Field Report: Saturday Night Clubbing w/ High IL Girl

[One on One]

I had a pretty good night clubbing last night, but of course the night had its highs and lows. I want to know what you guys think.

BACKGROUND: There's a girl in my summer class that I have detected a high IL in and she has shown interest in hanging out. We both go clubbing and I have her number. Here are some threads on her:

http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=31016
http://www.sosuave.com/vBulletin/showthread.php?s=&threadid=30896


PHONE CALL #1: I'm at my friend's house and we're on our way to the club so I give her a call. I ask her how she's doing and what she's up to for the night. Turns out she's heading to the same club we are so she then tells me to give her a call when we get there and says she'll do the same.

PHONE CALL #2: So, we've been waiting in line for about 15 minutes at the club and are about to get in. I call the girl and she's still looking for parking with her friend. I keep it short and tell her I'll be inside so I probably won't hear her phone so she doesn't call when she arrives. She seems a bit knocked off her pedestal by this. My natural semi-DJ friend tells me I did good, keeping the convo short and not waiting outside the club for her or anything.

MEETING INSIDE: I'm inside and talking to one of my friends and she immediately comes up to me. It's a packed club so I don't know for sure, but I think she came right to me when she got in. She's with her ugly friend. We talk briefly. Then, she walks by me and my friend a minute later and she squeezes my butt as she goes by. Now, I know it's on...time to get rid of this shyness.

MEETING #2: Next time she sees me I'm drinking again and I'm just standing around the dancefloor so she asks what I normally do at the clubs, just stand around and drink. She's got me flustered so I stutter that I'll probably dance later on. Then, I tell her I am going to find one of my friends. I go to another level to get a drink and plan my actions. My semi-DJ friend is giving me advice and telling me to go for it. He suggests that he'll take care of the ugly friend who I can't get rid of.

THE REBOUND: So, now I'm determined to have some balls and prove I'm not one of those losers who stand around and drink at clubs. My friend and I go looking for her. I find her and my friend decides to bail and not take care of the ugly friend, dammit. He told me later he thought I had it all under control. Anyways, I talk to her and she says they're going downstairs where it's packed and they play hip hop and I come with them.

DANCING: It's dark as crap, and you can hardly see, but now I'm dancing with this girl. We're grinding and I'm feeling her stomach under her shirt. At one point, she asks, "is that you?" I tell her, yes, but I don't know if it was my **** she was asking about or just me because it was really dark. We have a good time dancing down there and she seems very interested, sticking her ass into me, etc. Then, it is getting hot so we decide to go back upstairs.

NEXT CONVERSATION: I can't remember the exact sequence of events (wasn't drunk, just a lot happened), but at some point soon after I talked to her again. This is where I really messed up. She asked when I was leaving and I told her then said they were wondering if I wanted to do something afterwards. I accidentally kinda blew them off and said something stupid about me and my friends might go to get a bite. At this point, I was a bit confused, they didn't know my friends and didn't seem interested in hanging out with them, but I didn't want to hang out with her ugly friend either. Anyways, we decide to go back downstairs to the main level and dance some more.

DANCING: We're dancing on the main floor and it's pretty similar to the previous dirty dancing, but this time I decide to try and cop a feel so I'm sliding my hand up her shirt. I get to her bra before she brushes my hand down. It wasn't a rejection I don't think, but more like she was telling me not yet. She is rejecting other guys who approach her so I feel good about that. We soon decide to leave.

OUTSIDE: Even though, I've had a few drinks, I'm still very shy around girls so I'm not doing much talking outside. I'm calling my friends who are still inside because we have to go home. My friends finally come out and join the conversation and we talk for a little while with her and her friend. I don't really say that much. We suggest they come and eat with us, but they say they have no money. Eventually, we part ways and I tell her I'll see her later.

I gotta go to work in a minute, but please give me your advice and analysis on my chances with this girl.

 

[Raoul]

You should have gone for the kiss when you were dancing, NOT tried to cop a feel of her tits. Always go for the kiss when you're grinding or dancing close to her, it seals the deal or at the very least softens her up for more later.

Why didn't you try picking up other girls? Remember you're not there to stand around and drink but to have fun, so picking up other chicks would have made you feel good PLUS made this chick try harder for you. Win-win situation.

