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Field Report: GAME Triumphs Looks, Assets and Fame

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Lately, I have been more of the Game Denialist than I care to admit. It's the past couple of dates that had me thinking - maybe I'm not good looking enough, or tall enough or showing off my BMW 745i. As indifferent as I am, you always wonder - what if I was born into royalty, bless with good looks and being 6' tall? Wouldn't this 'game' our SoSuave brothers preach be so much easier? Well, guess what? You aren't. You aren't meant to coast through life. You are who you are and THAT is the ultimate test of the Don Juan.

Before I venture any further, I am a below average guy (7 on my best day) and below average in height. The only thing I have going for me is my social skills, or else I'm screwed. It took me years to develop this social charisma and truth be told - that's all I have going for me.

Fast forward to the rooftop lounge, I open up a set, very good conversation until I told them I'd get the vodka if one of them gets the Diet Coke. All of a sudden - B!tch7.5 exclaims - YOU'RE A GUY, YOU SHOULD BE GETTING THE DRINKS FOR US, NOT ASKING US TO GET IT FOR YOU!!!! Oh the fvcking fvcking fvcking fvcking rage of holding back my backhand. This cvnt has got to be sh!tting me. I'm paying for the Grey Goose and you are simply getting the diet coke? And you are fvcking b!tching? (I kid, I smuggled some cheap assburn vodka over in my area) BUT SH!T you think you have a fvckable face and every man must be inferior? Fvck YOU and that scholarship to UCB because of you're a female minority.

I kept my cool and non-chalantly agreed with this cvnt. No need for a scene because I know 90% of the dudes there are looking for every opportunity to kick my ass. I open up another set, one of them had an ACTUAL camera. I jokingly said - you aren't from around her right? Ticket in, HB 5, 6, 7, 7.5 and another guy. My attention was focused on the dude, because he was either a c0ckblock or a friend. I introduced him to an interesting drink and bought it for him. NOW, we are buddy-buddy. I made my exciting introduction and got everyone to like me - or at least like what I had to say. Couple of more drinks, we start dancing. I opened up to the HB 7.5 - 6'2" German chick - wearing something like ballet slippers. This chick was actually 6'2" Yeah, I'm intimidated but I remember my last awful date with a tall chick. Not going to happen twice in my lifetime.

I simply made her qualify herself through a series of questions. During this course, I felt like the zookeeper feeding the sheep. She asked me for my facebook, to which I accused her of being a German spy. Her hamster had enough and she wanted to take a picture with me. When we were posing, I immediately grab the next familiar chick I knew to get into the picture. She is on the left:

http://imgur.com/WnPFAdG

So we sit down and talk some more. Her HB 7 friend comes and joins us with another guy. This guy was about 6'5" I talk to her friend and get submersed into deep conversation. Suddenly 6'2" chick leaves with the guy and I'm alone with her HB7 friend. It must be the ol' switcheroo!
After some conversation, I decide to go for the kiss on the HB 7 friend. She backs away.....Oh My Jesus. She FIRES back - My friend likes you, but do you always kiss strangers? I am a sitting duck, I brush it off the absolute best way I can. I took her from one end of the spectrum to another with stupidly effective retarded questions. Situation diffused.

I meetup with the 6' German chick later and she was still talking to the 6'5" dude. I am going to admit, he was very built and quite attractive (no homo.) The exchanged numbers, and my heart just sank. What do I do? Be like Mohammed and ALALLALALALALALA.

I took the German chick by the hand and led her way from the UFC looking dude that got her number. Fvck it. We ended on the other side of the lounge in a loveseat. I don't know how, I don't know why....I don't know, but this conversation came up:

HB: My friend told me what you tried to do to her
Me: Yeah, she was cute
HB: She is
Me: Do you think I'm cute?
HB: Yes, but I like guys taller than me
Me: You told me I was a crazy one
(Fvck it, I went in for the kiss)
HB kisses me back, makeout....legs intertwined - the fvck just happened?

Some more drinks and I told her friends we would be back to get more liquor in a flask. Club rates are now $20 per shot. We buy a bottle, and head back to my car in the parking garage. I threw the hail mary - "want to hang out for a little bit in my backseat?"

WHAT. THE. FVCK. DID. I. JUST. SAY.

She replied - SURE!

I have my patented retarded face, but with everything on the line, I pressed myself against it. AWKWARD as FVCK. I have a coupe and she way WAYYYYYYYYYYY TOO TALL. Fast forward back to the club.

