First of all... if the guy talks sh!t and ONLY challenges you, I would take a little bit of attitude from him cuz he has a reason but would try to find a way to smooth things over WITHOUT APOLOGIZING... say things like:
- whatever man, she's hot of course I'll hit on her, any guy with balls would
- why you being so insecure for?
- if she didn't want me talkign to her she would have said so, it looks like you're the one wiht a problem here buddy
Those are good lines and can be used to take control of the situation without the need of physical contact. We should all take note of them.
However... if he even just pushes you let alone start fighting you... IT'S ON even if you know you'll get ur ass kicked
Part of being a DJ is knowing when to fight and when not to fight, even if the guy tries to provoke you using physical contact you don't not necessarily need to fight back using physical violence yourself. There are times when you need to use your head over you nuts, like when people are trying to put you on the emotional edge by baiting you to fight so they can take control of the situation if/when the cops get involved so you'll be busted instead
of them.
an example:
A while back I had a roommate in college that had a horrible temper with a bad passive/agressive and manipulative personality which I didn't like one bit. I couldn't get rid of the guy or move anywhere else, so I had to room with the moron. He keept up with the passive manipulation for a few weeks and never really fell for it, and he started to realize it wasn't working so one night about midnight I couldn't sleep and was sitting in a chair on the computer checking my e-mail. He starts cussing me out and telling me he was going to hit me or some crap, so I looked him in the eyes and he came over and popped me in the face, he called me a ***** for not hitting him back and I waited calmly for him to go back to bed while he railed on about all the made-up crap on why it was appropiate for him to do that.
As soon as he was asleep again I got pictures of my bloody nose, called the police, and they came and arrested him for "disruption of the public during family dispute" or something like that. He sat for about two weeks in jail with a 7000$ dollar bond, and when he got out I went to the head dean and insisted he move elsewhere, which they did move him.
Some of you might agree with him that I was a ***** for not getting up and kicking his butt for the way he was behaving, but if I had done that I would had also had gone to jail for two weeks and paid a $7000 dollar fine; do I deserve that? No...
Things occured that I wanted:
1. He was out of my hair
2. I no longer had to room with him
3. I was not seen as the bad guy in the end
If I had fought the guy:
1. He tried telling the police that he had shoved me and not hit me, thus attempted to make me look like the bad guy and not him. Causing him to be bloodied or have bruises would have further weakened my credibility.
2. Again, 7000$ dollar fine and two weeks in jail for public disturbance
3. I would have missed classes for two weeks locked up besides him.
4. The Chief of security lived next door at the time and heard everything that went on in the room and was hearing everything that went on, he might have vouched for me that the other guy provoked it, but I still would have gone to jail for "public disturbance"
It all goes back to what happens in the long-run; it's foolish to allow a 5 minute event to wreck you for two weeks or the rest of your life-time when the only pain you have to endure is the results of your own self-control and therefore control of the situation.
And yeah, I could have easily fought the guy if anyone was wondering. I'm not saying anymore.
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