haha)

she responded with 'hehe yes good idea lol, i mean your last name too but i'll get it next time. my pin: ******'

if i didn't know better i'd have thought she was interested but then again if she's an AW then you cant read into anything.

i sent back: 'ahh you're going to need to work harder to get more info outta me i play high stakes golf, if i win you give me a kiss, if you win i give u a kiss. everyones happy haha, jokes aside i'll take u for a drink once you finish your exams. i'll be in touch'

see here is where i think the power shift occurs or the stakes are raised in regards to who is the prize.

she replies with: 'haha we'll see about that. that's when YOU have to work harder to get the chance to take me out for drinks. u think its that easy? Ha. lol. take care. x'

depending how you read that it could come across a bit challenging but she's trying to establish herself as the prize that i need to work for.

i didn't respond, partly cos i went off to pick up some other girl and it was already 20mins passed by the time i read it (prior to that we were going back and forth 2mins apart like an IM convo)

i felt it appropriate to just not respond at this time and wait till a few days later i.e. today.

now i was thinking of sending her tonight: 'for the record, i thought you looked quite cute in your jogging sweat pants ensemble.'

is this supplicating too much or complimenting her which she doesn't deserve?

im just tryna build more rapport so that when i take her out poss this weekend (i duno when her exams are finished but i know she's leaving next week)

i feel like i need to re-establish to her i am the prize however the moment has passed for a response to the previous text she sent 4 days ago.

 

[Iceberg]

anyway about an hour later i just sent a quick text to let her know this was my number and that hopefully next time she would look more girly for me.

i didn't respond, partly cos i went off to pick up some other girl and it was already 20mins passed by the time i read it (prior to that we were going back and forth 2mins apart like an IM convo)

Here's the thing I don't understand about guys on here.

You go through the "gaming" of chatting a girl up, flirting, negging, etc, etc.....and then once you get the number, you find the need to text right away, and engage in yet another conversation via text.

Why not just leave on a high note? Why not be the cool, funny guy she gave her number to, and then text her (god forbid) a day or two later?

I think the problem is that some of you guys need a constant supply of validation. They can't stand the silence of a girl not talking to them. "Maybe she doesn't like me. Maybe I need to prove myself more....I'll text just one more time!!"

You had enough game to get her number not on a dating site, not on Facebook, but IN PERSON. That takes balls. But still your confidence needs such stroking that you still find a need to text constantly just after meeting the girl.

I mean, this doesn't necessarily kill you with this particular girl. But it's a habit I see that really bothers me. And I think in the long run, you should try to avoid that.

i felt it appropriate to just not respond at this time and wait till a few days later i.e. today.

Smart move.

now i was thinking of sending her tonight: 'for the record, i thought you looked quite cute in your jogging sweat pants ensemble.'

is this supplicating too much or complimenting her which she doesn't deserve?

im just tryna build more rapport so that when i take her out poss this weekend (i duno when her exams are finished but i know she's leaving next week)

i feel like i need to re-establish to her i am the prize however the moment has passed for a response to the previous text she sent 4 days ago.

You're not invading Japan, bro. "Re-establishing blah blah blah." All this thinking and plotting....and reestablishing...jesus...

Just ask her the f**k out.

You: "Hey what's up. Bowling night on Thursday. Winner gets bragging rights. And a beer."

Just some sh*t like that. You don't gotta talk about how cute she was in jogging pants or whatever. Just get to the point. Rapport was established IN PERSON, days ago. Either she liked you and is open to the idea of seeing you again, or she doesn't like you. "Texting game" is not going to trump meeting you in person.

You guys gotta get out of your own head and just have fun with this stuff. Too much strategizing and thinking.

 

[ARrocket]

Don't text her that. Too much texting. Don't contact her again until you're ready to see her. You can re-establish that you're the prize IN PERSON.

To be honest, it sounds like she's gonna flake. Keep us posted though.

 

[Atom Smasher]

Good job, big weezy. Take what Ice says to heart, he's spot on, but I give you props for being in the game and working through it. You're in the process of calibrating yourself, and you will if you ease up a little.

 

[big weezy]

Its more just the 1st text to get her to respond then ask out. I generally prefer to call but recently none of them have picked up or called back, they'd usually text me next day to say sorry for missing the call.

Anyway, maybe it was a bad idea sending the text even though it's a nothing text, however cos of her last text saying that I'm going to need to work harder to take her out it's no surprise she's playing the hard to get game to see how I react or just not interested anymore.

Either way, I've sent it now. If I don't get reply in next few days I'll ask her out for the weekend. (I'd wait longer but she's leavine country for the summer next week so I don't have much time to seal the deal)

What makes you think she'll flake? Maybe cos I didn't explicitly indicate I was asking her out but at same time I didn't friendzone myself by being too nice, just wasn't direct enough.

I'd assume she's playing hard to get cos of what I said setting the precedent with my last text.

 

[Vice]

Very well played. Iceberg said everything that I was thinking.

Cut the texting and you'll be dangerous.

Props, we need more success stories on here.

 

[dereklovesugly]

Slow on the texting. Make sure you call her when setting up the plans. And for god sake, stop thinking and overanalyzing so much. It's hard to do, I know, but just go with the flow.