Closing time, her HB7 friend asks me for my number as I was saying goodbye. She walks with me and gives me a kiss on the lips. I found out earlier that HB 7 and HB 7.5 6 foot Germantic chick are room mates.

Threesome? Will update.
 

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First of all nicely done, it takes skills to control yourself when dealing with unpleasable situation or to defuse situations with high potential for mess, but sincerly a single case doesnt built or prove anything like that game triumphs on look or status.

Anyway I believe the best thing you did was not trying to justify your attempt to kiss her friend, many guys do that kind of mistake and screw up themselves.
 

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BeDJ said:
Lately, I have been more of the Game Denialist than I care to admit. It's the past couple of dates that had me thinking - maybe I'm not good looking enough, or tall enough or showing off my BMW 745i. As indifferent as I am, you always wonder - what if I was born into royalty, bless with good looks and being 6' tall? Wouldn't this 'game' our SoSuave brothers preach be so much easier? Well, guess what? You aren't. You aren't meant to coast through life. You are who you are and THAT is the ultimate test of the Don Juan.

Before I venture any further, I am a below average guy (7 on my best day) and below average in height. The only thing I have going for me is my social skills, or else I'm screwed. It took me years to develop this social charisma and truth be told - that's all I have going for me.

Fast forward to the rooftop lounge, I open up a set, very good conversation until I told them I'd get the vodka if one of them gets the Diet Coke. All of a sudden - B!tch7.5 exclaims - YOU'RE A GUY, YOU SHOULD BE GETTING THE DRINKS FOR US, NOT ASKING US TO GET IT FOR YOU!!!! Oh the fvcking fvcking fvcking fvcking rage of holding back my backhand. This cvnt has got to be sh!tting me. I'm paying for the Grey Goose and you are simply getting the diet coke? And you are fvcking b!tching? (I kid, I smuggled some cheap assburn vodka over in my area) BUT SH!T you think you have a fvckable face and every man must be inferior? Fvck YOU and that scholarship to UCB because of you're a female minority.

I kept my cool and non-chalantly agreed with this cvnt. No need for a scene because I know 90% of the dudes there are looking for every opportunity to kick my ass. I open up another set, one of them had an ACTUAL camera. I jokingly said - you aren't from around her right? Ticket in, HB 5, 6, 7, 7.5 and another guy. My attention was focused on the dude, because he was either a c0ckblock or a friend. I introduced him to an interesting drink and bought it for him. NOW, we are buddy-buddy. I made my exciting introduction and got everyone to like me - or at least like what I had to say. Couple of more drinks, we start dancing. I opened up to the HB 7.5 - 6'2" German chick - wearing something like ballet slippers. This chick was actually 6'2" Yeah, I'm intimidated but I remember my last awful date with a tall chick. Not going to happen twice in my lifetime.

I simply made her qualify herself through a series of questions. During this course, I felt like the zookeeper feeding the sheep. She asked me for my facebook, to which I accused her of being a German spy. Her hamster had enough and she wanted to take a picture with me. When we were posing, I immediately grab the next familiar chick I knew to get into the picture. She is on the left:

http://imgur.com/WnPFAdG

So we sit down and talk some more. Her HB 7 friend comes and joins us with another guy. This guy was about 6'5" I talk to her friend and get submersed into deep conversation. Suddenly 6'2" chick leaves with the guy and I'm alone with her HB7 friend. It must be the ol' switcheroo!
After some conversation, I decide to go for the kiss on the HB 7 friend. She backs away.....Oh My Jesus. She FIRES back - My friend likes you, but do you always kiss strangers? I am a sitting duck, I brush it off the absolute best way I can. I took her from one end of the spectrum to another with stupidly effective retarded questions. Situation diffused.

I meetup with the 6' German chick later and she was still talking to the 6'5" dude. I am going to admit, he was very built and quite attractive (no homo.) The exchanged numbers, and my heart just sank. What do I do? Be like Mohammed and ALALLALALALALALA.

I took the German chick by the hand and led her way from the UFC looking dude that got her number. Fvck it. We ended on the other side of the lounge in a loveseat. I don't know how, I don't know why....I don't know, but this conversation came up:

HB: My friend told me what you tried to do to her
Me: Yeah, she was cute
HB: She is
Me: Do you think I'm cute?
HB: Yes, but I like guys taller than me
Me: You told me I was a crazy one
(Fvck it, I went in for the kiss)
HB kisses me back, makeout....legs intertwined - the fvck just happened?

