I originally posted this in the Discussion Forum but I wanted to put it over here as well due to no replies lol.
I wanted to get some of you guys' opinions on my situation. I wanted to start this journal, my goals as far as women are concerned include:
1.) Getting a solid LTR
2.) Having a good number of solid pieces on the side
Over the last year, I have been in 4 relationships. While in those relationships I also continued seeing women on the side but these were mostly jump-offs from places like bars, clubs, etc.
For the purpose of time, I want to sum up two of those four relationships and get your opinions on them:
1.) Girl Number One
Duration of relationship: 3 months
So we go out after we first met like about the next day, ended up just basically chilling for a minute and I got her to go back to a hotel with me. She was a virgin at the time. We ended up having sex in the hotel and going out soon afterwards.
I had been very tied down with my work and school at the time, so I kept putting off our dates and time being together. But the times we would see each other, we always had sex.
The relationship ended when she basically said that she got tired of me doing a couple of things that ticked her off:
> cancelling dates or not showing up to take her out (which I understand)
> she suspected I was gay (basically one night I had her toss my salad, I didnt think much of it and she didn't say anything while she was doing it)
> she swore UP AND DOWN I was ****ing every girl in the state. I was in fact cheating on her but she didn't know any of those chicks they were in totally different towns
> she didn't like how I would cuss her out sometimes. Sometimes I would go off on her and just take a bad day at work out on her and just go off
But she ends our relationship and starts dating a guy that's way beneath me in education, income, social level. She said he's more attentive to her and he's not a jerk like I was. I'm just still confused over this because I didn't see myself as being a jerk.
She's not even living a good life and she's off track on accomplishing her goals right now. She dropped out of college and everytime I text her or call her, I can tell that she's still upset with me because when I mention another girl I'm going out with she gets ticked off, but then we will be having a normal convo and about 2 minutes later she goes into how I treated her so bad in teh relationship and how I'm a bad person, etc.
I just try to understand somethings and I was always wondering why this chick acted like this?
2.) Girl Number Two
Duration - Still going on but I want to dump her
So when I meet her, it takes a couple of weeks before we actually go out. We texted alot and she always talked about how busy she was which I understand, we also had a date planned but I stood her up because I couldn't make it.
So when we meet up, we end up spending the night together (no sex but all the rest of the stuff) and she's also a virgin. I would say after we spent the night together, the next day we became official. Fast forward about 3 weeks, she ends up giving it to me even though originally she said she wanted to wait until marriage.
But now here's my question. It seems like every since she gave it up to me, it's become hard to spend time with her. When I text or call she calls or texts back, she always says "she loves me," but she uses alot of excuses to not spend time with me though. I'm not sure if she's scared of being with me because we more than likely will bone again, or what it is. We do spend time together but not as much no more, I also do things to help her out like give her gas money, etc. (I've been doing that since we started dating) and lately, I notice that she will ALWAYS make excuses up to not spend alot of time together or something, but when she needs something like gas or money, etc., for some reason the TIME appears out of nowhere. She has time for me to bring her money, etc., but she seems to have reduced down our quality time.
I really like this girl. She's very hot, very traditional, and I think she's wifey material. She wants me to marry her. But I go off on her because of what I described and she always plays the victim of (why are you being a jerk? why are you cussing at me?) instead of addressing the issue at hand which is WHY I'm going off.
Any suggestions on this? I'm not sure if you guys have experienced this before or might see warning signs or something, thanks.
I wanted to get some of you guys' opinions on my situation. I wanted to start this journal, my goals as far as women are concerned include:
1.) Getting a solid LTR
2.) Having a good number of solid pieces on the side
Over the last year, I have been in 4 relationships. While in those relationships I also continued seeing women on the side but these were mostly jump-offs from places like bars, clubs, etc.
For the purpose of time, I want to sum up two of those four relationships and get your opinions on them:
1.) Girl Number One
Duration of relationship: 3 months
So we go out after we first met like about the next day, ended up just basically chilling for a minute and I got her to go back to a hotel with me. She was a virgin at the time. We ended up having sex in the hotel and going out soon afterwards.
I had been very tied down with my work and school at the time, so I kept putting off our dates and time being together. But the times we would see each other, we always had sex.
The relationship ended when she basically said that she got tired of me doing a couple of things that ticked her off:
> cancelling dates or not showing up to take her out (which I understand)
> she suspected I was gay (basically one night I had her toss my salad, I didnt think much of it and she didn't say anything while she was doing it)
> she swore UP AND DOWN I was ****ing every girl in the state. I was in fact cheating on her but she didn't know any of those chicks they were in totally different towns
> she didn't like how I would cuss her out sometimes. Sometimes I would go off on her and just take a bad day at work out on her and just go off
But she ends our relationship and starts dating a guy that's way beneath me in education, income, social level. She said he's more attentive to her and he's not a jerk like I was. I'm just still confused over this because I didn't see myself as being a jerk.
She's not even living a good life and she's off track on accomplishing her goals right now. She dropped out of college and everytime I text her or call her, I can tell that she's still upset with me because when I mention another girl I'm going out with she gets ticked off, but then we will be having a normal convo and about 2 minutes later she goes into how I treated her so bad in teh relationship and how I'm a bad person, etc.
I just try to understand somethings and I was always wondering why this chick acted like this?
2.) Girl Number Two
Duration - Still going on but I want to dump her
So when I meet her, it takes a couple of weeks before we actually go out. We texted alot and she always talked about how busy she was which I understand, we also had a date planned but I stood her up because I couldn't make it.
So when we meet up, we end up spending the night together (no sex but all the rest of the stuff) and she's also a virgin. I would say after we spent the night together, the next day we became official. Fast forward about 3 weeks, she ends up giving it to me even though originally she said she wanted to wait until marriage.
But now here's my question. It seems like every since she gave it up to me, it's become hard to spend time with her. When I text or call she calls or texts back, she always says "she loves me," but she uses alot of excuses to not spend time with me though. I'm not sure if she's scared of being with me because we more than likely will bone again, or what it is. We do spend time together but not as much no more, I also do things to help her out like give her gas money, etc. (I've been doing that since we started dating) and lately, I notice that she will ALWAYS make excuses up to not spend alot of time together or something, but when she needs something like gas or money, etc., for some reason the TIME appears out of nowhere. She has time for me to bring her money, etc., but she seems to have reduced down our quality time.
I really like this girl. She's very hot, very traditional, and I think she's wifey material. She wants me to marry her. But I go off on her because of what I described and she always plays the victim of (why are you being a jerk? why are you cussing at me?) instead of addressing the issue at hand which is WHY I'm going off.
Any suggestions on this? I'm not sure if you guys have experienced this before or might see warning signs or something, thanks.
. What do you other guys think?