Also as a general club tip, try not to drink too much if you're picking up.

Oh and you can "analyse" your own chances with this girl ; just ask her out on a proper date. Don't worry too much about scrutinising everything you did, but go with the flow and listen to your gut. Going out on a proper date is the best way to determine that.

 

[MR_PERFECT]

I think you did good for being shy around women. The way you acted, she probably thinks you're a little aloof, not shy. You have to make sure not to overdue the aloofness. Whenever I'm in a situation like this, I try for a kiss close when possible.

The next thing you have to do is call her and set up a date. Contrary to what people on this site believe, when I call never really matters. Depending on how much she liked being around you, I say she'll call you either tonight or tomorrow anyway. When she calls, don't bring up a date right away, talk to her for a about 10-15 minutes, then ask her out for a day that's convenient for the both of you.

When it's time to kiss her, do NOT ask, just do it! I'm figuring you will be able to get to 2-3 base on the first date.

 

[One on One]

I was thinking hard about going for the kiss, but I decided against it because I wanted to send the impression that I was looking for action and not romance. Maybe it was a bad idea to try and feel the tits, though, but she definitely didn't reject me when I did that. She just slowly brushed my hand down and we kept on dancing.

I will try to pick up other girls now on. This was a major confidence booster since it's the first time in a while I danced with a girl. My fear that a girl would think I'm a horrific dancer is out the window, thank god. I didn't drink that much, just 4 drinks. I was slightly buzzed. I actually think I should have had one more to get in the ideal state.

I agree she probably does think I'm aloof. I was at work for 10 hours today lifeguarding so I had a lot of time to think. I thought about everything and I pretty much have concluded that the rapport I have built with her in our class overshadows any minor mistakes I made. My friend says she's into me and I can see it now too.

I will see this girl in class on Tuesday so I'll be able to tell how she reacts then. I don't really want to ask her out on a real date, but we'll see...maybe go clubbing again.

Now, I have some questions:

1. During Phone Call #1, she asked me to call her back when I got there and she said she'd do the same. I did make this call out of courtesy and kept it brief. Am I supplicating to her by making that 2nd call, was it the right thing? (not that this affected this particular girl in any way)

2. During Next Conversation, she said that she wanted to see if I wanted to hang out with them and get out of there. I'm not an idiot and I know that means I'm in big time, however, I have nowhere to go. I live at my parent's house since I'm just on break from college. Where can I take a girl in this situation when she wants to get private?

Thanks a lot, I'll keep everyone posted!

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I just wanted to add that last night I found that by dancing with a HB and visibly having a good time, your status at the club goes up tremendously! I was too busy focusing on this one girl, but I could have easily gone up to some other chicks. Guys were very respectful of me too. It felt really good!
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[htemorp]

I would have molested her on the dance floor, u know she wants it . As far as leaving with friends to get a bite, I think that was appopriate. If u really want some alone time with this girl, get her out on a date. My answers to your question, 1st, since you guys are meeting at the club, it didn't really matter whether you call or you wait for her to call. The call at that time isn't that big of deal. 2nd, her friend is still there right? if u want alone time, like I said, get her out on a date. And quit being an alcoholic loser that stands there and drink.

 

[One on One]

Originally posted by htemorp
I would have molested her on the dance floor, u know she wants it . As far as leaving with friends to get a bite, I think that was appopriate. If u really want some alone time with this girl, get her out on a date. My answers to your question, 1st, since you guys are meeting at the club, it didn't really matter whether you call or you wait for her to call. The call at that time isn't that big of deal. 2nd, her friend is still there right? if u want alone time, like I said, get her out on a date. And quit being an alcoholic loser that stands there and drink.

Thanks for the advice man...yes, her friend was still there when she said they wanted to hang out. She said "we" wanted to see if I would hang out and I was kinda like WTF, I don't want to hang with your friend. I didn't say that of course. There was no way to get her away from her friend because it was just them two and she's not going to ditch her friend. BTW, I am quitting death row...I got so much confidence dancing now and I know it's how to get action so I retire from death row! I guess I'll ask her on a date soon, I dunno, I don't want anything serious or pressure-filled, you know?