Some more drinks and I told her friends we would be back to get more liquor in a flask. Club rates are now $20 per shot. We buy a bottle, and head back to my car in the parking garage. I threw the hail mary - "want to hang out for a little bit in my backseat?"

WHAT. THE. FVCK. DID. I. JUST. SAY.

She replied - SURE!

I have my patented retarded face, but with everything on the line, I pressed myself against it. AWKWARD as FVCK. I have a coupe and she way WAYYYYYYYYYYY TOO TALL. Fast forward back to the club.

Closing time, her HB7 friend asks me for my number as I was saying goodbye. She walks with me and gives me a kiss on the lips. I found out earlier that HB 7 and HB 7.5 6 foot Germantic chick are room mates.

Threesome? Will update.
Bro I am repping this post as legendary !!!!!!!
 

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Good job op. But I still wont say game triumphs looks and all that other stuff. They are all apart of a total package. And theres a reason why the most successful guys tend to be good looking and popular.

But either way, you work with what you got, and youll do ok. Keep us posted.
 

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BeDJ said:
HB: My friend told me what you tried to do to her
Me: Yeah, she was cute
HB: She is
Me: Do you think I'm cute?
HB: Yes, but I like guys taller than me
Me: You told me I was a crazy one
(Fvck it, I went in for the kiss)
HB kisses me back, makeout....legs intertwined - the fvck just happened?
Amazing how preselection works isnt it? Even though her friend didnt kiss you....I have no doubt she was into you. Every guy should look to apply this sort of frame instead of the "guys compete for the attention of women". It should be women competing for you.
 
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Better pic:
http://imgur.com/HQhfHjd

I'll bump her up to an HB8 compared to Seabiscuit on the right.

There was no question that the HB7 (not pictured) was into me. After taking the pic and sitting down talking with HB8, she comes over and kneels down in front of us. She had my right leg almost in between hers and put her arms around my knee.
(It was awesome because B!tch7.5's group was looking over and a couple of other chicks I had approached earlier. Their stoic glances from the corner of my eye was my way of giving them a big Fvck You.)
So later HB7 comes back with the tall guy and they sit next to HB8. HB7 and I were talking with HB8 in between. HB 8 was talking to the tall guy with HB 7 in between. HB8 gets up with the tall guy, leaving me alone with HB7. That's when I thought it was the ol' switcheroo. I was brushing her hair, smelling it, massaging her lower back and thighs. She was very responsive and following my lead. That's when I went for the kiss and she backed away. That split second seemed like an eternity, but I was able to recover and shift the conversation elsewhere. At the end of the night, HB7 asked for my number and I had her type it into my phone. She gave her full name and tried to call her number on the spot - to which I immediately cancelled. I didn't want to push my luck too far since I already go a notch. It's an interesting situation to be in, I'll leave it aside for now and deal with it this coming week.

I'm trying to do more night game than the traditional first date approach. I'm still a beginner and learning/applying from past mistakes. My observation is that the men doing night game are OVERLY friendly. Almost subconsciously giving women that pedestal and women have no choice but to simply take it. As mentioned, I am a beginner to night game, but my strategy last night was:

1) Cast the net (approach)
2) If I sniff any kind of interest, Game On
3) Disregard females and be buddy-buddy with the guys
4) Only buy the guys drinks
5) Make women follow you around while dragging her hand
6) When in doubt, just go for it (You'll be doing yourself a favor, regardless of the outcome.)
7) Trial closes - sharing drinks, holding hands, closing the face gap during conversation, length and willingness she gives when whispering in her ear
8) When in doubt, just fvcking do it - Seriously.
 

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Either Im very picky or guys here have way different taste than many guys I know.

OP, the tall chick in that picture Id give a 6.5....and maybe even a 6 given how tall she seems. At least for me personally, I cant rate her as a 7 alongside the cute 7s I normally go for.

Either way Im glad you had a fun night.

Lol @ "seabiscuit" on the right xD

EDIT: On further inspection (girl on the left) Id give her face a 7. I think its the height and the arm size that originally put me off a tad. So she loses some stock for that.
 

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Jaylan said:
Either Im very picky or guys here have way different taste than many guys I know.

OP, the tall chick in that picture Id give a 6.5....and maybe even a 6 given how tall she seems. At least for me personally, I cant rate her as a 7 alongside the cute 7s I normally go for.

Either way Im glad you had a fun night.

Lol @ "seabiscuit" on the right xD

EDIT: On further inspection (girl on the left) Id give her face a 7. I think its the height and the arm size that originally put me off a tad. So she loses some stock for that.
Funny BeDJ was flaming me for not closing 5's (on Pof) yet that's what he is hitting on in the field

:nervous:

I don't have high standards but I wouldn't approach those chicks unless I was drunk at 1:55

To each it's own though....
 

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Brother. Why did you block the picture of yourself?

But anyway good report. You were bold and didn't give a f*ck. Just like ya boy. I don't mess with white girls so I wouldn't even be able to rate those girls. One is straight and the other girl is ugly. But anyway I HATE it when a girl asks me to buy a drink in the club. It makes no sence at all. Whenever they ask I say "I don't know you, why should I buy you a drink?". If I'm feeling a chick and were vibing then I have no problem getting a girl a drink as long as she doesn't ask. I could buy bottles on bottles on bottles if I want to but if you ask me for it then that is a big turnoff.
 
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Jaylan said:
EDIT: On further inspection (girl on the left) Id give her face a 7. I think its the height and the arm size that originally put me off a tad. So she loses some stock for that.
To be honest, I preferred the HB 7 over the tall German chick. HB8 was getting TONS of attention from dudes, she was getting hit on left and right, even when I was with her. She was like the hype and rave of the lounge. I saw that as a challenge to prove something to myself that I can compete with all the other taller and more attractive dudes. Fvck it, why not? Let me give my penis a fighting chance.
PrettyBoyAJ said:
Brother. Why did you block the picture of yourself?
I told you, I'm not a looker. If I posted my face - you'd think this field report was bullsh!t.
 

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A mack should have no shame in his game.
 

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BeDJ said:
I told you, I'm not a looker. If I posted my face - you'd think this field report was bullsh!t.
One thing I really believe about many men here is that yall give yourselves too little credit and give females too much credit.

Im sure youre not as bad as you think. I mean, Ive heard dudes say what youre saying, then when they post pics Im like "bro you could totally pull women just fine". I really do feel many of us overrate women and underrate ourselves.

But I think the reason for all this is how many women overvalue themselves actually. It really skews things and fvcks up a lot of dudes confidence in themselves. Either way man, we arent here to throw shade on a good field report and start judging you by your looks.

Only a couple of posters on this forum sit around and bash another mans looks, but everyone can tell theyre trolls.

Keep us posted bro,
 

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Jaylan said:
One thing I really believe about many men here is that yall give yourselves too little credit and give females too much credit.

Im sure youre not as bad as you think. I mean, Ive heard dudes say what youre saying, then when they post pics Im like "bro you could totally pull women just fine". I really do feel many of us overrate women and underrate ourselves.

But I think the reason for all this is how many women overvalue themselves actually. It really skews things and fvcks up a lot of dudes confidence in themselves.
That's an interesting insight... I'm sure every dude has gone through whether or not he's truly attractive. Only we wouldn't know because we aren't usually attracted to ourselves in the first place.

Thus it creates a sense of low self-esteem when we encounter someone who IS attractive in our own eyes because we don't know whether or not were actually attractive in OUR eyes. It's like our own attraction for another holds us back.
 

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Props bro.

I was never the greatest talker/funny guy, though when i'm on top of my game i'm pretty good. Luckily, i'm fairly attractive and tall however, I get less poon then you. I'm pretty boring in conversation as all i think about is my career and i don't like opening up unless i know the person.

Great to hear your FR but it'd probably be better if you put it in a journal so we could read them consecutively instead of scrounging around.
 

Peace and Quiet

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Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.

This will quickly drive all women away from you.

And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.

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My mom gave me the greatest motivational speech when I was about 6 or 7 years old.
Son, you're not going to grow up tall, handsome or athletic. Just try to fit in and play team sports.
She was right, but I never took her advice.
 

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My dad gave me a similar speech as well when i was about 8 years old.

People will try to bully you and threaten to take your lunch money. Let them know that if they want your lunch money it'll cost them a black eye. They might even try and break your arm, but let them know that it comes at a cost no matter the outcome. Next time they'll decide whether they want a black eye or if they can go get lunch money from someone else.
He was right, and i took his advice. I was never bullied as an Asian kid in school ever after making a few kids cry.
 

Who Dares Win

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Why was he banned what happened? strange that he subscribed in 2004 and disappeared for years only to happear again few months ago.
 
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